What has people got against people with depression? Christians and nonchristians?

Question

I am too scared to go out because I am worried what people will think of me, and I do not go out much.I feel the world hates me. And I know Jesus said if the world hates you it hated me first. I am too scared to go back in to the workforce and do not even like going shopping and travilling on public transport. I feel everyone judges people with depression, and that is kinda low. They have no idea on what their lives were like or is like,.I reakon a lot of people who stirr up people with depression are usally depressed themselves, thats what I think, do you agree? I cannot even go to church without people making fun of you or not talking to you because of your illness, and if they do it is only in pitty. I do not need pitty.Chrisians and non, have you ever had deppression and how have people treated you? They usually treat you as not human.well I say stuff them.What do you think?

Answer 1

Your depression is caused by your self imposed isolation from the world because you think we are all evil!!
Your depresion stems from the fact that you do not have a true friend in this world because you are rude and insulting to everyone you come across,( your previous posts prove this)
Your depression stems from the fact that you are not true to your faith, you only half pretend.
Your depression stems from the fact that you know that your god knows what is in your heart and that scares you to death!
No one can help you because you think everyone is wrong.
Stop being so selfish and concentrate on your family, what about your kids? poor dears...

Answer 2

In all honestly, I think your depression is a direct result of the way you view the world Leanne. You seem to believe (based on your past postings) that humans nature dirty and sick creatures, who are incapable of being "good" in our natural state. Our best-laid plans will go to waste, and all our good intentions will turn to rot and dust. In essence, you seem to believe humans are born worthless. This is not healthy, neither is thinking that life is hell. Your own thoughts are creating the very world which you cannot stand to be a part of.

You also seem to have a persecution complex. Someone not believing in or not wanting to hear about your faith is not persecution. The world doesn't hate you. But if you show hatred towards others, that is what you will get in return.

As for your question about how folks treat people with mental illness, it depends on a bunch of factors. Two main ones being what the illness is and whether or not the person tells everyone they've got one. Some people you'd never know they have something because they take meds for it and don't advertise. You should probably go and see a consoler of some sort to help you work through your problems. Maybe even medication will help.

Answer 3

Are you in counseling for your depression, or seeing any kind of professional about it? If not, I would recommend it. It seems to me like you may have a social anxiety issue as well.

I've suffered with depression off and on and to varying degrees since adolesence. I really get what you're saying about how people treat you. I feel the same way many times. But, we have to remember that depression can cloud our perception of reality (in a sense). I'm not saying that it might not be true, but I know that the disease can make it seem like it is. It's like it causes us to see only the bad things and never even notice the good things.

A few things to consider: Do these people even know that you're depressed? If not, then they can't be treating you badly because of it. If they do know, and they they are doing it because of your depression, then, yeah, stuff them! Another thing might be that people don't approach you for conversation because of how you seem to them. Are you shy? You might seem unapproachable to people. Do you just keep to yourself when you do go places? They are probably thinking that you are the one who doesn't want anything to do with them.

I can say all this because I've told myself it a million times. Quite honestly, it doesn't help me at all most of the time. I still feel the same way around people. But it's something for you to consider.

I think you should see a professional if you don't already. I've had very good luck in the past with medication. Best wishes to you and I hope you feel better soon.

Answer 4

I don't treat people with depression any different except for the fact, I will give them more of my time to try to help them. I think alot of depression is mis-diagnosed and is really just lonliness. R U sure people are making fun of you or is that just how you feel. I think if you went out and did a few things like maybe take some cookies to someone or send out a card to someone then it would help you find a purpose and meaning in someone else's life and it would pull you out of your depression. Do things for others and it will benefit you. There is nothing to be scared or worried about. You can overcome this, there is hope.

Answer 5

yes I've been there. And people do sometimes tend to treat you differently - like "walking on egg shells" around you, or treating you like you have some sort of contagious disease. But i came to realize that they did not mean to be unkind, they just felt helpless and did not know what to do. And I could relate to that, because I did not know what to do either. I stayed on my medication and got out there and got involved. Part of what helped me was getting control of my thoughts. I made myself look at situations, people and interactions from their perspective and not just my own. That takes some effort but it was worth it. Then I began validating my perceptions through communication. I started repeating things back that was said to me only in a different way and ask if I understood what they meant. That helped. And then I made myself ignore any stray looks, or expressions that I normally would have "reacted" to as being bad and try to come up with other reasons for why they looked like that. Maybe they just had a bad day, or something else was on their mind, or 1,001 other things. People don't "hate" you - that's just the mindset of depression. Understanding that goes a long way in controlling it. Redirect your thoughts. Get your mind off of "you" and get involved in Life. It does work and there is hope. Don't give up - it takes time to restructure your thinking. And yes you should get professional help. Don't try to "conquer" this on your own.

Answer 6

It is not important how people have treated you. It is true that within the Christian community some so-called Christians will behave judgmentally and call others all kinds of names and such.
I agree that people who stir others up often have some serious issues going on in their lives. The only way for these problems to be solved is to seek appropriate help.
For those with real mental disorders there is no shame in seeking medical advise. All healing comes through God, whether it is in the realm of miraculous with no visible human works or whether it happens by the hands of a physician. God will use the vessel He chooses.

Answer 7

You are too full of yourself. Quit worrying about how strangers treat you and start treating others better---I can tell by your attitude and words that you don't like people much--so what do you expect from them?
I suffered depression once but I didn't blame other people.
Get medical help, maybe some therapy.
You talk about God but hate people? It's not possible to love God and hate people at the same time.
Your own attitude is causing your depression. Nothing to do with Jesus or how people treated Him. If you look for evil in people, you will certainly find it.
Start counting your blessings and praising God for them. And get medical advice.

Answer 8

I have dysthymia, and have recurrent episodes of clinical depression. Yes, people sometimes treat people with depression poorly. They also treat ugly people, fat people, poor people, and pretty much every other type of people poorly. Your feeling that people are judging you has a lot more to do with your distorted perceptions of peoples' reactions to you than it does with anything they're actually doing.

You have a mental disorder, depression. There is treatment for it, but you have to do it. So you can either deal with it, even though it is very unpleasant, or you can go on blaming other people and be miserable, and possibly die. Go get treatment.

Answer 9

I think you'll find that most people don't mean to treat you poorly. Depression is just outside their realm of experience. They don't have a clue how to help but they want to so they say something, anything, trying to help. Unfortunately it ususally makes things worse.

As so many before have said, Please go to someone with training who can help you. You deserve a life without depression and it is possible for you to have it.

Answer 10

While I have never been diagnosed as being clinically depressed, I've had my moments of emotional depression. It's only human. My sister, however, was diagnosed as being depressed and even had to take medicine for awhile. And I do remember what some people said about her whenever they found out. If they weren't feeling pity and wanting to come over to "cheer" her up they were usually saying things like "she is just acting this way to get attention" or other such nonsense. I know that it hurt her feelings a lot.....even worse when school officials at the time didn't seem to understand and actually got quite a lecture from her doctor when he found out what they had and hadn't been doing (despite his notes, etc). My sister is no longer taking medicine for her depression, but the doctor told her that she may, from time to time, still have physical symptoms....and she does.

However, if there is one thing I'm proud of my sister most it is that she learned a valuable lesson I had been trying to teach her for so long: don't waste time worrying about what other people think.....most of the time, most people are busying just worrying about what you think of them anyways. My sister's attitude completely changed. She wasn't afraid to stand up for herself or even to tell people what she did think of them (as she said "I can help them out by stopping them from worrying so much about what I think of them by just telling them and let them know that I wasn't worrying about what they thought of me and that I don't care what they think of me anyways." As one of my friends, who has also went through depression, said "I can't stop being who I am and the world should just get out of my way. People who make fun of you are insecure about themselves and I don't have time for insecure people." And you're right, when people think you have a "problem" they do tend to stop treating you like a human being. School officials and classmates did that to my sister when she was working through her depression, people do that sometimes when they find out I'm gay or that I'm a practicing Hindu, and I've seen it happen with many of my friends and family. Often times what people identify as a "problem" is nothing more than part of the unique diversity of the person and the "problem" isn't that diverse part of the person but rather people's reactions to it and how people treat them. Depression or otherwise the one thing we all share is our common humanity. Why should we live in this constant fear that others are judging us? Let them, if they truly are and aren't fearing we're judging them, because in the end it doesn't matter anyways. We are who we are and we are all made in the image of God with the divine spark still shining brightly within us all.