Im really shy and everytime i talk to someone i dont know well, my voice is all low and sounds different and they cant really hear me kuz how low it is. if i get really nervous i studder or talk really fast. how do i get over this?
2007-03-09 18:51:05 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey (to the first guy), yea i guess booze does help. my manager at work said she wants to make me manager but im too quiet. she said shes gonna take me out n get me wasted n ****** up so ill not be shy no more lol
2007-03-09 18:55:06 · update #1
Practice breathing and meditation by taking yoga. It'll help u focus on calmness.
2007-03-09 18:53:56 · answer #1 · answered by Huguenot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be the same way when I was younger. I just felt really unsure of myself and worried I would say something really stupid and people would talk about me when I left the room. Well, there is no easy cure for it. I came to a point where I just said, "F*** it!" and said what I wanted to say. If anyone thought I was stupid, than that was okay because I knew that I wasn't. It really was hard and sometimes I still have my shy moments, but confidence is sexy and if you are standing in the corner by yourself, you aren't exuding confidence. If you believe in yourself, than everyone else will believe in you too.
Another thing that really helped...I got a job as a cashier at McDonald's when I was a teenager. The fact that I had to constantly talk to people forced me to face my fear.
2007-03-09 18:59:54 · answer #2 · answered by Lyzz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not being mean but im just trying to help your shyness. Who cares what tohers thinks? They dont care what you do. People need entertainment sometimes, be the one to come out your shell and relax and let it go. Most shy people are insecure, change.
Who cares? People are people, its not like your gonna know them for the rest of ur life right? Dont be...this is what i learned, i got to know a lot of people and i once was shy too but learn to come out my shell and i never knew there was this side to me, im now more outoging and loud. I was one of the shyess perople in my class a couple years ago and what i discovered in life is...its short, dont waste it on the little things when you should worry about the bigger things in life
2007-03-10 07:01:03 · answer #3 · answered by confused aspen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi James R,
You know those Mac Daddys aren't born that way. They had to practice in font of the mirror, and then practice on people. They practiced saying hello to people in the hall, learned people's names, keep eye contact, and smile. They also started noticing people. Complimenting people, saying "That's a cool watch or necklace."
You really have to work on that, and pretty soon, everybody will think that your the fun one to be around. Keep at it, and don't get discouraged. You'll do fine.
Best of luck.
--Rick
2007-03-09 19:29:43 · answer #4 · answered by rickrudge 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing to it James, but it's going to take some work. Force yourself to talk to people in public when you would normally just walk by. Ask how their day is, tell them they look great, comment about the weather, whatever. Just talk to people and smile. You will overcome you shyness enough to be fairly confident in social settings. Nothing to it! Been there!
2007-03-09 18:58:07 · answer #5 · answered by AK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alright, i can talk to anybody and have no problems, whats my secret? to start with, social skills have the word skills in it for a reason. practice talking with people you are standing in line with, cashiers, classmates, employees, anyone you meet that isnt currently talking to anybody. also, keep up with interesting facts to break the ice when meeting people. before too long, you will be able to approach very attractive women with no problem. also, dont tell yourself that you are shy, it only makes you believe that you are.
2007-03-09 18:58:15 · answer #6 · answered by skatesa207 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
..hmmmm..I admit I had been like the both of you..but I overcame it when I became involved in activities..her's how to boost your confidens..
1) always remember that all men are equal..we all own the world,not only by the others
2) you have your right
3)what should you be shy of?ask this..if the reason is your physical self,the hell!!why should you be?you are also created..damn them who thinks they're so high..
4) know your strengh and turn it ino an asset..
50be yourself..you ar free..
5)love what you are
6) if you receive criticism,remember that everyone is being criticized..get your strength from it and stand again..
7) nothing in life is to be feared..it is only to be understood..
there are lots of people who are like you..please be like me and come out of your shell..you are one being like me,like them..we are all the same..stay as happy as you are..
2007-03-09 19:10:49 · answer #7 · answered by lei 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just don't talk to people , I am very shy too , so when you get an answer let me know. Other than that I find booze helps..... ya... so when you get a good answer let me know ;)
2007-03-09 18:53:15 · answer #8 · answered by Joe G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Booze is not going to help.It will just mess you up.Try talking to imaginary people in your room.Then when you really do talk to that person,what you practised in your room will come out.Be confindent in yourself.No one likes people who are shy and have less self-confidence.
2007-03-09 19:39:40 · answer #9 · answered by singler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you cant really get over it but i have a friend who is like you and he is still really cool, if you are shy then you can still be liked you know, just get over it, like get your friends to introduce you to people or join a sport, or you dont even have to talk but you should at least try before you give up forever. . .
2007-03-09 18:55:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋