OK. I am 14 and going to be a father. yes i know im way too young, i need no more lectures believe me ive gotten plenty. My problem is I told my mother and now she wont let me have anytihng to do with my pregnant girlfriend. This cant go on, i need to be there for my girlfriend and our child. What can I do to get her to realise that keeping me away isnt going to help anything?
2007-03-09 18:49:03 · 9 answers · asked by Bo W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
the only thing you can do is talk to your mom and tell her how you feel no so much that you love this girl but that you where man enough to make a child but she should allow you to be man enough to be its father that the time you miss during the pregnancy and the birth and the child's life can not be given back later you made a miss take and you need to stand up to it and face it head on your age does not take away your responsibility's of what you have made
make a plan for the rest of your life and show it to her how you plan on finishing school and getting a job to support your child you have to show her you are thinking about this and taking it seriously
2007-03-09 20:54:15 · answer #1 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a 31 year old woman but I'm totally on your side kid !!! I was 19 when I got pregnant for my daughter and 20 when I had her. Thank God my parents liked my boyfriend { husband now }.But thats a little older .But several friends or just girls I knew got pregnant much sooner and their parents felt much the same as yours. Of course you expect the yelling at first ,as I'm sure you already know.But ,I've always wondered why people don't realize when they calm down that everyone deserves a father. At least a chance at one.Have you ever seen all those pictures of guys hanging up like at the post office called "Dead-Beat" dads wanted for child support and you wonder where they all went ? I don't think it's right either. The so called " damage" is done.Nothing good can come from separation at this point ! I always wonder why more parents don't concentrate on helping their young teens become better fathers { and mothers }.Since you can't turn back time.They wonder why so many young boys grow up to become rapists and\or serial killers.I think it stems from stuff like this. Not your behavior , the ones holding you back!! Not to mention your poor little girlfriend who I'm sure needs you now more than ever.I sure hope her parents are more understandimg and open-minded , so maybe youns can at least have one grown-up on your side.Keep seeing her. No matter what it takes !! Sneak if ya have to but keep trying to work on your mom . Even if it takes until she FINALLY falls in love with that brand new baby !!! And how could she not ? By then things will have had time to set in. Good Luck Sweetie !!!
2007-03-09 19:31:45 · answer #2 · answered by K.Heat 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Buddy, you have much bigger problems than Mom keeping you away from Girlfriend (which she can do for the next 4 years by the way…and if she doesn’t do it, Girlfriend’s parents can do it).
At 14 you are under the age of sexual consent for every single state (and I'm assuming you live in the U.S.) How old is girlfriend? If she’s also 14, you can expect that this situation WILL be investigated. And given the fact that you and her (assuming she’s the ripe old age of 14 too), can’t provide for the child (due to child labor laws--because you are a CHILD--the most you can work is a few hours a day and undoubtedly it would be only minimum wage)…well, what happens might not be what you want to happen.
Frankly, you’ve screwed up enough at this point. I’d suggest you discuss the situation with your parents seek their advice on how to handle it.
2007-03-09 19:37:57 · answer #3 · answered by kp 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I admire the way you think. You're very mature for your age. I know older guys that run away from the responsability. What does your father say? I guess he could convince your mother that you are right. Maybe both families should get together and talk about this situation. Altough you are young (and i asume your girlfriend also is), you should support eachother. good luck ;)
2007-03-09 18:56:29 · answer #4 · answered by yoyo_kiss_2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, well you at least are being a Man about it by standing by the mother to be , with time your mother will respect that from you ( if you stand strong your mother will come around, right now she probably is just trying to have her "child" still be a child rather than an adult 'cause she loves you & thinks it is too soon, and also your child will make her a grandmother which is probably too soon for her!) Good luck ! Stay in school 'cause you've now got a lot of people counting on you. Try to get to Collage if you can!
2007-03-09 19:05:29 · answer #5 · answered by Zoo keeper 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Why your mother feels the way she does is hard to figure. There may be some denial here, but the fact is that your girlfriend needs you as will your child. What is going on with her parents? Do they know and/or do they know what you Mom told you?
2007-03-09 19:06:02 · answer #6 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMFG 14 years old!!!!! im 15 and i haven't even got my 1st kiss!
well have u told ur parents what u told us?
"This cant go on, i need to be there for my girlfriend and our child."
good luck buddy
2007-03-09 18:53:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well done for having the maturity to know that you have responsibilites now.
Have you spoken to your girlfriends parents because they need to know that you have not just abandoned their daughter.
Normally, I would say always obey your parents but in this case i think you need to sneak out of school one day & go visit your girlfriend & her family to tell them what you have told us. Good Luck.
2007-03-09 19:22:09 · answer #8 · answered by monkeyface 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
just be persistant and make sure your girl knows you are there for her no matter what. your mom will eventually come around she is just afraid of being a gramma. just hang in there good luck
2007-03-09 18:54:25 · answer #9 · answered by momdeb69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋