Ok it's this guy that go to the same college as me, I like him so much in fact I think Im falling in love with him...but Im too scared to tell him how I feel about him. I think I'm to old to have a secret crush but I'm really crushing on this guy. This is the first time I've ever fell in love with someone other than my boyfriend...I need help.
2007-03-09 18:14:25 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'm sorry for not making my details clearer...I dont have a boyfriend, i still have feelings for my ex boyfriend but im single...im n love with my secret crush...i think BUT im afraid of rejection so im to scared to ask him or tell him how i really feel. we have been friends for awhile and i think it'll mess up our relationship...i need help
2007-03-10 01:43:01 · update #1
Learn what love is and then get back to me, because I don't think you really know.
TS
2007-03-09 18:17:18 · answer #1 · answered by The Stig 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First you have to stop and reconnect your thoughts. If you are in a relationship, then i seriously think you should stop yourself before ending it, or before you get really deep feelings for "the other guy". I mean, I guess it's okie, i know it happens to many people, so first, you need to put yourself in your boyfriend's shoes, and think how you probably would feel if he were to tell you, or breeak up with you, for the reason you might want to break with him, or that he likes some other girl.
Think before you act, thats all i can say. Thunk about the things you will loose in your current relationship, and what you might gain from ending it. If you really like this other guy, and think you might be falling for him hard, make sure his feelings are returned too, before you go and do something dumb. Again,if you really like him, then go for it, but i seriously recommend you telling your boyfriend on time,before you lie or hurt him even more.
good luck :]
2007-03-10 02:22:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has their dream lover that they admire from a distance. But how do you know whether or not they feel the same unless you go for it. So i say, do something outrageous and tell him. The wors thing that could happen is, he won't "love" you back. But you're still young. and you have a while to think about these things. just try not to jump into it so fast.
Good luck.
=]
2007-03-10 02:19:37 · answer #3 · answered by Sumo Samantha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may think you are too old for this, but I guess you are not. You don't even know him, but you are infatuated. This is an emotional phenomenon that isn't limited to kids. Well, the best thing to do is probably to get acquainted and try to become friends. Then the feelings will either persist or go away. If they stay, by then you will know him well enough to talk about it.
2007-03-10 02:20:15 · answer #4 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I don't think it is love rather it is an emotion b/c if you really love him you would not re grate to leave your friend & go to the other guy but you didn't want to loss both. I think no one can in love with two. So you have to stop and think whether you are falling in love or demanding more!
2007-03-10 02:31:12 · answer #5 · answered by mahider 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are ever to old to have crush. Just tell him how you feel, "It is better to have love and lost, than to never have loved at all." Would you ever be satisfied not knowing?
And it's not a matter of wrong or right--sometimes your heart leads you. Good luck
2007-03-10 02:20:29 · answer #6 · answered by Queen-o-the-Damned 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haveing a crush on one one else is all right but if you act on it like kiss this other guy or your temted to have sex with this other guy it better to break off the relationship you are in, be true to your self if this crush is more then puppy love then it,s time to move on or say go by to your guy friend and stay with your boyfriend unless you realling have real felling for this new guy. my wife has crushes on guys but she and i would never kiss or have sex with some one else, we would brake up befor i or she would cheat on each other. fallow your heart.
2007-03-10 02:24:10 · answer #7 · answered by i,m here if you need to talk. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay true to u boyfriend. try remember the memories u and him went through. think y did u fell in luv with u boy friend in the first place.If u done thinking make a dicision
2007-03-10 02:18:46 · answer #8 · answered by ser7129 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you let him or anyone know how you feel and your still with a boyfriend they won't think to highly of you. It makes you as a girl friend appear scandalist...don't cross that line.
2007-03-10 02:18:28 · answer #9 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of your man first before you make your life harder. If you like someone else, you are not in love with your boyfriend.
2007-03-10 02:37:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋