it was a long time coming, but I am not use to feeling so empty...I kind of feel like I lost my best friend, even though it was really disfunctional, it was all I knew for seven years. I know I have made a step in the right direction, but...I am lonely...any advice?
2007-03-09 17:39:24 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Surround yourself with friends and family. Before you go to bed, think of 3 things you're grateful for, to get your mind off of him.
If it was a long time coming, then maybe you need to find a way to be whole without someone else. You can't depend on someone else to fill the voids, ultimately, the only person that you can depend on is yourself. Its a bit harsh, but true. Once you find that you are OK by yourself, you'll be ready to move on.
2007-03-09 17:45:16 · answer #1 · answered by ellen 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait a minute, you state that is was "dysfunctional" yet you were with the guy for 7 years? That is usually code for a chick is being lied to, abused, or cheated on
Evolution dictated that controlling, lying, cheating seed spreading males - had a survival edge, and in-turn chicks are naturally atracted to such males as they represent genetic immortality to many chicks today carrying all that evolutionary baggage, so accept it as just part of the natural order
I suspect you still got alot of chemistry for this guy - no matter how dysfunctional the relationship was
Now if this is the case (which it may or may not be) the make sure when you find Jerk # 2, don't first do the in-between thing with the monogamous, nondeceptive, non-controllilng "nice guy" -who invariably end up in the trash heap for actually caring about some chick
The point is since the evolutionary baggage can never simply be wished away: skip the rebound "nice guy" relationships, wait for a period of time, and honestly and openly try to find the best jerk you can find, and be ready to work with his flaws, and hope it works out
2007-03-09 20:37:22 · answer #2 · answered by JET99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to feel empty because you've been in a very long relationship. It is part of the normal healing process. Just take it one step at a time. Try to get back on living a normal life and live each day as it comes. Get in touch with old friends. Enjoy the sceneries around you. Get a new haircut. Pamper yourself!
Sooner or later, you'll see the sun shining bright on your window once more. Keep loving yourself and feel beautiful all the more!
2007-03-09 17:49:47 · answer #3 · answered by aLLie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look back and take inventory of what you have learned. Think about the good qualities he had, the bad ones, what kind of guy would you like to be with in the future concerning personality and interests. Then get some support from others, take some time to get to know yourself as a person again, and if you are spiritual or religious, ask the power you believe in to heal you up so you don't stay sad or reject good guys just to get even with all men. Take some time and don't rush into anything - and don't be tempted to get back with him - it won't work. All the best.
2007-03-09 17:48:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand how you feel. I wouldn't know what to do either if I were you. Seven years together is something! If you want to cry, cry your heart out. If you want to be alone , by all mean. The hurt and pain won't heal overnight. Don't pretend that you are ok. But what is important now is that you know you are stepping at the right direction, you are the only one who know what it is. After you pour out all your sadness, don't look back , think of something bright ahead of you, ready to face your new life. Time will heal all wounds.
2007-03-09 17:53:40 · answer #5 · answered by Sabrina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to feel empty and lonely after a long break up. The only cure is time. I suggest to do the things that you really enjoy that you couldn't do while in your relationship. Go out with your friends and meet new people. Do the things that make you happy.
2007-03-09 17:51:57 · answer #6 · answered by armystrong 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of the good things you two had together. Start doing positive things that will keep you busy, and that will give you some new meaning to your single life. Maybe someone better is right around the corner?? If you don't want to jump into another relationship right away then that is understanable. Maybe you could get together with some of your girlfriends more often now, since you are currently single right now?? Good luck to you!
2007-03-09 17:49:35 · answer #7 · answered by poetry_dreamer2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep
first off, everything that you are feeling is NORMAL!
please be sure to make a list of all the reasons you broke up with him
next a list of all the mean things he did to you
READ often
Next tommorrow morning, get out your phone book and start calling no profit agencies.
This would be a great time to visit some women at a homeless shelter and share your gifts with them.
The old african saying 'i never again thought about my sore toe when I met the man with no legs'.....
same story when you help someone else.
GOOD LUCK and hang in there
time heals all wounds (and wounds all heels!)
2007-03-09 17:44:59 · answer #8 · answered by lisa s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 00:29:42 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spend a few nights home snuggled on the couch watching tv and having tons of ice cream and candy then get out and catch up with old friends and family and meet new ppl ...do new things...go on vacation....the empty feeling will go away just giv it time
2007-03-09 17:46:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋