My girlfriend of 4 years and me are in a fight that has been going on for about a week now. I have done everything that she has wanted for me to do except for one thing. She said she was leaving me hints to do it but I did not really pick up on them right away. She says she wants to take 2 or 3 weeks to go out and have time for herself. Is there anything I can do to make this work now and talk to her about that will make her understand that this isnt what I want? Or should I just let her do it and see if she comes back in a couple of weeks?
2007-03-09 17:28:32 · 7 answers · asked by Silas 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Forget her, if she hasn't worked out in 4 years that guys don't understand "hints" that is a bad sign. Also this mind-game about taking a break is intended to make you beg her to stay. She's too high maintenance.
Kick her out, don't let her back no matter what.
2007-03-09 17:31:18 · answer #1 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been here in some ways after a friend moved in on my gf after she & I had an arguement. I stepped out of the picture saying if he made her happier then so be it but he bailed within a year after getting her pregnanted & on a rumor she was cheating. She swears she wasnt frankly i care not especially since its funny that he help her cheat on my but he didnt bother to confirm the cheating on him before bailing. Its ok if he benefits but if not then he can go LOL. Anyways he shares custody of their son but whatever. Back to your question. After he bailed she came back we were friends & while she hinted about getting back together & even how she had been wrong even before I stepped out of the picture I kept it friends. I moved on career & woman wise but remained her friend as best I could & after her last relationship of 5 years & another live in boyfriend she dumped him kicked him out & came back suggesting the same thing how she missed me & hinting that she wanted at least the friendship back if not more & apologied for having not been there for me let alone like I had always been for her. In the end she failed to live up to her promises as I suspected from the start but I admit I did hold some hope that this time & with all that she had been through & going on during the last year or two at the time. That she might have finally found what she wanted in life & that apparently it some how involved being friends with me again even if not more. I just wanted her happy & she often seems unsure of herself especially with all that was going on & maybe your gf is in that spot now. It use to be 50s you had a mid life crisis feeling to old for a job to young to retire type thing & in my friends case her mom died & father was dieing of cancer so soon it would just be her & her kids. Something that we dont expect to deal wtih when your 28 let alone both. SHe knew what she wanted but at times again seemed stuck between two worlds. To old to still run wild & free or party & hit bars or clubs but not old enough really to accept being a home body either. I would try giving her a break after all she set a timeline herself & its not to long just remind her that if she is taking a break then you should be able to also & if you have fling or meet someone new then she cant get mad even if you do get back together or work things out. Then in 3 weeks meet to discuss or update each other & go from there. If she had said I need a break & left it open ended I would say best start trying to move on again you dont have to right away & if she comes back great if not so what. It is possible that she just needs to left of some steam or make sure your the one. I had a friend who's gf had to do that before she could agree to marry him & its worked out beautifully for both...
2007-03-09 17:48:31 · answer #2 · answered by bpeter3196 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should give her some time to think and if she comes back she is really for you, meanwhile she is our in a week or 2 maybe you cant help but miss her but the only way to keep your mind off of her is to find time for yourself also do things that you never done before the new things that you like to explore on your life, things you never or planned before that had no time. this is the time you also use your free time.
but if she doesnt come back to you hopefully that my not happen to you dont worry there are many fish in the sea she is not the only fish you know,if you know what i mean...
2007-03-09 17:40:53 · answer #3 · answered by jackusher16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like she wanted to take a break for a min. Maybe she feel like its time for her to think about being by herself for a while and not being in a relationship. She probably love you but she just need to have some thinking to do.
Good luck and stay strong. If you guys really meant to be..... love will find its way.
2007-03-09 17:33:28 · answer #4 · answered by honeyy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A couple of weeks? That doesn't sound good. I think she's going to try getting some from someone else.
2007-03-09 17:32:44 · answer #5 · answered by m k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should let her do it and see if she comes back..give her space if that's what she wanted for awhile. and while she's doing it....make yourself way better and she's gonna go back to you immediately
2007-03-09 17:32:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HER i don't know i think we should break up peace
2007-03-09 17:39:36 · answer #7 · answered by wierd dork = me!!!!!!! yay!!!!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋