Three people wedding; priest, groom and me. Is it OK? Had anyone done it before?

Question

To make my story short I'll just say that this is my dream , to have a wedding with only priest, groom and me present.
My mom is not ok with this idea because she cann't imagine my weeding without her.
My significan other, though, is perfectly fine with it.
So my question is .
How do you think should I go for my dream?
Had anyone done it before?
And the third question is can I do it? Because I heard that witnesses are mandatory.
Thank's everyone!

Answer 1

Witnesses are mandatory. Why don't you want to share your day with others?

Answer 2

Talking from an Australian point of view yes you will require 2 witnessess (18+years old). They witness your signing of the legal documentation at the wedding. I have conducted a few weddings with just 5 persons present. I think that will pretty well be the limit throughout the world. I know that in some countries the celebrant or the venue do come up with the required witnesses. You would need to check this requirement in your local area.

Answer 3

YES... YES... YES You can do exactly what you're dreaming of - just you, the lucky groom and the priest in the ceremonial circle (the equivalent of an altar)...makes your wedding truly personal and private - exactly how you like it!

BUT, some 50 yards away should be your mom (teary-eyed, I'm sure), your close, close, close friends and the groom's family - all quietly witnessing the glorious union. AND make sure you give strict instructions (or strong request) that they should NOT rush to the ceremonial circle after the pronouncement......instead, you and the groom should be the ones to walk towards them, at your own sweet time and pace...dramatic, huh?

And keep that photographer away too...tell him to use that long-range lens (or whatever they call that thing).

I suppose you'd want to write your own vows too...go for it...nowhere it is written that you have to use the traditional text.

Of course, it's best to check with the officiating priest if all these are okay...altho, I'm sure it is!

Your wedding is gonna be beautiful.....Best wishes and congratulations!

Answer 4

You cannot legally have only 3 people present. You will need two witnesses. The officiant may be able to provide them if needed, but they will still be two additional people that you werent counting on. So chose your closest friend or family member and he should chose his (or have the officiant provide witnesses, but ask them about this before, dont just spring it on them) and have the smallest wedding you can have if that is what you want. Dont let anyone ruin your dreams.

Answer 5

it probably depends on your state as far as legally is it ok. i would go for it if that's your dream. your witness could be the person playing the organ. as far as your mother being upset explain to her that she can still help with planning a reception or celebration party of some sort but remind her it's your wedding and your choice on how to do it. or let her help plan your honey moon or something so she feels included in something. your first step is to find out the laws in your state as far as the witness thing. after that find your priest and set a date with him. most of them will want to do premarital counseling. then if you are required a witness have someone there to play the organ when you walk down the aisle and that will take care of your witness trust me you won't notice they're even there. they're all the way in the back. anyway best of luck and congratulations and i'm sure you'll have to put up with your mom's disappointment for awhile but it is your wedding and she has to respect that

Answer 6

well, i can see your point i guess, but as a mom i'd be torn to pieces if my daughter did that to me. at least let your mom go..

I'm not for formal weddings, it is a waist of good money for the couple to have to live on. Makes no sense to me. But a small wedding with really close family isn't much to ask for.
I had mine in my aunts home with about 15 guests. Nothing much but very nice and memoriable.

But then again it's your dream wedding... I must say not much of a dream.. but it is yours.. You can do whatever you want to do. But leaving your mom out. Gosh.. what a heart break..
I hope your daughter doesn't do that to you...

Answer 7

The Code of Canon Law says that two adult witnesses, in addition to the priest, are required for a valid marriage.

It is recommended (but not required) that witnesses be
+ Men and women who will take a personal interest in the spouses and aid them by advice to live the marriage vows
+ Practicing Christians whose own style of life can be an example to the new spouses

With love in Christ.

Answer 8

Witnesses are mandatory-two of them, to sign the marriage license after the ceremony. You could have your mom as one of the witnesses, that way she would be attending the wedding. And then one more adult 18 or older as the other witness. Take care.

Answer 9

I say you can do it. Until like a week before my wedding, we were going alone. My husband was actually the one that told the parents. Go to TN and get married. They have those types of weddings all the time. As a matter of fact, none of our guests served as witnesses... just the staff at the Chapel. If you really only want the two of you... go for it. It's your wedding.

Answer 10

you have to have two witnesses (usually best man/maid of honor) sign your certificate or it doesn't count. You may want to go get officially married at the courthouse by a judge first, then have your dream wedding where ever you want. Plus side to that, your already married, so you can have anyone you want read the vows ( that might ake your mom happier).

Good luck!

Answer 11

You can go to las vegas and get married your going to need witnesses. You cant get away with out having witnesses or it wont work. Bring your mother and his or some close friends they dont have to around you all the time just enought time to watch yous say i do and sign the papers than thats it.