Crystal and I began dating 4 months ago when she text messaged me she was single. I was very blessed to have her in my life because my fiance had left a month ealier, and Crystal's love offering seemed heaven sent. The problem started two months ago when a job promotion forced me not to be able to respond to her frequent "text messages." Despite my pleas for her to stop sending me messages, her messages began to get increasingly probing, jealous, frequent, and rude. Then starting a month ago, she began to threaten, via text message, that our relationship would be over if I didn't message her. So last week, feeling threatened, by her 3rd breakup threat, I dumped her via text message. Since then she's called, sent me about 10 messages per day, claiming I had no grounds to "dump" her. I haven't responded yet, but in reading her messages, I'm doubting my decision to dump her since she was never as nasty in person, as she was with her messages. Should I accept her back?
2007-03-09 17:23:22 · 8 answers · asked by BS2NITE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Regardless of how she may have seemed in person, it looks to me like she is very obsessive!! You DO NOT want that clouding your life. You dont need personal problems threatening your job! If she can't understand that you are at work, then she is immature, and a little nutty. You cant tell someone they "don't have grounds to dump" them If you decide its over, then its over. lol. I think you decided right, you dont need this crap! You deserve someone who will respect you and is understanding of things that are important to you. A job promotion is a wonderful thing! Congratulations! Don't let this lost relationship jeopardize your future. Good luck! I hope everything works out for you. =]
2007-03-09 18:24:21 · answer #1 · answered by Lauren 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be unwise. You dumped her for a reason- she was jealous, threatening, pushy, and rude!
Just because she only did it in text messages and not in person doesn't make it ok. What it means is that she feels safe showing her TRUE colors via text.
Do you want to date someone with all the characteristics you mentioned? She won't change. If anything, in time she will get worse and also start showing her true colors in person. I wouldn't want to be on the bad end of a jealous rant!
Don't get too set on the idea that she was heaven sent. The reason for your relationship could be that you needed to learn from her. I've found that in time, almost everything has happened for a reason in some odd sort of way.
Accept that you didn't like her behavior and you don't want that in a relationship.
There are more fish in the sea.
2007-03-10 01:30:56 · answer #2 · answered by Erin H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You relationship should not be based on text messages. I understand you being lonely and such after your fiancee left, but to jump into another relationship is not the best move. Not only that but she seems really needy and if she can't accept that you have to work and you can not be at her every whim then she needs to grow up some.
In my personal opinion I wouldn't take her back, I don't see her changing, and yes you had every right to dump her, If you want to get back with her then you need to sit her down and explain to her that you work and that you can't be texting all the time to her. If she is understanding and starts to limit her messages then go for it and get back with her.
2007-03-10 01:27:48 · answer #3 · answered by Hawaiisweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding? Do you really want to go back to that? This lady has issues, and if you allow that to continue, eventually her issues will become your issues. Text messaging is just the start. If she's nasty with the messages, it's only a matter of time before she's screaming at you.
Run. I mean it. Change your number and run.
2007-03-10 01:29:41 · answer #4 · answered by tranquility_base3@yahoo.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should find a time to really talk to her. It seems like there might be a misunderstanding between the two of you, and I think things will probabaly work out better in a nice, civilized talk. If you really love her and want to be with her, then I say sure. However, I wouldnt want a mate who threatens our relationship. Some people dont mind it. Its really up to you and how you feel about her.
2007-03-10 01:28:36 · answer #5 · answered by skinny piggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would not get back with her if you feel that this is not the right
thing for you. it will only be the same problems, but i would
have told her in person how you felt. that would been the right
then the to text her. but dont do anything that you will regret
down the road.
2007-03-10 01:28:45 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO NO NO
This is not going to be one of those cases in which you explain to her how to behave better, and she says "Oh" and starts behaving.
You weren't involved with her long enough to find our her WORST features. Guaranteed. What you've seen so far is just the tip of the iceberg.
2007-03-10 12:58:27 · answer #7 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like her why not, if she is the of yuu're dreams give it a shot!
2007-03-10 01:27:28 · answer #8 · answered by jonreynolds23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋