tell me how wen i turn 18 how am i supposed to move out of my parents house???

Question

i wanna move out my parents house wen i turn 18 and i feel guilty of what am about to do...what should i do wen am about to move out?

Answer 1

Why not go away to college? That is a good step of independent living with a goal of a good education in mind. The latter will help you move successfully from your parents house when you have a good career ahead of you.

Answer 2

First, stop for a moment to consider that moving out is a big step, and is really about you, not your parents. By this, I mean that you shouldn't be feeling guilty, because you're not doing anyone any harm -- except, potentially, yourself, if you go about it the wrong way.

So, here's what you should do: figure out what you'll need to support yourself, and then make those things happen: a job, some savings, a means to get around, some possible places to live -- and a true understanding of how much it will cost to do what you're considering. Make sure you don't forget about things like your own car insurance, laundry, and medical expenses (as you'll likely fall off your parents' dependents coverage when you move out.)

Once all of your ducks are in a row (and assuming you're still in a position to move out), sit down with your folks and show 'em your plans. Explain what can go wrong, and how you intend to deal with those things. Finally, wrap it up by saying that you hope they'll support you (in spirit, not money), and that you're not doing this lightly -- but that you also hope they'll be willing to take you back in if you completely screw it up.

One of two things will happen: either they'll appreciate your candor, planning and maturity and give you their support, or they won't. Still, this is about you rather than them, and once you've turned eighteen it really is up to you (and how much of your parent's disfavor you're willing to tolerate.)

Still, I would caution you: don't rush this. This is a big, important decision, and you'll kick yourself if you jump the gun and have to move back in. If that means waiting until you're 19 or 20, then wait; do it once the right way.

I say this from personal experience. I moved out of my parents' home when I was 19, and looking back my life would have been much much better if (a) I had waited until I was 20, when I had landed a much better job, and (b) if I had waited until I could afford to share an apartment instead of renting a room in a buddy's inherited house.

Good luck, and remember: do this on your terms, and to make yourself happy, not because of peer pressure or because "I'm sposta."

Answer 3

You need to enroll in a college somewhere. There are lots of financial aid available out there. Just decide which college you are interested in and visit the financial aid office. They will hook you up, and you should be able to stay in the dorm. This way you are becoming independent while working on your future. DO NOT waste your youth by playing around or getting married. You need to enjoy life. Even if you don't know what you want to major in, just take your basics. Anything is better than just sitting around. You have to get out there and go for what you want. Do not sit around waiting for someone to give you something. Also, do not feel guilty for wanting to move out. I think it is the best move. I got married when I was 20, and I regret it. I was too young, but I did it to get out of the house.

Answer 4

Moving out is a big deal. You have to make sure you can handle it.

Are you ready to move out?

Do you have a well paying, fulltime job?

Are you sensible?

Are you responsible?

Are you doing this because you want to or because someone told you that's what you have to do?

When you move out, yes are responsible for yourself. But you have more responsibilities than that. You have to pay for rent, water, electricity, gas. You don't do this you could be without a place to live, or back living with your parents.

I think what you should do before you move out is make sure you are ready to move out.

I do not know why you feel guilty about it, cause all children need to leave the nest eventually, and all parents know this.

Just make sure that moving out when you are 18 is the right thing for you to do.

Answer 5

Are your parents abusing you in some way that you have this time clock ticking? There is only one reason that you should continue to live with your parents- you need to be able to support yourself. If you completely understand how much rent, electric, heat, water, food and transportation will cost you in the city you are living in, not to mention medical insurance, and you can or have a good job that can allow you to provide for yourself ON YOUR OWN, then just sit down with your parents and tell them of your intentions. I assume you already have saved enough for a down payment on an apartment and for furniture, and all the other things you will need for your apartment-dishes, bed, linens, etc. then just tell your parents you have the money and are ready to "fly the coop" so to speak.....good luck to you...........if you do not have a job you better think twice about moving out because your parents may not be interested in supporting you while you are on your own unless you are going to college........

Answer 6

Are you sure you want to move out? Even if you have a job, chances are you don't have a credit rating yet. This makes apartment hunting difficult. Landlords also consider young people to be a detriment. ( Unreliable, too much partying, etc.) If you're intent on moving out, you'll probably end up renting a room that's similar to the one you already have at home. Take some sound advice. Don't rush things. Your motives suggest to me that you need to stay at home a while longer.

Answer 7

Hi Tamara, First thing before you move out make sure you have a job so you can support yourself. Tamara don't feel guilty about leaving your parents. Your growing up and need to get out and beable to take care of yourself. While you are packing your things(when your getting ready to move)tell your parent that you love them and they are not getting rid of you that fast. Tell your parents you are planning to come by and check in from time to time. You will feel a lot better about leaving and your parents won't have to worry as much about you,since you are growing up and being responsible.Please do visit them and check in so they won't worry.
A Friend.

Clowmy

Answer 8

It is best you stay on at parents house and save money and get free cookin from Ma.
But if you want to be so independent, u just start packin
your stuff and when you do find an apartment, trailor,house,
just move boxes out and they will get the drift you are off to set out on your own journey.

Answer 9

You don't move out when you're 18, you move out when you're able to afford living on your own.
Nothing to feel guilty about, that is just part of the natural growing-up process that everyone should go through.

Answer 10

No reason to feel gulty, this is normal...............just find an apartment (and a job), or go to school (and live in a dorm or student housing)
Your parents EXPECT this, it's part of what we as parents prepare ourselves for for 18 YEARS.............so don't feel guilty, it's all part of the big picture of life.
You may ask your folks for advice on where to live/go to school to help them feel involved in your decision but the truth is, the day you turn 18, your decisions are your own........... good luck to you!!!