Help me out!!?

Question

My b/f is really busy lately & i hate the fact we can't spend some time together! It really annoys me when we have arguments & end up without talking for days which isn't that good! I feel a distance now even though we both love each other a lot still! We have been going out for 4 years & we wanted to marry! But it just recently i'm getting very mad & just fights with him for everything! I think i should adjust according to his situation even if he doesn't....i should support him in a way that he would appreciate me instead of feeling very annoyed! We talk on the phone but somtimes he'll be lost even on the phone.....just too much stuffs to think in his head so that gets me mad when i think he can't even afford some time to talk to me or give his full attention! How can I support him without getting mad that he's busy for me! & how can i smooth this curve line between us recently! I reall think i should but everytime i take some action thinking to adjust it, next minute we fight more!

Answer 1

you should be more understanding about your boyfriend, you've got to know his troubles and what he's going throug at the moment. Otherwise you would be adding fuel to the fire instead, when you make him more upset. Strike up more conversations with him, stuff which you think he's interested in. Cause he's really busy with his work and if he doesn't have an outlet to let his emotions and thoughts run, he'll stay like this for the rest of his career and life. Spice up the things between you two and things would be bound to make a change.

Answer 2

Honey, don't u see yr bf is stress from work, a project to work on? Try to be in his shoe, give him some space to breath, relax a bit be supportive morally that will make him notice u do care.

What u and yr bf need now him time to sort things , and u cheering him up, try not to have an unhappy tone when u speak to him, try be more supportive he just came home for work, ask him hows yr day make him something to drink give him a message run water for him to take shower have his night shirt ready something to show that u how much u love him, he will knows u do care how he felt after one day of work... if u are living with him.

Answer 3

You didn't mention what he's busy with, school/work? You've been together a long time. If he's being faithful to you he thinks he's trying to build a better future for the two of you. (Assuming he's not going to dump you when he achieves whatever goal he has in mind.) You aren't telling me enough to determine if your relationship is strong or not. Assuming it's strong, you should reinforce whatever he's trying to achieve for the both of you, but gradually work in the idea that he needs to step back and take a look at the big picture and think about your needs as well & try and fit them into you rrelationship.

Answer 4

Girl! I am in the SAME boat as you are. I know my bf has a hectic schedule. I've recently talked to a guy-pal who is in the same profession, and he tells me to just *cut the bf a break-it's tough to have to deal with crap, then come home to a gf who isnt being supportive of him~* I had to agree. Lately, we too fight alot!-about nothing most times...and I cant help it, it just happens. Also, I am in the midst of reading a book-The Secret. It talks about the Law of Attraction. Basically, if you are thinking say negative thoughts, you are on a frequency to draw more negative situations to yourself. I'm not raggin on you-it's just what i've been reading, so like you, I have to learn to change how I think. You can make the best of your situation by changing how you think and feel. I'm trying...you can too!

Answer 5

For heaven sakes , give him some space and find some good hobbies like reading, gardening or sewing.