So my "gf" called break on V-day... f'd up yeah. The weirdest part it was so she can go fly and see her ex bf to get "closure". He f'ks with her head and constantly calls and texts her all the time even while we're dating. They didn't officially break up lol whatever he just up and moved a few states away. I've tried talking sence into her by just saying it over the phone but she doesn't see the wisdom in that. So now the difficult part. She just had her father and sister killed in a car accident a couple days ago and had to cancel her flight. We're still on break and I'm getting the whole pushed away effect thing even though I want to try and be there for her. But now... I have a girl that wants to go out saturday and hookup. Me and my "gf" are on break.. but is it morally wrong to still see someone else after what she's been through? Even though we're on break we talk every day we just don't see each other. She's not dating anyone else and its not a sex thing with the ex.
2007-03-09 16:44:20 · 15 answers · asked by massure4hire 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
whats with this sh%t of growing up? I'm 25 USMC military police vet. The whole "break" system I am against but whatever she decided it. Its not a grow up issue f'n retards thanks for the intelligent responce. I can tell you put a lot of thought into it.
Ok thank you everyone else that gave some thought and reflected a little on the situation.
2007-03-09 17:09:42 · update #1
Yes it would or should be morally wrong for you too. She is going through the first part of the morning process. Give her time to reach out for your support. All though she may not want or need it for long. It is very clear that she is not your what we all call soul mate. Please be gentle with her when you/she do end it. Walk away with a clean conscience as it will stay with you for life. As for her not so ex ex. She needs a professional to tell her: he is obsessed with having control over her in every way possible and to a very unhealthy state of mind. He needs extreme professional help. Men such as this he never change they only get worse with out it. Her very life is in danger as is any one in her life. She is in such a low state he may come in and take advantage in the most inhumane way any one can. Once he gets her back this time and takes her out of state away from every one she knows she is in even more danger. If you know any of her family that she trust go to them and tell them what could happen to their loved one. Best Wishes to you both. If your new hookup really wants to be with you in any way she will understand and give it a little more time.
2007-03-09 17:14:34 · answer #1 · answered by real 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is hard. I've been in a relationship with the same girl for 7 years, and I still have a gf from the past that elicits some stinging emotions that I would like to close. I think she's dealing with some serious stuff right now and will be trying to find herself in the midst of all of this emotional chaos. The best thing you can do for her and for yourself is ask yourself "Do I love her?" If the answer is YES, then you have to be willing to wait for her to come around until the answer is NO. If you don't think that she'll ever come around, then you gotta move on.
2007-03-09 16:50:28 · answer #2 · answered by Think Harder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Morality is a appropriate maximum folk attempt in direction of. No-one could be completely ethical. For myself morality (as interior the ethical majority) is so heavily intertwined with money that it is going to become meaningless or a minimum of a contradiction in words.
2016-10-18 00:25:24 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey man u're kind i can feel that from ur talking but i guess u should be there for her but just be there until she get over this situation but after that don't return back to her coz she didn't appreciate u and even if u r there for her don't try to be so exciting to meet her just be cold and dry as she did alot of bad things with ya and she hurts ya and just do that for morals only.. and about the other girl just make this after 2 days i mean on monday or tuesday u know.. just make the first one feel that u're better than her... take care and good luck
2007-03-09 16:56:12 · answer #4 · answered by Someone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your on a break, do what you want. If she needs you to "be there for her," she needs to let you know. Be there for her when she needs you, but if you wanna have sex with this other girl go for it. No one is going to fly to see someone just to get some closure, you can get closure over the phone.
2007-03-09 16:55:08 · answer #5 · answered by juniper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would hold off from sex with anyone else for a couple of months. If she doesn't appreciate it, at least in your own mind you'll be able to go to sleep at night knowing you did the right thing. I hope things work out for her and yourself. That's sad about her family. God bless.
2007-03-09 16:52:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's still your girlfriend you need to support her in such time of need. If you really want to go out with someone else, I think you should talk to her and break up with her. Don't lead her on, just do the right thing.
2007-03-09 16:49:51 · answer #7 · answered by Lana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go on a date with the girl to see if you have any feelings for her. Good way to test your feelings for the other one.
2007-03-09 16:51:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, if you really care about this girl and she really cares about you, my guess would be that she is going to be pissed off if you go. Girls are like that, unfortunately. If you care about how she feels, I would find out whats going on with you and her before you start jumping into another relationship. Good luck, Hun!
2007-03-09 16:51:05 · answer #9 · answered by Lauren 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
damn thats messed up....well u have to decide if she worth wait throught all this mess and if u really care about her and whats she going through....u should try to b there 4 her and shoe some support....think about what u want? that is the hardest question 4 anyone to answer...u need to think long and hard about this question
2007-03-09 16:52:55 · answer #10 · answered by pain&pleasure 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋