He broke up with me among other reasons because of the distance; I'm in New York; he's in Tokyo. We started dating in Tokyo, then I had to move to NY last Sep and we dated long dist. The break up was not mutual, but it was open ended, in that he did not completely rule out the possibility of getting back together once I moved back to Tokyo. I'm moving back to Tokyo to start work there in April; he doesn't know that yet. He wanted to be friends and as friends, he would email me at the same rate, he said, and I can call him on the phone, we can meet in Tokyo "as friends". But since the break up a few weeks ago he is responding quicker to my emails, initiating conversations, and he writes me: "[my name], hello. [my name], fundamentally there is no problem. [my name], by the way now are you coming to Japan in April?" I am wondering why he wants to know whether I'm coming back to Japan and why is he talking to me more than when we were dating? When I asked him, he said there is no one new.
2007-03-09 16:44:17 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I should add that another major reason for breaking up was that he did not feel good enough for me due to his educational background, etc, a point of great frustration for me because I don't share in his opinion. He said he could not marry me because he could not make me happy, because he does not and could not have a proper, decent job. I wouldn't mind providing for him, and letting him do what he likes, but he doesn't like such a situation. Now he is being sincere, and I think this makes him even more difficult to read.
2007-03-09 16:54:22 · update #1
Hmmm~ he may just want to know if you are thinking of a chance to rekindle the relationship again. When my bf and I broke up, it was the same. I pretty much thought it was dead-never to hear from him again-sometimes and in most cases a clean break is for the best-no ties/no contact, so there's no setting yourself up with false hopes only to lead to disappointment. Anyhow, he is the type of person that sees things in *possibilities*-sounds like your guy. It was long distance also. But during the breakup, he did mention that we seem to talk more than when dating, and that he did (in all of his past relationships) give more concern to people other than gf's...weird, I thought. Whatever you do, don't over think it. Don't play games. I'd say though, if you want to know, just ask point blank! Otherwise, you will always be overanalyzing and 2nd-guessing what he meant by this and/or that he said and/or did. You'd be surprised. If you always live in fear of what he could mean by the things he says and how he behaves with you, it will always eat away at you and cause you unneeded stress. If he tells you that there hasnt been anyone new since your breakup-id trust its the truth, so it doesnt sound like hes trying to find out your moving back to japan to cover his tracks with a *new gf*-no worries there. But take it easy, if you want, jus try and enjoy his company. It's crazy, but often times people seem to subconsciously want what they cant have, once they realize its no longer and option. Once my bf and i broke up, seemed like he was MORE attentive and caring than before...
good luck!
2007-03-09 16:55:25 · answer #1 · answered by Noodles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe he really just wants to be a close friend to you....try go back if you want and talk to him face to face....as it is believed that a real live conversation is far different from any other. He still writes to you because maybe because he doesnt wanna you to feel like he left you for good, he wanna you to know that he's still exist probably without a desire to be a gf/bf status but as a close friend....anyways good luck with this......i'm off...later
2007-03-10 00:57:38 · answer #2 · answered by L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cause he wants sex. but not a relationship
2007-03-10 00:46:59 · answer #3 · answered by dirka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants to have sex with you~~~ sori for being so strict
2007-03-10 00:46:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋