can somebody please explain this to me?

Question

why are women always complaining about how society is putting pressure on them and telling them they should look a certain way and that it's so wrong while they do the same thing and much worse?yes, i agree that society should except people for what they are, but women are not ones to talk. if anything, women are more judgemental than men. ESPECIALLY at younger age groups. most girls have no trouble finding a guy who thinks they're hot and getting attention, but about 70% of the guys out don't even get a smile from a girl. not only do girls want guys who look the way they want them to(usually they want boys who look not a day over 21 and have cool looking straight hair), but they also want guys who are talented, charismatic, and are popular. and on top of all this, they say they want guys who are themselves. even though it's obvious not all guys can be like that, girls still act like it's perfectly ok to obsess over those things.

and i don't buy the whole, 'that's just younger girls' thing. older women are still like that to a certain degree. how women react to guys when they hit on them still depends on the way they look big time.

sure girls wioll smile at guys if they don't look that great as long as they're talented or charismatic. but who ever said that was ok? isn't that still shallow? i don't see how it isn't.

Answer 1

Kinda makes you wonder how we made it this far as a species, doesn't it?

Answer 2

Women have a lot of insecurities, until they begin to figure where they fit, in the whole scheme of things. You're really making a lot of generalizations, so be careful. Girls don't exist as a mass group of united minds. We each are all different from the other. Some do think they way you say, but many don't. I'd say, speaking as a girl here myself, the younger they are, the less they know themselves, the more they have these silly ideals of what they're looking for. Girls are fed a lot of crap, about Prince Charming. We are almost brain-washed as to what to look for in a man. We think we should follow some general all-purpose list from some magazine or some Hollywood ideal of what true love is. Until you reach a certain point of maturity, and you begin to realize, you're never going to find Mr. Right until you throw away the list!!! It happened to me! I had this criteria from some other source other than my own heart, and I stuck to it, trying to find this ideal guy! Well, it didn't work! Whenever I did find someone that fit the list, it didn't fit for me! And do you know why? Because those characteristics and qualities were wrapped up in unrealistic ideas of what people really are! It takes awhile to figure that out! It sounds like that's occurring to you! You're realizing that many women are out to lunch! And many are, until they really grow up, and can begin to see guys for who they really are, and who is the best match for them. You see, there cannot be any generalized list. We each must find that someone who matches up in so many indescribable ways, that a list, is the dumbest thing anyone could ever come up with to determine compatibility. It all comes down to CHEMISTRY! What is great for one girl, is not necessarily great for another! But when you're young, you are fooled that reality is a group thing, that we all must look for the same things and this is not realistic when you get to the bottom of it! We are all individuals. My needs will be very different from another's, as are yours! A lot of women will forever be flakes, and will forever believe in the wrong things all of their lives. There are a lot of men like that too! It depends how honest you want to be with yourself. Those that face reality, head on, no lies, no games, will find honest, trust-worthy, great people to be with. Those that keep fooling themselves will prevent their own development. Whenever you come across women as you've described above, move on, they're not worth the time of day! Women have that problem with men as well, you know! We all think that most men only want the starlet type, blonde preferably, and the prettier the better. So what happens to all those girls in between? It goes both ways. This bad very wrong conception, of who's noteworthy, and who isn't. The same shoe just doesn't fit everyone! Good luck!

Answer 3

Since the begining of time, girls want all those things, but still go out with the bad guy because its dangerous and thrilling.

When they are ready to settle down, the attributes of their future mates changes too. Hey, they don't know what they want.

But, that's OK. You guys don't know you want something other than sex, companionship.

So he gets a dog. She get a subscription to a glamour magazine. And they both live in a world desined and kept running by the fashion world, makeup companies, and big business. She's gotta be thinner than healthy and flash signs that say she's a looser if she ain't married o mr perfect. He, on the other hand, has to be the biggest, baddest, hunky-est, and successfully richest. All this while dealling with everyone trying to push him down or kill him.

Want proof, watch the soaps.

When are you gonna get wise? Be your own man.

Answer 4

no offense, but don't make such a general judgement if you haven't met all the girls in the world.
not all girls act like that. i've seen girls at my school who smile at guys all the time. and they like guys who might not look that great, but has a great personality.
again, not all women act like that cuz some women like the way society is. they know how to play around with it so that it turns out to be the way they want it.
i dont wanna like a guy that's popular, i mean.. what's the point? he's not gonna be popular and cool forever.

Answer 5

You're kind of broad banning it there, i don't mind at all that "society is putting oressure on us". In fact I like it, it makes getting dressed in the morning and knowing what to wear a whole lot easier, and I do judge people. Before I even know them, and I know I do this (i try not to, but i do), and finnally were I;m from it's always the girls going after the guys, and they won;t even give US smiles (and I'm not bad looking, i may be inda flat but im thin and my *** isn't bad).

Answer 6

Women have to prove more than men do in this society, if they don't look good are smart they don't even stand a chance, if women have to go to all the trouble of looking good then why shouldn't they want men to do the same, if a guy takes pride in is appearance, clothing etc. women notice them. smarten yourself up and you will get the smiles.
good luck

Answer 7

Looks dont matter. Age, Race or anything for that matter. Its all about love. Its all in the individual. You have to be happy with yourself and with the people that you surround yourself with. You cant expect to get a straight answer with self centered people that only think about them selves. There are good people in the world if you want to see it. But ,make sure your secure with yourself and your be secure with the opinion whith the people around you.

Answer 8

you answered your own question. Women are MUCH more judgmental than men. They are very attuned to their gender group and their choices including boyfriends are going to to get scrutinized. They value guys who seem to be genuine and comfortable with themselves while projecting the attributes their peers are looking for.

Probably not the answer you are looking for, but an honest opinion..

Answer 9

not all women are obssessed with how a guy looks like. if you're complaining about this kind of women you're describing, let me remind you that you guys are also looking for a certain type of woman. so just let it be. why not look for a woman who is confident with what she looks like she doesn't have to be stereo-typed with everybody else, and also look for a woman who has a definite standards in what men should look like for her. younger women are still impressionable. they think being different is uncool. it takes maturity in a woman to accept what she is for what she really is. look for her.

Answer 10

You, kind sir, need to work on your game. I'd like to comfort you and say everything will be alright, but unless you take active efforts to turn yourself into the Alpha Male, you're going to need a lot of lotion and tissues. Read David DeAngelu and move up to Mystery.