Previous to this relationship I was in a 6yr relationship and he left me and 4 months later married a "friend" of mine, so now I am in a relationship for now 2yrs and when I talk about marriage he kinda acts like he dont want to hear that. Hes almost 29 and I am 25. I feel like our relationship is going nowhere. I do not want to waste another six years for nothing.
2007-03-09 16:36:14 · 4 answers · asked by iceez81 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
give him the boot and find someone that is on the same wavelength as you. nobody likes the "used" tissue effect. your feelings shouldn't be disposable. you want someone that is going to give as much as he gets. you need a person that has mutual love and understanding. let him sow his wild oats elsewhere...you follow your heart and hold true to yourself.
2007-03-09 16:50:44 · answer #1 · answered by allkoei 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hello friend
see, there are always TWO sides of a coin.
you may still have the spark, after all you got back together with the same person.
the other side of the story is, that you feel itsn't going anywhere.
YOU are the one who has to weigh both sides and see, which has more SUBSTANCE.
what is the problem now? he duznt TALK or its something else??
here's what i would do in ur situation:
1. make a list of pros and cons, put it all down in BLACK N WHITE.
2. Give him a LAST chance, tell him point by point, each problem which you have. SeT him a TIME LIMIT within which all issues must be resolved. don't give him less than a week. let it all sink in. then have a MATURE DISCUSSION.
3. if mentally not feeling very calm, try reiki, yoga, meditation, log on to www.sahajayoga.org. then click on experience it now. you will feel a lot calmer.
The GIST of my advice is, IF there is a strong root to ur r'ship, the PLANT will survive. you have to see that now, if the embers are there, mutual love, trust, sacrifce will go a long,long way in keeping the flame alive.
all the best...
2007-03-09 16:49:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Experience has taught me to never ignore the "red flags" that pop up about people, that is, signals your brain sends you to alert you to a potential problem.
What you have talked about here sounds like a pretty big one to me. Ignore it at your peril.
2007-03-09 16:44:28 · answer #3 · answered by calledkevinalot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you know the answer to this. if you are looking for marriage then you need to move on. other wise you will
be in another relationship that not going any where.
2007-03-09 16:41:47 · answer #4 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋