I really need your Help and Advice?

Question

I asked why this situation keeps happening.
I really need some opinions bc this is driving me crazy:

I meet her and flirt, she responds and we build "rapport" back and forth. Going good.

Now that we know we like each other (we both said it in one way or another) i flirt alot, but i also expect her to flirt too so i dont feel like a perv.

She never does anything unless i initiate everything, which i wont do because i feel it takes 2 to make things go forward and then she becomes flaky...... like a frosted flake

If i dont do EVERYTHING then NOTHING ever happens and it gets "silent wierd" between us.

end of story and we stop speaking.

More : We are Adults. Its clear that we like each other.

The question is, why do you females do this?? Why dont you actively flirt and MAKE things happen Since I am doing the same?

Answer 1

You are attracted to reserved women who are not comfortable expressing themselves?

You stop initiating and therefore TEST them and they pick up your vibe? She's probably thinking -- What is his problem -- one minute he is fun and flirting and the next he is a zero.....

Tell her it turns you on when she comes on to you. Let her know it is ok to do it, talk about it, whatever.

Answer 2

so is it over now? I think u r forgetting that most girls expect the guy to intitiate all things that are flirtatious. Most girls would also return some kind of feeling if they enjoyed being with you. If this girl, time and time again, did not physically show any enjoyment or some hint of curiosity, then maybe she wasn't into you. OR, most likely, she is a very introverted and shy girl. Why don't you just ask her how she feels when you are together? One more thing, communication is the greatest policy to go by when having trouble with your partner. You don't like something, let her know. If she doesn't know what's going on in your head, she doesn't have a chance to fix it right? So tell her, let her respond, and give her some time to take action and fix the problem. Good Luck!

Answer 3

I'd say, she's not ready for whatever, with you, or maybe anyone else for that matter! She could be really shy. Only you can figure that out. Shy people can only respond to others, they don't initiate any interactions. Watch how she is with other people, if you can. If she's really outgoing with others, like non-stop chatty, then you two are not a match. She's just being nice to you. So good luck, in figuring out the human personality. It's all a learning curve! That's what life's all about! After awhile, it'll get easier for you! But my rule of thumb is, you should only try to meet the person half way, with minor exceptions only. Carrying the ball all by yourself, to me, would be a no go! That's it, just friends, enough said! You can't create chemistry if it doesn't exist in the first place! Some people just respond to others and they don't even know why, because they lack enough self-knowledge about their own personalities! It can be goofy, but after awhile, you'll begin to get it! A good rule of thumb too, is to know yourself first, and others will be easier to figure out because you're starting from your own solid ground. It's all a growth process. We discover ourselves. We discover others. And one day, the process occurs without thinking about it anymore. You just know, who's right, who's wrong! You'll get there! Keep growing! It's all good!

Answer 4

Maybe she's scared about something have you ever bothered to ask her. First step talk...... if that doesn't resolve it move on and leave her alone.

Answer 5

She doesn't want to seem like a s-l-u-t. I'm sorry, but6 that's the harsh reality of women

Answer 6

You're pushing too hard..back off and go slower

Answer 7

idk this girl seems a little off to me...she might want u to do all the work cuz she doesnt want to seem desperate...