so me and my boyfriend (fiance) are totally in love. im 16 he's 19. We are engaged..is this like WAY too young? i mean we aren't going to get married actually untill i am 18 so i can sign for the marriage...but what do yall think?
2007-03-09 16:20:45 · 19 answers · asked by kissesfromhvn807 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well, normally i would say too young, but mt aunt met her husband when she was about that age and they've been together ever scince, and have been a perfect match. They had a girl who also married youndg and so far thats gone well as well, so I wouldn;t worry about it, besides to say that you;re too young is basically age discrimination (and i hate it when people do that to me as I look much younger than I am)
2007-03-09 16:55:31 · answer #1 · answered by getshorty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only time will tell. If you keep an open line of communication, are kind to one another, are honest with each other, and don't daydream about someone else, chances are good.
My husband and I were both 16 when we were engaged, married at 18, and now it's been ten years, and he is still my best friend! We beat the odds. It can happen, but divorce cannot be an option, EVER, or it just won't work. Arguments happen, but unless you refuse to see things from a different angle, a marriage doesn't have to end there. Also, Wait two years after you are married -no matter how bad you may end up wanting a baby- to have children. Once you have them, they are there. Take advantage of those first two years to do something with each other, because you'll never regret it. It's what we did. Besides, children deserve a mother AND a father.
Congratulations and Good LUCK!!
2007-03-10 00:33:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey!! Please WAIT until you are older!! You can stay engaged but realize that the "love" feelings that you feel right now can and most likely will change once you are old enough to enter the real world. I had my daughter when i was your age because i thought i was in love. I was engaged to this boy and it was the real thing- or at least i thought. I would say hold off getting married until you are at LEAST 23 that way you can get through schooling and you both can begin to save for a life together.
Now i am not saying it wont work because i am SURE there are a few exceptions outs there, but the odds are really against young marriages. If he loves you enough to marry you soon- he should love you enough 7 years from now...
What may feel like love now may not feel like love 5 years from now when you are able to experience what the rest of the world has to offer you!!!
2007-03-10 00:38:47 · answer #3 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Excuse me I hope thhis is a joke way to young you don't even know if your thought of this guy may change you are still in high school and also maturing. Finish school and get a career to many people who get married young like this have a miserable marriage because they think they got married to young. Your too young to know what love truly is and your fiance should realize that you haven't even finished schooling yet and it is just irresponsible on his part to place this on you at such a young age. If you are engaged just be happy with that but make it a long engagement wait until you are in your 20's atleast then you are old enough and have some more smarts to make one of the most important decision in your life. I hope you take some of these answers to heart because they are coming from people who are much older and wiser and may have even been in the same predicament that you are in now.
One last thing what do your parents think of all this?
God Bless and Good Luck STAY IN SCHOOL GO TO COLLEGE OR UNIVERSITY. MAKE SURE YOU HAVE A CAREER JUST ENCASE SOMETHING CHANGES FOR YOU IN THE FUTURE. NEVER RELY ON SOMEONE TO ALWAYS BE THERE LIFE BRINGS CHANGES ALL THE TIME THINK SMART.
2007-03-10 22:28:53 · answer #4 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am 17 and getting married in a few months. I too asked a question like this one and got some really mean responses from people. Honestly you need to just follow your heart and it is your life and up to you and your boyfriend. People will tell you that you are too young but if you are in love then I see no problem. Yeah you can change from now until you are 18 but if you REALLY love someone you will not just stop loving them because you become older. I am getting married in July about 3 weeks before I am going to be 18 and my parents are going to sign for me to get married, some people ask why? It's not because I am pregnant because Im not, and not because I just want to have sex(those are reasons older people assume you get married young). But I am getting married because we love each other simply put. So just do what you feel is right. No one can really tell you if you are too young you pretty much have to decide that for yourself but I just know that I wish I would have never asked this kind of question because I got some really rude answers! Well goodluck in whatever you decide and If you decide to get married I hope you have a wonderful marriage!
2007-03-10 17:00:45 · answer #5 · answered by Pamela 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Usually young marriages are not happy ones. There are exceptions, but here are some factors that often cause them to fail:
-Unfinsihed education
-Young pregnancy/start a family too early (feel "tied down")
-Not had time to enjoy being young and single, live on own, go through college, etc.
-Not sure of who you really are and what you want out of life.
-Have not had the chance to really experience dating and other relationships.
Usually marriages in which the bride is 25 or older fair better. Either way, don't rush into this. Marriage generally requires a bit more life experience.
2007-03-10 00:36:30 · answer #6 · answered by reginachick22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Engaged is one thing, marrying is a whole different ballgame. Please take the time to enjoy your youth and not tie yourself down to a marriage this early in your life! Education should be an important goal for you right now, not marriage. Stop and think about the big picture and what you want out of life! Without an education these days you can't achieve much of anything, much less a good job or decent pay. Sow your oats, have a good time, be young and free and THEN settle down to marriage and children and everyday work, work, work. Believe me, I know!
Best wishes for a happy successful life!
2007-03-10 01:31:10 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a whole life to live and figure out what you want. you'll even change your mind in the next two years! I was engaged at 18 and broke it off after we spent a year apart- I went away to college. you will seriously change in the next ten years, so stay together and grow. If he's around in 10 years still, then go ahead and marry him then. It's a huge commitment.
2007-03-10 00:30:06 · answer #8 · answered by sktchgrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young to be engaged. You are 16 and should be out having the time of your life. You need to be able to go out and date other people. You will have a lot of changes between the age of 16 till your twenties, so please don't waste those years.
2007-03-10 01:59:14 · answer #9 · answered by Dyan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats way to young...from now till u are 18. You will change so much...its only 2 years but believe me... By the time you are 18 you might not be "tottally in love" with this guy.
2007-03-10 00:38:30 · answer #10 · answered by Finally his wife! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋