Why Does This Keep Happening To Me OOOVER and OOoover?

Question

Im a good looking guy and Im not afraid to approach a female.

Im talking to this girl and its going good, giving me hints and we eat lunch together 3 times a week. Once i touched her butt while i was cleaning some lint off her jacket and flirting and she laughed and told me the next day that she didnt mind me touching her like that but not to go too far.....

But being me i dont like to have to do EVERYTHING to make things work so i expect the girl to do her part and keep flirting, but they NEVER do, then it gets weird because i wont push the issue and suddenly she seems silent and weird, then we just stop talking because i don't want to seem a perv (so i stop flirting) then she gets kinda silent mad and we stop speaking forever...

the end.

Why does this KEEP happening over and over to me...?

Why wont a girl keep flirting so i know how far i can go?

Help!

real answers please, not kiddie insults

Answer 1

Welcome to the weird world of relationships, my friend. You've just stumbled into the land of flirt, and it's loaded with land mines, so watch your step... Still, I had the same problem you did, but I learned that if you keep pushing the envelope, you'll find out how far is too far; but you can still get away with a few things. First, keep in mind that touching is okay until you start grabbing her ya-ya's in public. (Save that for after the wedding, when she'll be really hard-stuck to run off.) The trick is to watch her face while you're playing; if she smiles, it's good. If she doesn't, try something else. But above all, don't quit; she'll think you don't like her. Yes, I know how it sucks to be the one who does all the work. But keep in mind that the more you do, the better she'll reciprocate. Okay?

Answer 2

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting DIFFERENT results. If you've done the same lint-picking, let -her-make-the-next -move technique more than once.....STOP doing it. If you keep picking lint, it might seem a little obsessive compulsive and creepy.

Look them straight in the eye and go on a real date and slow down on the lunch routine.

Answer 3

Once she told you that she didn't mind when you touched her like that I would have immediately responded with "Well, just for the record I enjoy being flirted with too."

Answer 4

go in for a kiss or something when you two are alone. if she doesn't reciprocate then they might just consider you a friend. it's good that you are not to pushy- but girls like guys to take the initiative and stuff. that's all. You're doing fine :)

Answer 5

They say you shouldn't go too far, but they expect you will. It's just a smoke screen to keep feeling it's your fault if anything sexy happens. That way they're good girls, not scrubbers.

Cut to the chase. As you say, things die anyway, so you might as well try to kiss them or whatever and see their reaction: if bad, too bad, leave them alone. But I bet it won't be. I bet they wonder why you seem to have gone off them.

Answer 6

Because all the girls you date are trying to figure out how far should they let a guy go.

Answer 7

MAYBE SHE NOT THE ONE FOR YOU, IF SHE WAS LOOKING FOR THE SAME THINGS AS YOU THEN THE
FLIRTING WOULD HAVE CONTINUE. IF YOU ARE AS
GOODLOOKING AS YOU STATED. THEN YOU SHOULD
NOT HAVE A PROBLEM SHOULD YOU? ALSO YOU CAN
BE O YOU KNOW FULL OF YOUR SELF.

Answer 8

Make sure she knows your limit, your set limit, and ask her what her limit is. Maybe you haven't found the right girl yet, and fate is keeping you from a disaster.

Answer 9

You're obviously nowhere near as good-looking as you think you are.

rofl at the advice above:

"So, baby, shall we discuss our limits of flirting now?"