I wrote dr phil about confronting my mother I want to be able to ask her why she didnt protect me while I was being molested as a child I can talk to her just about general things but I am terrified to talk to her about this I got a call from the show they are trying t convince her to go on the show man I feel really crazy for doing this but.... I also feel very good am I crazy?
2007-03-09 16:01:58 · 30 answers · asked by iluvhm 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My mother did know I begged her to help me she even walked in on it. They arrested him many years later when my mom called me to tell me he was arrested him she said " he is an old man and he has suffered enough" I have tried to talk to her she just doesnt get it she says I am dwelling.... Anyway They are going to call her and ask her to come on the show I dont think she will so I dont know if I will go if she isnt but at least I will finally know where I stand and she will know I am done I promised my Grandmother before she lost her memory of her family that I would try to fix things with her this is my last effort I have to at least try it right.. Thanks for all your aswers good ad bad....
2007-03-09 16:39:09 · update #1
having other ppl there for support and doing it in a public place where she cant lash out at you is a good plan. You are not crazy mothers are supposed to protect their kids if she knew what was going on and didnt stop it she is just as guilty as the molester and deserves to be confronted do whatever you feel comfortable with she doesnt deserve to have her feelings thought of when she obviously didnt think of yours
2007-03-09 16:07:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am very sorry you had to suffer this horrible thing:(
I don't think your crazy at all, but maybe you should consider what you are about to put yourself thru.
The world will know your situation and maybe you want that in hopes of protecting others, but there are probably better ways to do that.
The problem is that Dr Phil wants to hold an audience, and if it has to be at your expense, he will do it.
Now that they told your mom that you have that question, maybe you can face her and get your answer.
If this man was her b/f or husband, she likely knew it was happening:(
With all this, I feel you deserve an answer, but don't hurt yourself in getting what you want.
I wish you the best of luck no matter what your decision is,
2007-03-09 16:15:45 · answer #2 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she know about while it was happening?
If not she probably doesn't know at all. If any parent could blame their child or say that the child was resposible for being molested, or knew at the time and looked away doesn't need to be a parent. You should have faith in her as your mother and realize that she(hopefully) would never side with any one else but you in this instance even if your molester is someone she knows.
I am 43 and I don't think my mother knows I was molested, My dad beat the crap out of the guy and my dad told me this was between me and him no one else knew.
2007-03-09 16:21:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be curious to hear what Dr. Phil has to say. I value Dr. Phil's viewpoint very much, and find him very worthwhile. Of course, you would be scared. But you didn't do anything wrong. You are not crazy. This man- who did this to you HAS NoT suffered enough. What about your suffering! You were a child! Doesn''t that account for something? What about your suffering?
2007-03-09 16:50:17 · answer #4 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know I went thought the same thank as a child but it was my father that molested me. My mom claims she didn't know. She was being beat by him all the time so she was scared to confront him. He was never punished for what he did because my mom didn't help me. I will always and forever have anger inside for that, but we are friends. We talk as friends. I have never for got it but i will not let in haunt me for the rest of my life. You have to just ask god for the strength to get passed it all. You will find it.
2007-03-10 02:53:00 · answer #5 · answered by Randa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is something that has been bothering you, then I would take advantage of it and go on the show. Dr. Phil would not only help you and your mother, but other people out there who may have experienced the same thing. Best wishes to you :)
2007-03-09 16:05:42 · answer #6 · answered by Sonya 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I do not think that you crazy. If you really would like to resolve & seek help for you & your mom than go. Thats if you ready to confront it on national television. It may help if you going to get some answers & something out of it which may give you more infomation & closure on the whole issue with you & your mom.
GoodLuck hope things work out for you & your mom
2007-03-09 19:47:36 · answer #7 · answered by MEHNAZ B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very personal thing. Of course they want you on the show, it makes money. But why not have an honest talk with your mum in private? I think you should at least give her a chance before the voyeurs.
2007-03-09 16:09:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it takes the help of a mediator like Dr. Phil to help you confront your mom. He will help you get the words out and make her clearly understand what role she played in your being molested. Good luck on the show.
2007-03-09 16:05:32 · answer #9 · answered by LuvMyGirls 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
At the least, your mother owes you an apology and you need a professional to talk to. That's a bundle of old emotions and memories to bring up, but better to do it in a setting where you and your mom can get help.
2007-03-09 16:06:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋