i am only 15 i have this boyfriend i have feelings for him but i dont know if he really loves me or not this is my third time to go out with him i have had sex with him and everything else but i dont know if he only loves me for the sex or not. he is kinda a player, he has cheated on me b4 and i was really mad and told myself i wouldnt do it again but i did wat should i do give him another chance we have been doing fine theses last few days but i dont know i dont want my heart broken again what should i do please i need advise??? do you think he will change??? i really hope so b/c i love him =[
2007-03-09 15:46:57 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
o and he only called me once today and said he would call me later and still hasnt should i call him?
2007-03-09 15:50:37 · update #1
Move on, gal. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
2007-03-09 15:51:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that although you enjoyed the sexual part of your relationship, you have decided to not have sex anymore until you know 100% this is IT. Tell him about all the venereal diseases you could lovingly share with each other, not even knowing about them for a year! and by then...how many others have been brought into your "sex life"? If he has cheated on you before, then you have "had sex" with all the girls he has been with AND all the guys that have dipped in THEIR pools...isn't that romantic? Sounds like he could be making your vagina the "community slide" @ the local public pool! Hope they washed their uh...feet...before they slid in.If not, man... I hope you weren't saving that slide for a special person because nobody wants a bag full of somebody Else's left overs!
2007-03-10 00:02:31 · answer #2 · answered by lizrdluvnmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt have given your self right at him. You do know that 80 % of the time all guys are thinking about is doing it. Players do not change and it is a good possibility that he has done it with someone else before. get ur facts and thoughts straight.I mean are u gonna do it with every guy that tells you he loves you? Come on, they are smart and like to play games. Im sure you are better than that
2007-03-09 23:52:34 · answer #3 · answered by taty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ONLY way to find out if he has feelings is.....see if he can spend a full afternoon or evening with you and NOT have sex. Pretend you have a cold. If he is a player and only after one thing, you wouldn't be able to walk around just talking or shopping and ending the day with a hug. Try that and you will soon find out.
2007-03-09 23:52:35 · answer #4 · answered by Crispy_Frog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dearest friend, You're too young enough to engage such relation, and lost your virginity. In your age or stage now is really normal or natural to have experience such thing(a sad thing). But, that thing, you know, should not necessarily happened to you. As I have said, you're too young enough. Besides, that thing is immoral.
You know, we human person must be careful to our feeling, for most of the time feeling is immoral. Not to be trusted and, to a be reason to decide for something. What you have felt to the guy is not love. WHY? First, because in your age now is only for a feeling of affilliation, or what we called, a puppy love. And you know this will pass very soon. May be it is hard for you to understand this, of what i am saying here, because you are not wide enough to think at this stage of life. Do you remember, When you are at your 13 or 14 of age? Where were those moments now? I believe you have a memorable experiences those times. BUT!!! were not they pass away? In the same way, What you have been experiencing right now , later on or tomorrow this all will pass away. You' re world is not only today. You are growing my friend . You are walking to the future. Do not be in chained with that puppy feeling today. However, you have nothing do but to experience this stage in life. But be careful, be cautious, and take care your self, your body, for that is you, your dignity as human not an animal that do not have soul and do not think. Second, Just remember, feeling is immoral, as I have said above. Do not, I tell you, give importance to your intense feeling which often times blind you and makes you unable to think what is good and right. This intense feeling of the heart or the flesh often destroy many lives:physically, emotionality, psychologically and spiritually. Furthermore, this feeling that you have now, is a desire of the flesh(erros) which very normal to your stage and as human. But! this feeling needs to be purified by true love(AGAPE).
You know many relationships and most are couples, after 5-7 years of being together found each other no love at all. Why? because they thought they felt in love to each other at the very firs time of their relationships. One of my brother's best friend, a girl, who have a Bf. Only after 3 years of their relationships that this girl have noticed her Bf is 'PANDAK', a 'SHORT MAN' than her. And this girl decided to break her relation with the guy. WHY? because most of the time, we feel in love to persons only because of the good qualities they have. What if these good qualities cease to be good? Will you still love him?
My dearest friend, just always remember, follow not your own heart but to the good Lord our God.AND... just take the sex sacred that is intended for marriage and procreation not for the satisfaction of the flesh. May both of you and the guy realize this very important matter.
hope this helps. God bless you. Good day.
sorry for the poor grammar.
2007-03-10 01:12:04 · answer #5 · answered by wonderer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, Michelle, that part about him being a player and cheating in the past is scary. Do you want to go through that again? I wouldn't.
There are lots of guys out there, and you're so young. You deservesomeone who'll treat you good.
2007-03-09 23:53:28 · answer #6 · answered by diannegoodwin@sbcglobal.net 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie if you have dated him 3 times and have already has sex with him then the relationship has already been fast tracked onto sex rather than on love
guys do tend to prefer being with a women who doesn't offer it all (even tho they may appear to like it at the time) but one who leaves something to the imagination because most intelligent guys like a challenge to get to know you
true love waits - next time keep them waiting
if they do love you they will wait for you
if they don't then they wont
2007-03-09 23:53:25 · answer #7 · answered by Aslan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aren't you a little bit young to be having sex at the age of 15? WHAT IS THIS WORLD COMING TO!?!?!?!?!?!?!?! Do you really want a crying screaming brat of a child begging for your attention all day long? The whole idea of falling in love is just a bunch of hormones kicking in because you are so young you hoar.
2007-03-09 23:52:19 · answer #8 · answered by kcdude 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
im sry to break it to you but i think you should end it with him. if you know he is a player tne he will always be a player you cant change him expecially since you guys are only 15. even though u love him you need to let him go, your just going to keep hurting yourself. i hope this helps :]
2007-03-09 23:52:52 · answer #9 · answered by love21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he won't change. You gave him booty right from the word go and even let him get away with cheating on you. In his mind, there is only one word for you, and that's "Doormat". That's how he is treating you, someone that he can walk all over.
2007-03-09 23:52:49 · answer #10 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 times for me is enough, but do think about your future what the best you can get, the important thing is...be a good girl. God is the one and only.
2007-03-09 23:52:36 · answer #11 · answered by masterjoran fishermanfriends 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋