Here's the deal.....My boyfriend of 2 years has a bachelor party to go to tomorrow. We have been arguing for weeks on the subject of "The Strip Club." His buddy who is orchistrating this whole shindig is a friggin cheating DOG!!! (who is engaged)
All that aside, It hurts me to think that my boyfriend is so excited to have some nasty girl's boobs in his face and privates on his lap. He is so excited as to tell me I'm crazy and go ahead with this anyway, despite the fact that I always thought he loved me enough to only be that excited about seeing me naked or shoot how bout even being THAT excited. LIKE OUCH! anywho, I say that a girls boobs in his face and crotch on his lap grinding is cheating and DOG behavior! He says NO! I also know that he would not like it if I went to a bar and had a guy rub his private on my butt even with clothes on while he danced, and if i paid him to do that!!! He knows he'd be mad! LET ME KNOW WHAT YOU THINK!
2007-03-09 15:41:10 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am not going to break up with him over this specific future incident. But I know this will cause alot of friction for a while! That and it totally sucks that he is willing to hurt my feelings like this all over some strange chick arousing him!!!!!
2007-03-09 16:25:40 · update #1
So, your fiance doesn't respect you. His friend (the best man) doesn't respect you. Your fiance respects his friend (the Best man) more than his future wife.
So, what poorly developed brain cells are convincing you that he will have any respect for you after the wedding? Hmmmm?
Want to know what you are to him? You are his 'Woman' for:
Providing sex.
Cleaning his house.
Washing his cloths.
Cooking his meals.
Raising his kid.
Want more? Use you brain, but not the part with the poorly developed cells.
In my 58 yrs. I have seen thousands of boys just like your fiance. I have also seen thousands of women, with such low self esteem and respect they accept this treatment. The low self esteem and respect makes them think they deserve this treatment. On top of it, they believe they love the abuser.
Your fiance will tell you I'm full of crap and will tell you what you want to hear. It still won't change the the fact that he doesn't respect you.
If your fiance goes to the strip club, knowing you object, should convince you that you are nothing more than what I listed above. You will never be more than that.
He is already showing you that he comes first. It is all about what he wants. His friends will be second. You and the children will be third until something else comes along that moves you down the list.
2007-03-09 16:59:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm....for me, it all comes down to a matter of trust. I'd let my guy do it if I trusted that it's just for fun, and that I'm the only woman he really wants..in terms of as a girlfriend....AND, of course, you must trust that he won't cheat on you!! If you think he's a cheater, then he doesn't get the luxury of going to strip clubs. That's my personal opinion..good luck!!
2007-03-09 16:10:31 · answer #2 · answered by christina rose 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is immoral. You are right, but is it a deal breaker to you?
2007-03-09 16:16:41 · answer #3 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋