Do you teach your boys that if a girl hits them first it is ok to hit her?

Question

I know I know boys should never hit girls but some girls take liberty with that and hit and slap boys when they are not happy with that. I am a guy and my mother told me never let a girl hit you. If she is man enough to hit a man then she is man enough to take a hit from a man. She does and did not condone beating your wife or girlf riend. But if your wife or girl friend slaped you in a fight she said to hit them back and leave it at that. I agree with this. I will teach my daughter never to hit a guy unless she is prepared to get hit and that he should never hit her. I know that sounds kind of like a contradiction but i will have to explain in more depth. In essence no one should hit anyone in a relationship but if you hit first be prepared to get hit

Answer 1

I'm so sick of this. The rule of etiquette is that a gentleman should never hit a lady, but this got twisted into a man should never hit a woman.

If both a woman is a lady and a man a gentleman, then neither would ever give cause to be hit by the other or have cause to hit the other. But there is a difference between being a lady and a gentleman, and being a woman and a man. If a person hits another person without just cause (being physically threatened is the only just cause), then they should expect that the other person might retaliate. You reap what you sow.

I've brought up the same point many times myself, but people are usually aghast by it, especially women.

Do women think it's okay to be hit by a man if they say something that he doesn't like? No way, and they shouldn't. A physical response to something verbal is wrong. So why do women constantly hit a man when he says something they don't like? Why doesn't the same reasoning apply to their behaviour?

Too much propaganda exist about women being the gentler of the species. It simply isn't true. If they would stop trying to control and bully men, then maybe their relationships would be better all around.

And I'm not saying anyone should hit someone back that hits them first. But if a person hits another person, then they certainly shouldn't be surprised to receive it back, if it does come. And they have deserved it.

Answer 2

I don't have boys, so I can only guess at what I would do. I teach my girls not to hit at all, even if someone (boy or girl) hits them first. I want them to know that hitting is not the answer. At this age (2 & 4) this concept is easy. However, when they get older, I'm gonna have to teach them that even though hitting is not the answer, neither is putting up with someone else's ****. That's gonna be the harder lesson to teach. But in theory, it should be the same lesson for boys AND girls.

Answer 3

I agree. I'm the kind of girl who knows that if I were to hit a man they'd have the right to hit me back. Which is why I don't hit people. LOL! I think in all fairness if you are going to tell your child to defend themselves it shouldn't be only if a boy hits them--it should be both.

SO many women want to be treated as equals AND that's what we should get including when it comes to fighting.

Of course I would never directly tell my boys to specifically hit girls or boys in defense. In defense I believe you should try to stop a fight by happening by holding the other child back or telling an adult. After all the minute a child hits back they're just as guilty. In my book it takes a bigger man to walk away.

Good question!

Answer 4

Well, i would teach my girls that if you hit a boy, you should expect to be hit back. BUT, i would never teach a boy that its okay to hit a girl back. Its kind of a reverse psychology thing i guess, tell a girl she might get hit, so she doesnt hit in the first place even though the boy wont hit her anyway :) i dont know. any guy should be man enough NOT to hit a woman no matter what, but the woman should never hit a man without the expectation of being hit back. whatever, this is confusing. lol

Answer 5

I have taught my son to not hit girls and boys. But i have also taught him if someone hits him to go and tell on them and if they hit him again then it is okay for my son to hit them back.

My son has been hit once or twice on the playground by a girl but he won't hit them back for nothing. He will come to me and tell me what happened then i will tell that mother that their daughter hit my son so then you know that kid gets jumped onto and tells my son that they are sorry. But i have got to the point to where i told my son if that certain girl hits you again hit her back.

I don't think that if a woman and a man where fighting and she said hit me then i do not think that he should hit her. That is wrong. Nobody should hot anyone but if a man hits a woman and then the woman says hit her back what the heck it that solving or proving? Nothing.

A man does not hit a woman and if they do they are not a real man to begin with.

Answer 6

no boys should never hit girls or vice versa. but think about it. when girls do hit its more of a pathetic slap when a guy hits its full on. this is why girls get away with it. having said that i do not beleive they should be able to hit guys without something in return, perhaps a good talking to. girls will respond better if a guy tells them how it made them feel when she hit him. guilt trip. worked for me and i have not even tapped my fiance in years. this doesn't make the guy any less masculine to talk about it rather then get physical wouldn't you agree.

Answer 7

OK here is my opinion. I don't think it is right to hit Your husband, or Wife. boyfriend or girlfriend. There is never an occasion that makes it OK. It is to easy to walk away.

There is an exception to this law though. I do think that brothers should be allowed to hit their sister if she is hitting them.

I know that some girls and women think it is OK to hit a man and I know that it is much more socially acceptable. but it is not right. and it is not right to make your son take it when his sister hits him.

Answer 8

I was taught as a child never to start a fight, do what I could to avoid one, but if someone hits me, take my part and defend myself. I teach that to my kids now. I think it's a good strategy. As far as a man hitting a woman, I have to agree with you. If a woman balls up her fist and punches a man, I think that he has every right to defend himself if he chooses to. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. I don't condone domestic violence, but I don't think a man should just sit back and let a woman beat on him either. And it does happen, but usually the woman is the one who gets away with it.

Answer 9

My son is tough because his father made him that way he's a marine and teaches out son to never cry. When a girl hits him he usually just screams his lil baby talk at her and walks away (he's 17 months old) but one time when we were at the park a lil girl about 2 or so kept hitting my son i just sat there because i knew her mother saw her but she didn't say anything i just waited to see what he would do and the lil girl was being so brutal that i kind of wanted him to hit her back and thats just what he did. he jumped on the lil brat and punched her in the face 3 good times that lil girl never messed with him again. i don't want my son hitting girls but if its necessary im all for it.

Answer 10

know matter what a man should be man enough to never hit back,if she's attacking,there's ways to avoid hitting,like running away holding her down until she's calm,calling the police,but men shouldn't hit woman shouldn't hit,know one should hit anyone. the world would be happier without hitter's.