ok, everytime i like a guy, i try very hard to get that guy to notice me. but when he starts to actually take an interest in me....i back away. why is that? i really need to know. what do you think? am i scared or something? i dont know. i know i shouldnt be asking complete strangers about how im feeling, i know it would be almost impossible for you to know.but i just want to see other perspectives. please answer. and please dont be sarcastic about it?
2007-03-09 15:23:36 · 6 answers · asked by Sabby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ps:what should i do to help myself?
2007-03-09 15:33:50 · update #1
Maybe it's just that you haven't found the right guy yet. It could be that once a guy takes interest in you and you get to know him better, then you back away because you sense he's not right for you. It's your intuition talking. And it's a good idea to always be in tune with your gut feeling, your intuition. Even if it's just a vague feeling that you can't explain.
When you meet the right guy, everything will fall into place. And then HE will notice YOU first. And you won't have to work at all at making him get to notice you.
My perspective? You write that you're trying hard to get them to notice you. Maybe try something different for a while. Sort of like an experiment. For a couple of weeks, just let go of trying. Don't try to make any guy notice you. Just be normal around guys (I mean, be nonchalant and friendly and nice and happy, without an agenda). See what happens.
It could maybe be that you're trying too hard. A bit of mystery is often a good thing. Make them come to you.
2007-03-09 15:35:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Scared
2007-03-09 23:25:34 · answer #2 · answered by Wocka wocka 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I'd say you're scared. I know a lot of women like this. They crave attracting a guy and do everything they can in the flirting stage. But when it starts to get real and the guy reponds back, they either lose interest, back off, or get freaked out. So yeah, I'd definitely say it's a case of fear.
2007-03-09 23:27:27 · answer #3 · answered by curious-gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, it sounds like you have issues with intimacy. I don't mean the sexual kind, I mean the kind that comes with "commitment" to a guy or relationship.
2007-03-09 23:32:09 · answer #4 · answered by nick_nunya2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do the same thing......I do it because I'm scared...I'm afraid that if he gets to know me he may not like me.....It mayb a self esteem issue, I'm not sure.....But I hope you find your answer.
2007-03-09 23:28:46 · answer #5 · answered by Yvette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
scared and insecured.
2007-03-09 23:30:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋