Parents do you teach your kids if someone hits them to hit them back or to go tell an adult?

Question

I was taught by my mother never to take a hit. Also never to hit someone first. She said if someone hit you man woman boy girl you hit them back twice as hard. I was in about four or five fights in elementry and junior high all not sarted by me. I got suspended or detention but i was not punished at home because i did not strat it. All the kids confrimed in the princpels office that they hit me first and that i was just defending myself . What do you teach your kids

Answer 1

Get back out there and hit them twice as hard. that is what I was told by my Dad.
I tell my son the same. He never starts trouble but if a kid hits him first they better be able to run fast cos he cant half pack a punch. But I think being able to stick up for themselves is a good thing. I would hate to think of my child being bullied when he starts high school, but at the same time I would hate to think of him bullying another child. I would never tell him off for hitting back.

Answer 2

It's difficult to tell a child that because you do not know what you unleash. I think you have to teach the child to think things out and reason. If they child is genuine scared of being harmed then I would tell them to run but fight back if they were chased or attacked. It's a hard call because you do not want a child that goes around with a chip on their shoulder; this makes for big trouble when they get older. They have to be taught how to rationalize thinking processes.

Answer 3

i teach mine to turn the other cheek

this was after the day he taught one of the school bullies the hard way what being on the receiving end was like

i did have to punish him because of the complaint i got from school (just no TV that evening) - but secretly we felt proud of him for sorting out that lil situation - he learned new confidence and the other guy was never going to pick on HIM again.
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he also now acts like a peacemaker among other kids by acting cute when they are facing off to break the tension - and befriending (and keeping an eye on) another lad who is known to bully and help pull the other lads conduct up by the bootstraps

far better that way as i don't want him to be seen as a magnet for fighting

Answer 4

Im no mom, but I have been around kids longe enough to know that when your hit go tell if nothing is done then fight back....It says in the bible if someone hits you then turn and let them do the other side....As for myself I dont belive God put us here to fight but to care and love for each other, I also dont think God put anyone here to be pushed around. Your kids however I think they will do what they think is right even if sometimes its not...Thats all about being kids thoe, they will growup doing and being what ever they choose, but you as a good mother you always have questions that I think you know what is best...So I can only say good luck!

Answer 5

I never teach them to hit, a long time ago that may have worked, kids didn't bring knifes and guns to school quite as often and they didn't gang up on kids and kill them or rape them. They got in their fights, got their butts kicked or won, which ever and went on their way. Not today. I always teach my children to come to me or to tell an adult. Now my oldest two are 5 and 6 so they sometimes forget and hit back. But they are getting better everyday.

Answer 6

i have a 8 yr old boy who oddly enough i am dealing with this problem now.
I have told him repeatly, that if someone hits, kicks, punches, etc....that he is to go tell someone who is in charge. the teacher, bus driver, lunch lady, etc. I am trying to get him to understand that it takes the bigger person to walk away, than it is to stand there and hit the person back who hits him first. But, imagine my surprise, when i got a letter from the bus company that my son had hit another child back after the child hit him.....when i asked why he hit back, he said its cause his dad (my exhusband) has been telling him its ok to hit, kick, punch etc......so needless to say i went off on my exhusband.(kids were no where around) i might have talked like an adult to him, but this is the same man who plays daddy when he wants too, calls when its a good time for him. our daughter is almost 5, and i would say out of 5 years, he was around maybe 2 or 2 1/2 years. So hopefully with your child, you dont have an exhusband giving him conflicting advice with what u are giving him.

Answer 7

I taught my daughter that if someone hits her she has every right to defend herself with whatever means she chooses, that is hitting back or telling someone. If my daughter got in trouble at school for it I would stand by what I had taught her. I realize schools have policies that they have to implement because of the number of students...however if she were to be suspended at home it would be "business as usual", and she wouldn't get into trouble for standing up for herself.

Answer 8

Teach you're kid to never fight, unless forced to. Tell them that unless someone hits them first, they should not hit back. Avoid hitting the other person (even if they hit you first). Just try to dodge the hit or block it. Warn the person not to strike, and tell them that you're not afraid to strike back.

If the person continues, then let that sucker have it, only until they've fallen. Then let them go.

power is not having the ability or control over something or someone and using/abusing it. It is having control and power but not using it.

That is the greater person...

hope this helps!

Answer 9

well im not a parent, but what would you prefer, i mean did you like missing school and being suspended? If you call yourself a parent, you would want the best for your kids. Show them to stand up for themselves and there are different ways of doing that without getting into fights. Show them the consequences of gettting into fights and how they dont get anything out of them. You have to learn from your mistakes, so teach your kids the right thing, not bad habbits or influences

Answer 10

When I was in public school, my Mom said that if anyone were to ever hit me, to give them a hard kick in the crotch. Then she said she's cuss out the prinipal for not allowing kids to defend themselves. I agree with her, cause kicking someone where the sun don't shine for self defense is a good idea.

Now I know why God made men to have balls!