Christians Only- Should I date someone who is not a Christian?

Question

I know that Christians should court and not really date. I like this guy who is not a Christian. He's a nice guy but I know it would be better if he's a Christian. He knows my belief about waiting until marriage before I have sexual intercourse. However, we did kiss before. I want to know what I should do. Should I try to pursue a relationship with him or should I just find another Christian?

Answer 1

Don't do anything. Wait and see what he does. If he is really interested in you he will seek out the Lord. Maybe God put you where you are at to set an example to him and to show him the way . If the Lord means for you to be with this guy, It will happen.

Answer 2

Well if he isn't a trouble maker of some sort and in general a good guy I would say go for it. I am Christan and in the past I have dated a non-christian the first guy respected my decision perfectly and in general was a good guy but it didn't work out. Just be firm with your beliefs and make sure he knows you are very into it. What religion is he? Maybe he could go to church with you sometime (later when you've been dating a while) or if you're church is having some sort of "party" or outing he can come to. Good Luck

Answer 3

If you wanna hear it from a Christian perspective, no, you should not date him. There are 'nice' people all around but they don't know God. You can start up slowly with him, introduce him to your Christian life. See how it goes, if you're able to bring him to Christ then you have saved a soul for Christ and it's a good thing. If he cannot accept Jesus, you and him will not work out good in long run as you two have different beliefs. Being with a non Christian is not that much of a sin, but turning against God hurts Him as God is a jealous God. I'm happy that you're seeking for answer but maybe you wanna try consult people in church. Someone like an aunt in church or someone whom you feel comfortable with. Trust me, they are more than willing to help. God will honor your question and effort. God bless you.

Bear in mind that there're a lot of people twisting the word of God to their benefits. Find peace in things you do, for peace is from God. Getting an answer here isn't that suitable.

Answer 4

Well....... Just because you go out with the guy does that mean that he is going to expect you guys to have sex? If so then no you shouldnt date him if thats what you dont want to do. But as for you being a Christain and him not being one regardless of what you think right now, if you date him now and then really start to fall for him later and he decides that your religion is something that he wants no part of then what are you going to do? Leave him, be with him change for him or continue to be a Christian... You need to decide that for yourself before you pursue anything further. He's not going to decide where you spend eternity.

Answer 5

You probably shouldn't get physical any more with him, because you know how those things can escalate. If your viewing dating as a stepping stone to marriage, if he is not open to learning about your christian beliefs, then I would say, don't date him anymore. But if he shows an interest, then I think he deserves a second or third date.

Answer 6

If both share a feeling ,you could try talking to him in the respect to possible attend some of your belief functions this way he would be coming your way while you keep a eye on the relation and stay friends until you see what you want in your heart sometimes one have to lead another just have a open mind and be fair in all things and doing.

Answer 7

It's easy for us answerers who aren't in your situation to sit here and say, "Hey, drop the guy and date Christians only!" But in reality, the decision is hard and less simple than that.

There are at least two things to consider, I think...

1. If you pursue the relationship and get married, there will likely be confusion. For example, if you have kids, what will you teach them about God? Will you be able to agree? Without the common foundation of both being Christians, you may find yourself trying to tell him about moral standards and such, but he may not be able to understand.

2. There is the possibility of your devotion to God swaying him to become a Christian. There's Scripture for this, 1 Peter 3:1-7...

1 Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives,

2 when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.

3 Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes.

4 Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight.

5 For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful. They were submissive to their own husbands,

6 like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her master. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.

7 Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.

(from the NIV)


But I would like to point out, also, that relationships are about both partners loving each other and understanding each other. Also, as tough as it is to hear, feelings are not the primary thing we should pay attention to when deciding these things.

I pray that you will make the best decision.

God bless.

Answer 8

It was said that Christ made man in his own image, It did not say that he made only Christian men that way.
If you like him, go with it.
My sister is the president of the Rosary Society at the Catholic church and she is married 45 years to a Jew.
She is treated better than any woman I know.

Answer 9

No, if you've gotta ask, then its obviously a big thing for you.Suppose he continues not to be Christian, you wouldn't be able to continue the relationhip and you would have invested a whole lot into it which you'd have to throw away. Better to nip it at the bud. Mind you, I know lots of mixed religion couples, but they coudn't be said to be particularly religious which you seem to be.

Answer 10

We should not date, or even court, the unsaved! If you do so, it's more likely they'll make you backslidden or convert you. God tells us not to be friends or form leagues with the unsaved. Remember the story of Abraham, who asked his servant to go all the way to his homeland to bring a wife to Isaac? That's because Abraham knew Isaac shouldn't be dating/marrying the unsaved!