my gf broke up with me after being together for 8 months things were really serious we were in love and really wanted to be together forever, she said she was so happy to have a guy like me cause we never fought or anything and i treated her like a princes she said, well she broke up with me cause she said she dont feel the same about me anymore she said she still loves me and cares about me and wants to be my friend and it really hurts cause we planned a life together and everything and new what we wanted to do and i thought everything was good cause we never fought or anyhting and was always so happy together she said sometimes i was more like a parent then a bf to her but i can change if she would of jus talked to me about it i really love her and care so much about her and now i am lost and dont no what to do i thought things were going good and now i dont no about anything what can i do to get her back i really love her more than anything and would never hurt her please help!!
2007-03-09 15:05:50 · 12 answers · asked by Brandon D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont stress she will come around when she realizes what great guy u really are and how much u care for her.or just forget about her there are plenty of fish in the sea (if u know wat me wink wink)k-k dont stress
2007-03-09 15:12:15 · answer #1 · answered by blah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath for starters. You two do need to talk. Tell her you are not satisfied with her reason. Explain to her how you feel and LISTEN to how she feels. She may be stressed about other things at the moment and feels pressure and needs to breath her self. If you can't work things out at the moment, remember this, if you love someone, let them go, if it is meant to be, they will return. Until then move on and live your life the best you can. Don't pressure her, because that will only push her further away. Instead, just be there for her and listen to what she has to say and respect how she feels. You sound like a very nice guy and you will find the right one for you if it is her or not, you just wait and see.
2007-03-09 23:14:12 · answer #2 · answered by mom of 2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go up to her and tell her that you still care about her deeply. Ask her calmly what went wrong in your relationship. Then give her some space for a while. If after a few months you still feel lost without her, go back and tell her that you still love her. She might just be feeling overwhelmed by the whole "planning a life together" thing. maybe she just needs to think things through. Good luck!
2007-03-09 23:13:04 · answer #3 · answered by Dr Fernando 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. All I have to say is I don't think either of you was ready for a 'forever' relationship. I think you might have been too clingy, something she wasn't ready for. And the fact that you mention you'll change for her.....that's never a good sign. It just shows you're more interested in holding on to her rather than enjoying each others company. Just give it time and let it cool off. If you were meant to be then it will eventually happen. There's no rush to get anywhere right now.
p.s. punctuation also helps sometimes.
2007-03-09 23:11:58 · answer #4 · answered by curious-gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can break up with her and go with me, and plus that situation with your gf is that she is trying to show you that she needs you the most. also when she is trying to make you jealous saying that she still is having feelings for u but she is trying to say that you probably a little bit overcontroling or arent really acting like your self. just be like when you 2 were first together go out do something that you havent done in a while?, or go over some of the good times , buy her something ok but dont bug people too much .
2007-03-09 23:12:51 · answer #5 · answered by Yvonne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, you need to calm down buddy. Give the situation some time. Not to discourage you or anything but she might be involved with somebody else coz I don't see any other valid reason for breaking up a "healthy" relationship(according to what u described). She left you and that's a sign that you deserve better than that. Good Luck!
2007-03-09 23:11:50 · answer #6 · answered by AnGeLeYeZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to be with a jerk and/or be really hurt before she'll appreciate a guy like you. Sorry but it's true.
At this point, the more you try to be sweet the worse things will get, she'll start to think you're whipped (which you are but she doesn't need to know that)
Girls want a guy who acts like a guy, not a caregiver.
Good luck
2007-03-09 23:10:54 · answer #7 · answered by MissDixie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with the guy above,dont dweell,move on.Trust me if it was meant to be u 2 will get together later on,perhaps you will find the true love of your life now.perhaps she will come back.SHES obviously misssing out if you treated her like a princess,do it with the next one,dont be afraid to.1 lucky girl is sure to find this out in fall for you.WHO KNOWS>good luck
then again Autumn may be right as well,try her advice first.,then move on if it doesnt work
2007-03-09 23:13:35 · answer #8 · answered by spindymindi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her these things. Tell her you'd be willing to change if she'd just tell you what was bothering her. Tell her that you love her and would never hurt her and want her back. You're not going to solve anything without talking to her about it.
2007-03-09 23:10:06 · answer #9 · answered by MrMarblesTI 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this is a familiar question. look, she dumped you. she doesn't want you. sorry if that sounds harsh but it is what it is. dust yourself off get up and move forward. life is short and if you continue to pursue this you are going to get in some real trouble (legal) or you are going to get seriously hurt (physically). time to move on.
2007-03-09 23:13:49 · answer #10 · answered by simplyme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you have reposted this same question i have to tell you that you need to chill out and relax. you are almost stalkerish. you need to give her some time and then call her to see if you can have another chance. do not call or email her for a while or you will make her mad.
2007-03-09 23:10:07 · answer #11 · answered by misse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋