I'm 20 years old and still a virgin. Trust me its not by choice for some reason when I do get close I freak out. It's really affecting my relationships I think, what should I do????
2007-03-09 15:02:00 · 11 answers · asked by HoneyBrisk 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You could start by changing your view of yourself. What men don't understand about women (and many women don't understand about themselves) is that if we don't feel beautiful, desirable, loved and safe, then NOTHING good is going to happen!
Empower yourself, sweetie. Try seeing yourself as the Goddess of your own private mythology. YOU choose who has the right to worship at your altar. YOU choose who is worthy. YOU are the one who makes things happen, no one else.
You'd be amazed at how great you can feel, when it's your choice.
2007-03-09 15:13:43 · answer #1 · answered by Solstice 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel. trust me. some people just arent interested in sex. if the case is that you don't actually care one way or another, you might be asexual, and are putting yourself in the situation because you think its about damn time you lost your virginity (don't let it scare you. there's a great site: asexuality.org that can help you out a lot). if you are finding yourself in good, healthy relationships beforehand, it may just be that you don't make a connection between love and sex. it could be part of the environment that you grew up in, or past relationship experiences. "fearless sex" is a book you might like to read, if you truly are interested in becoming sexual, and just can't get yourself to do it. you may even just have a low hormone level. nothing to be afraid of. if it's really getting to you, you should ask your doctor and maybe a therapist about it. you'll feel much better.
2007-03-12 03:35:17 · answer #2 · answered by jdud 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe its a hint that your not ready or your scared of making the wrong choice of just doing it with ur current partner when the time is right you wont freak out 4 sure just dont rush
2007-03-09 23:08:13 · answer #3 · answered by SnUggLes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a partner who is willing to take baby steps with you so that you don't feel rushed into something. It's nt a big deal to be chaste, and somewhere there is a guy who is willing to take as long as you need to feel comfortable before you "go all the way".
2007-03-09 23:10:31 · answer #4 · answered by Master Ang Gi Guong 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alright no BS. im 22 and my ex use to be just like u sound and i think is a thing of finding the righ person a person that 1 appreciate u and that you fell comfortable with that u know they are not going to make fun or tell anybody and just let it happend is a good thing that sooner or later is going to happen to you and that the first times u are not going to enjoy but then u are going to like .
2007-03-09 23:10:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are truely ready to have sex you will not freak out. If you just do it to do it you might regret it and losing your virginity is something you can't go back on.
2007-03-09 23:06:03 · answer #6 · answered by kaicey247 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... im scared too but im 15.... but ya if the loves really there you wont be scared..!!!!! IT WILL HAPPEN NATURALLY. but hey who would take advice by a 15 year old
2007-03-09 23:07:26 · answer #7 · answered by Desirae H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be proud of that cuz some gurlz loose their virginity at a very young age.
2007-03-09 23:08:18 · answer #8 · answered by L.Rae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should close your eyes when you do it, or have a lot more foreplay?
2007-03-09 23:08:37 · answer #9 · answered by OOOOLALA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just jump in and do it!
2007-03-09 23:17:38 · answer #10 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋