He's 15 months old and thinks it's hilarious to start kicking his feet as hard as he can when I'm changing him. I tell him "no" very firmly every time....he laughs. I have moved away from him so he can't kick me.... he moves and actually aims for me. I've tried ignoring him, I've tried time out, I've held his legs so he can't kick, I've tried toys, singing, yelling, even a little swat on the butt, and nothing works. Any helpful advice would really be appreciated. I'm very frustrated! Thanks!!
2007-03-09 14:58:07 · 21 answers · asked by luvbabysky 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
OK, other than ignore the behavior so he doesn't get a reaction, I would recommend getting stickers. Put them on the back of each of his hands at the start of the change. By the time he is done studying them and trying to get them off, you're done and bruise free.
2007-03-09 16:40:26 · answer #1 · answered by n2mama 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
First you need to hold his feet together while you are changing him. Then if he tries to kick or free his feet from your grasp you need to give him a firm swat on the back of the leg or rear end. Tell him no kicking when you do this. I love the other responses that have said not to spank because it will teach him to hit, HELLO he's kicking his mother! I'm a firm believer in spanking, I don't think it should be the only form of discipline parents use, but in this case he needs to stop the kicking. You have to be firm and let him no you are in charge. Don't give him any options, he's needs to be still or he'll get a spank. And it needs to be hard enough to get his attention, a little tap isn't going to do it. I'm not saying to beat your child, there is a huge difference between beating and spanking, but it needs to sting a little so he knows you mean it. I've said it many times and I'll say it again, kids need choices but there are some things that are just not negotiable, and kicking mom during diaper change time is not an option. Take care.
2007-03-10 00:51:59 · answer #2 · answered by disneychick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wap his lil heinee a little harder next time. Let him know you mean BUSINESS! My 2 year old has been a wild one too. I can totally relate. None of my kids tried half the stuff he does. He went through exactly the same phase, he finally figured out that I wasn't going to play his little "diaper game". After changing him, do something fun with him, he's just trying to learn WHEN fun time is, since apparently diaper time isn't much fun for HIM either. He's laughing because he's a little evil genius baby! lol
Don't worry, we all get frustrated. There should be a "moms with crazy boy toddlers" night at the bar....let the babysitter get kicked a while!
Good luck, and don't worry. It DOES get better. :)
2007-03-09 15:59:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
We found the best thing for this is a calm but firm "no thank you" and holding both of the feet together works wonders. A spank at a time like that can be counter-productive so, try your best to resist that option. The calm voice works well with the right words and, it's been wonderful for my wife and I with our now 4 1/2 year old son.
2007-03-09 18:54:38 · answer #4 · answered by Smudga 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
swatting his leg might help... I've heard of ppl biting when the toddler bites them... and if you've tried moving so he can't reach you and several other things, you may have no choice but to give him a little pop on the leg-- then hold his leg down and say, "No, Do Not Kick!"
Hopefully he will outgrow this soon! Good Luck.
2007-03-09 15:04:25 · answer #5 · answered by Bio Instructor 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In a stern voice tell him its not okay. Maybe even a gentle little tap on his thigh might wake him up. If not, too avoid getting kicked, potty train him. Then he can kick the crap out of the toilet if he wants too. lol If all else fails, he'll grow out of it. But like anything else, to change a behavior will take time so anything you choose, stick with it or he will not take you seriously, EVER.
2007-03-09 15:03:31 · answer #6 · answered by Crystal Rene 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to spank him. Hard. On his bare little bottom (unless it's covered in poop). I have never had a problem wtih kids wiggling/struggling on the changing table because I establish from the first time they are able to start doing it that it is UNACCEPTABLE. My 10 month old started trying it at about 8 months and a few good spanks nipped it in the bud. He hasn't needed to be spanked for over a month--he lays there smiling and quiet and good as gold.
2007-03-09 15:36:10 · answer #7 · answered by toomanycommercials 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am going through this same thing right now. I have been trying the "no" thing...yeah he laughs and kicks harder. Got me in the throat the other day. Anyway, the woman around me think the best way is to ignore the behavior and it will cease in a week or so. I started yesterday. It seems to bore him when I don't say oww or ouch or something. You might try it.
2007-03-09 16:53:02 · answer #8 · answered by motherducky1975 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He's only doing it to get a reaction from you. Perhaps you think your being firm but he obviously thinks it's still okay for him to do it. He thinks it's funny and your letting him get away with it. Try ignoring it again..but this time don't show any body language or reaction. And remember..it's not going to work right away..keep ignoring him for the time being..and maybe the first few times don't look at him in the eye. Many times, I've noticed when kids try to get a reaction from me they always look me in the eye..they want to know if they had an effect on me. Good luck
2007-03-09 15:15:11 · answer #9 · answered by Sydney 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
the best that i can tell you is to hold his legs and say "no... that is not nice... no kicking. be consistant.. i know you already tried that but he is only 15 months old. he is testing your paitence and believe me... dont let him do it not even once.. or he will think it is ok.
DO NOT HIT OR SPANK YOUR CHILD!!!!!!!! in some states.. spanking to a certain extent is against the law. and it teaches your child to hit and it passes from generation to generation.. remember when you got spanked or hit(IF YOU DID) you dont want to go through that with your little one.. distract... give him a cracker...a toy or even pull his legs to his chest and be quick about it.. the faster and neater you go he wont have time to react.. i did my 2 year old that way... fast and easy.....
2007-03-09 16:15:17 · answer #10 · answered by Ruth 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋