Before I broke up with my ex, whenever I'd fall asleep, he'd put the moves on me and I'd completely freeze up when I came to and never knew what to do. He'd reach his hands in unmentionable areas, he'd fondle my chest and even tried to pull my pants down a couple of times.
I never told anyone about this. but today, I saw pictures of him, as as soon as I saw his hands and fingers...I feel like I'm going to/want to throw up.
Is this normal? If so how can I make it stop or get rid of it?
I really don't know what to do...
2007-03-09 14:55:21 · 2 answers · asked by toronto_leafs 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
It certainly sounds like you felt violated and you seem to be experiencing some PTSD symptoms as a result of the experience. I would recommend that you talk to a therapist about what happened as they can help you find ways to cope with what happened and perhaps explore some options around whether you may be able or even want to press charges. It is difficult to tell from your post here for certain, but it sounds like you may have experienced other trauma prior to what happened with him and therapy could really help you heal from all that you've endured. "Freezing" is a very common response to trauma and to triggers that resemble the trauma. Even though you are safe from him now (I am hoping that you are), the aftereffects of the experience are still causing you great pain, so please seek out a therapist who can and will help you heal. You have every right to feel what you do, but there is no reason you should have to suffer.
2007-03-09 16:16:24 · answer #1 · answered by Opester 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well what he did he should have asked you if you would like to take part in that type of activity before he ever started. he violated you. and you know it. you have a right to want to throw up about that. you might want to talk to a counselor that might help it might not.
2007-03-09 14:59:47 · answer #2 · answered by joethemetaldude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋