Taking care of your child together or pay/accept child support, which choice would b more comfortable for you?

Question

If you are parents thats taking care of your child, giving your child all the love and foundation of being together as a family, i commend you, may GOD keep your family shielded. But if you're not living with child's mother or if you're not living with the child father, in other words, your child does not have two parents in their household, I commend you also for being the better parent of deciding to taking care of your child. You feel being that child's parent, there's no other way of giving this child everything they need accept of the fact that you're doing this as a single parent and that's wonderful.
Sometimes, in some instances, the other parent just cant be in the same household as the one living with the child for what ever reasons. There are many cases in which the mother doesn't want anything from the childs father due to problem between the two, vise versa and would rather recieve the child support and be done with it. I dont have any kids and i dont understand this...

I would think that it would take both parents working together but i know that not always the case.

I would think that it would take both parents working together but i know that not always the case. I dont have an answer thats why i want to know what you think?

Answer 1

not all parents put their children first; so blinded by anger, spite, revenge, and hate. some just blow off their children and go about their lives... so...

The way I see it, your one of these:
1) a positive example in your childs life
2) a neutral example in your childs life
3) a negative example in your childs life

if you’re a negative example, such as calling the other parent names to the child, trying to gain an ally in the child, putting the child in the middle of adult issues, discussing child support or court orders, then I feel time should be limited or supervised.

Answer 2

It is ideal to want a two parent home. But if the two parents can not get along and stay together just for the sake of the child they will do more damage to the child than good. The child deserves to see two happy healthy parents regardless if they are at the same address. It is also good to teach kids life is change.

Answer 3

I think your asking how can some one not accept help from The other parent, Well some times it is better for the children. I have kids from a previous relationship. And I do not want any help from their biological father. He was mean, selfish, and if i accepted child support he would have the right to take on visitation. So to protect them I refused and he dropped out of our lives. Now they have a wonder full Man in their lives who treats them as they deserve, with love and is completely devoted to them. So I hope I answered your question some times its whats best for the children, As a parent it is my duty to protect them even from some one who helped to create them .

Answer 4

My mothers a single parent. Why? Because my father was very abusive to me. He does pay child support, but I would be afraid to be around him; He held knives on me and did all sorts of messed up things. I believe it's different for everyone. We as humans are selfish and revengeful so for some it may be to get back at the other person for cheating, lying, etc... BUT whatever one thinks they should put the child's interests FIRST!

Answer 5

I was a single Mom for a few years, and I accepted the child support. After my first ex got remarried, his wife threw an absolute fit over child support, even having enough nerve, to ask me to sign the checks, cash them, and give them back to them. She has sever jealousy issues. My ex, and I are friends and its sad, because we cant tell her. We have to sneek phone calls, and its 10 years later...
Anyway..she, his new wife called me money hungry because I accepted the child support that was garnished from his check, and the child support office mailed to me.
About 4 years ago..enough was enough, Im remarried, and my husband makes great money, My ex's wife created such a hassle, and made comment to our child..she was very emotionally damaging...that I went to court and asked the Judge to drop the child support, that I didnt want it anymore.
All because of this jealous woman. My ex, has called me repeately and apologized, just last weekend, while he was at work...
Its terribly sad, Our daughter is 18 now, and has NO respect for this woman.
After they dropped the support, I asked for $25, just for help with school clothes, she went off on me...so she made him take it out on our daughter, and they didnt speak to my daughter for a year. But the whole time, my ex would call me and apologize...
Hopefully one day, he will grow some...But until then, its sad, she loses more and more respect everyday....
Im not trying to talk bad, this is just my experience...
I dont want his money, my daughter doesnt...
So yes, it was easier just dropping it...But it wasnt because of the other parent, it was his wife...
It was and still is a very sad situation...
Hope this helps...

Answer 6

It's always good to have two parents to shoulder the load. Even if you are paying child support you should try to be involved and set an example. Why wouldn't you want to guide your child's development?

Answer 7

My childs father left when he was 6 mths old...we divorced.. i'm not mad... he remarried ..due to belifs i didn'twant his new wife around my son... i gave him a choice spousal support, child support and visitation...or.. he pays me no money and get no visitation and i get sole custody... He took the later... i remarried.... when my son was two..he is now 19.. and in the Air Force...and doing great.... Life is what it is..

Answer 8

Both parents should be in their children's lives as much as possible. If you cannot you should at least provide financial support. You should always attempt not to ramble aimlessly.

Answer 9

so a question with your own answer

Answer 10

Sometimes it is not your choice.