Is it to make the parents happy and/or impress their friends and coworkers who are invited? Wouldn't it make more sense to find alternatives that do make them happy or skip them altogether? If something is not important to a couple, why waste time and money on it?
2007-03-09 14:38:57 · 9 answers · asked by Cinnamon 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
People do it for many reason, but you are right they mainly want to make their parents happy or just think it is expected.
Do what makes you happy. If people really love yall then they will want what is best for you. It is your wedding, make it express who you both are as a couple.
BTW..I had the candle lighting thing.
2007-03-09 15:51:41 · answer #1 · answered by myview 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea. When people found out we were not having the traditional church wedding we got the third degree. We just didn't want the whole big fuss. You are exactly right. People go into serious debt trying to keep up with the Jones's ... instead of just doing what makes them happy. Our wedding was just as elegant as anyones... and it was like 700 bucks...
Why have that huge, expensive wedding when tomorrow everyone will be talking about it... she used the wrong flowers, I didn't like that music... blah, blah, blah.
2007-03-10 02:28:13 · answer #2 · answered by mrslang1976 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I honestly question this myself! I say do whatever makes you happy (as long as it's not offensive to your guests!).
For example, I am walking down the aisle myself, and not using the traditional "Wedding March" or bouquets.
However, I will not be seeing my fiance before the wedding/he will not see my dress. Many couples I know have shared a limo BEFORE the ceremony, and ditched this rule.
It's all up to you. Don't let anyone else tell you how to have YOUR wedding. You're not paying to be unhappy!
2007-03-10 00:15:08 · answer #3 · answered by reginachick22 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tradition is a part of a family's heritage, it is the "ties that bind". Maybe we don't always understand the importance of it until we are older, and at the time, some things may seem unimportant, or tedious, but when they are gone...you realize that it wasn't so unimportant after all. My dad used to make a big deal over Halloween, trying to out costume me, scare the kids, etc...My mom thought it was "so ridiculous". I lost him 3 yrs. ago, and our family has really fallen apart since then, turns out, HE was the one that made us WANT to be together on holidays, made us feel important, laugh, have fun, and remember why we loved each other. Hold on to your traditions honey, you don't realize what you've got till it's gone.
2007-03-09 22:48:19 · answer #4 · answered by lizrdluvnmom 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Maybe they would rather continue the tradition than disappoint those that expect the tradition to be followed. Sometimes, what seems like a waste to one, is not seen that same way by another.
2007-03-09 22:43:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because some people need to please others. They put what makes someone else happy above what makes them happy, most often to simply not have to fight about it. Sometimes they are so insecure in themselves that they need the rules of tradition to follow because they are not confident enough in themselves to lead instead of follow.
2007-03-10 00:44:36 · answer #6 · answered by galixcysmagic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They think it is expected of them. They gather it is important. They don't want to "make waves". It is a small sacrifice and they guess they better get it done and over with.
2007-03-09 22:43:07 · answer #7 · answered by kasandra k 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
because parents force us..If we choose not to do it we look bad and everyone from the family treats us differently..On thanksgiving me and my man would rather be at the casino, but noooo, we have to be with our families
2007-03-09 23:15:01 · answer #8 · answered by IceQueen 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
do your \own thing
2007-03-09 22:55:55 · answer #9 · answered by Nora 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋