What do you think I should do???

Question

My parents and my girlfriend's parents are friends. I known her when she was born and she know me when I was born. I found her very attractive when she is 7 years old. She liked me also. so we gotten together as boyfriend / girlfriend since age 8.We are now both 17 years old and we both love each other so much. We didn't graduate from high school yet. 2 months ago, we had sex. and now, she is pregnant. The wierdest thing is that I used the withdrawal method. I would never leave her. She's the only girl for me. Our original plans was to get married after we graduate from college. How do I explain to my parent's and my girlfriend's parents? I have a job. And now, my money is going to our future baby. I don't want to start a family yet. I was going to start a family with her when we got married. What do you think I should do?

Answer 1

Well, when you play you pay. The best thing you can do is to step up and be a man. Just be straight with both of your parents and tell the truth. The withdrawal method is not very safe (which I am sure you realize now). It is still possible to go to college and take care of a baby. A lot of colleges have apartments for low income students with children. Good luck to you.

Answer 2

You are very young. I had my 1st child when I was 19 and it was very difficult. We had been dating since we were 15. It only lasted till I was 22. What happens in those relationships is that the two grow up together. Usually growing apart. When you are as young as you are you do not realize how much you will change as you become older.
Right now I only have two children. One 16, the other is 6. We have problems w/ fertility and desperately want just one more child. If you do decide to not keep the child, just know that there are many people out there who could provide a loving and stable home. If you decide to keep the child then try to always be a father and to be supportive of her no matter what. If she chooses an abortion then make sure she receives counseling because it can be very traumatizing. Good luck, my prayers are with you.

Answer 3

Don't wallow in your questions anymore because i think you already know what needs to be done. If you really love your girlfriend, you should've thought of the consequences of your actions before anything else. But since what's done is done, just be a man and step up to the challenge.

There's no easy way to tell your parents about something like this, but since you guys have already been a couple for the longest time, i think they wouldn't be surprised either. I won't butter things up for you and say that they won't get mad, because I'm telling you, they will. But, as i've said, it's just the effect of what already has been done and whatever reaction they have in store for you is something you rightly deserve.

and being in the 20th century entails that you can already start a family without actually getting "married" (at least not yet when you aren't ready). But live up to your being a father already and provide for your "family" because that's the only right thing to do. And don't forget to ask for help from your parents, friends and from your wife's parents too because no matter how much you say that "you can do it" by yourselves, reality check, you really can't - not without help. :)

Answer 4

Well depending on how far she is there are options . But if you really were planing on getting married down the road just talk to her and ask her opinion and what she wants, I'm sure your parents will be shocked at first because of your young age but in the end they will love the baby and help you along the way. You all should get together and discuss this soon. best wishes

Answer 5

You cant change the past. You need to be there for your child. You're only 17 but now youre gonna have to grow up. Face the music, get a job, and be a man. Poor thing...

Answer 6

well you took the chance and now it is time for the consequences. just be honest with them. do the best you can. just pray. and just remember that everything happens for a reason.