A sibling has harbored intense hatred and jealousy against me for many years and has acted on it in many ways that are very hurtful to me. This sibling's incessant defamation has resulted in very heavy losses of family in that I am no longer included in any family events. Where there is an overlap of membership in groups such as church this sibling relentlessly spreads negative information about me. I am put at a distinct disadvantage because people snub, ignore, look askance and I don't know the reason. How would you handle this?
2007-03-09 14:28:48 · 3 answers · asked by firstyearbabyboomer 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Thank you three. I am an adult - but that you thought I was a kid is very significant because it shows how childish the behavior is. Its just that I guess I was just too naive to see what was happening all those years until it got to the point when hard choices had to be made and my choices had to be made without the sibling who had been doing all this incredible stuff.
2007-03-09 15:38:15 · update #1
try talking to an adult about what is happening.
2007-03-09 15:06:58 · answer #1 · answered by singledad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
damn I never thought i would hear a story like mine , wow. I feel your pain I have had sibblings hate me for years just bcuz they feel I should have nothing & hated evryone who cares about me & start rumors & so on. I learned to make my own family & move on it hurts but all I can do & u is love yourself & cherrish the family u have with your children & spouse if u have one. My sisters hate me & my mother told me when i graduated , well didn't think u'd make it guess u did! Now isn't that hatelfull. & I tell myself yeah I made it on my own 4 me & now i can role model to my kids even when it gets hard u can make it no matter what & I was first to finsish college & highschool & not so much as a pat on the back , but I'm still standing
2007-03-09 22:45:44 · answer #2 · answered by pammybear1971 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IVE BEEN HANDLING THIS ISSUE FOR YEARS!!! EXCEPT IT WAS MAINLY MY UNCLE! SAME THING UR ISSUE IS AND I HAD TO LEARN TO DEAL WITH WITHOUT HELP!AS THE FAMILY WOULD BELIEVE HIM OR TAKE HIS SIDE AS IF I WERE TRASH!!! IVE COME TO DEAL WITH THIS AS JUST LIVING MY LIFE AND NOT NEEDING THEM FOR ANYTHING AND SHOWING THEM THAT I AM HAPPY, I SEPERATED MYSELF AND MADE A LIFE, THENNNNNN EVERYONE WANTED TO KNOW WHERE I WAS ETC. AND THEY HAD RESPECT FOR ME! SEE THE WAY TO DO IT, IS TO SEPERATE YOURSELF AND THEY WILL COME TO YOU!! DO NOT GO TO THEM!! THAT GIVES THEM THEIR POWER. PPL R GONNA SAY WHATEVER THEY WANT AND U HAVE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO PROVE TO ANYONE! HOLD URSELF HIGH WITH SELF RESPECT AND DONT BITE! ON ANYTHING THEY SAY! I COULD GO ON AND ON LOL SORRY
2007-03-09 22:39:05 · answer #3 · answered by shannonlee05@sbcglobal.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋