Ok I have been with my boyfriend for 5 months now and we only have been having sex for two months. I recently read this novel and in it the woman tied up her boyfriend and I thought it sounded like so much fun. But I don't know how to go about getting him to. He isn't that adventurous well not with his own body. I could see him saying ok to tying me up but the other way around i think he would try and act like i was only kidding with him. but i really want to.
Any ideas how to talk him into it?
2007-03-09 14:23:51 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell him you are serious and go to town on him...
2007-03-09 14:27:19 · answer #1 · answered by Dusty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That does sound exciting but you do have to keep in mind that pacing this sort of thing is very important. He may say no to something now that he will be comfortable with in three months. If you're both young, say in your teens or early 20s and haven't had many previous partners you are discovering sex together. Don't rush it. You have only been having sex with this guy for two months which is nothing in the scheme of things.
My suggestion: Be gentle. Lots of foreplay. Experiment with other positions and oral sex. Plenty of guys become a lot more adventurous when blowjobs are involved. It's kind of amazing actually. After a while when he gets more comfortable with experimenting you may be able to get him to be willing to have you tie his wrists to the bedposts with socks or something else that's soft or whatever. You're a lot more likely to be successful if it's done in a gentle, sexy way rather than a harsh, bossy way.
2007-03-09 22:34:41 · answer #2 · answered by lillyth17 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first, will you be my GF!!!
Not sure how you talk him into it. maybe if you offered to let him tie you up (or asked) and then you could say you'd like to try tieing him up to see what it's like??? A little risky in that you end up tied up first but maybe gets you to the ultimate goal. Of course if he likes tieing you up a lot and doesn't like being tied up at all ... well then this sort of backfired. Maybe it ends up you both like tyiing up the other but are ok with being tied up too, then you can take turns (might be kind of fun ... flip a coin and see where you end up for the night - hehe).
For what it's worth, I'd would love it if my gf wanted to tie me up. I might not show I love it by I certaintly wouldn't laugh it off or tell her no. I would gladly let her do it (and hoped she had fun and wanted to do it again ;-) ).
Maybe just ask or teasingly just start to do it. If he lets you tie his hands, then you're good to go.
Bert
(and yes . . . that's me in the leather skirt)
2007-03-12 13:08:10 · answer #3 · answered by bertd.geo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him about the book. About how there was a really hot sex scene and the girl tied the guy up. Tell him you think it would be hot and want to try it.
2007-03-09 22:28:45 · answer #4 · answered by MrMarblesTI 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't talk him into it. Just lead him into it the next time that you are having sex. Tell him to get in a chair or whatever and go for it.
2007-03-09 22:28:20 · answer #5 · answered by Vince R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be open and honest with him...most guys like to talk about that and it is great to find out what the other person likes...for most it involves an incredible amount of trust to allow someone to tie you up....but if you can both try to be open about it, it can lead to some great fun!
2007-03-09 22:29:01 · answer #6 · answered by daisy31 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he won't let you, I will!!!!!! Seriously I love it when a woman seduces me into it. When she says she has something special planned and then pulls out the ropes or handcuffs, in the heat of the moment who can refuse??
2007-03-10 06:44:44 · answer #7 · answered by tyemetght814 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start talking to him about it and getting him to imagine it.
It should sound pretty appealing to him.
If he gets excited about it enough, he'll be down for just about anything, I'll bet.
2007-03-09 22:34:43 · answer #8 · answered by megahot megababe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just wait until he's asleep. Then you tie him up, light some candles, then wake him up. Yeah, just don't make that crazy, looking at him sideways look.
2007-03-09 22:29:36 · answer #9 · answered by mundo808 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a healthy sexual relationship should include honest communication between the two of u
2007-03-09 22:29:10 · answer #10 · answered by mmbmw2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know you are wanting to try something different and explore kinky things sexually and lead into this.
2007-03-09 22:28:24 · answer #11 · answered by Clara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋