I've been seiing her since Sept. we fell in love in late Oct.everthing was good except I talked to 2 other women, they meant nothing to me, one was a friend that she even knew that I talked to, she asked me in early Jan. if I was talking to other women, I lied and told her no, only because I didn't want to hurt her feelings, not to hide it from her. Then I told her the truth, she was upset with me , which I don't blame her. But their is more to the story but what I need is ideas,or words to show her that she can trust me now. I love her and realize that she is the one that I want to spend the rest of my life with, she is so special. I know that you fall in love many times in your lifetime but then you find the one that you want to end your life with loving only her and she is the one, I know that I have never been this deeply in love before. And I need help in expressing this to her.
2007-03-09 14:15:34 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You cannot talk someone into trusting you. You just have to earn the trust back. Be honest from now on. With trust, actions speak louder than words. There is nothing you can say, only something you can do, which is be honest from here on out.
2007-03-09 14:18:37 · answer #1 · answered by Haveitlookedat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You lied to her and that will take some time for her to forgive, she'll never forget. If you truly love her and she you this will work out. You must promise her that you will never ever again in your lifetime be dishonest with her. I'm not sure she will believe you tho, people are afraid of getting hurt and she may not yet feel secure enough after you lied to her. Keep trying tho if you know this is something to fight for!
Good luck and I hope it all works out for you two!
2007-03-09 14:23:10 · answer #2 · answered by Incognito 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a strange feeling we might be talking about the same woman. I have been seeing her for almost a year, now... though starting in October she started giving me excuses and I started realizing some other guy was getting involved. I think I actually followed your car home last week.
2007-03-09 14:19:09 · answer #3 · answered by PrettyEskimo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The lie about a innocent situation should have never happened, women are funny that way. Go back to the lie and start over. Stuffed animals and flowers couldn't hurt.
2007-03-09 14:24:13 · answer #4 · answered by Tommy Lee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were so in love with her why would u lie and you would never want to look even innocently at another so that you would feel compelled to lie. Face it u probably blew it and shes not buyin the bill of goods. One lie can destroy a universe
2007-03-09 14:20:57 · answer #5 · answered by mmbmw2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well most people will say just tell her, but its not that easy. you might want to confirm that she feels the same way, by looking for signs. if you both openly say I love you to one another then your good, if not I suggest you plan a romantic evening free of any interuptions, prepare to express your feelings by holding her hand and looking deep into her eyes and start with theres something important I need to tell you. make sure you maintain eye contact! good luck
2007-03-09 14:21:13 · answer #6 · answered by joe r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you just told us....that's what you need to tell her. Sit her down look her right in the eyes and tell her all of this. She's just feeling a little insecure. The best way to cure this is to let her know that "you're not going anywhere".
2007-03-09 14:20:36 · answer #7 · answered by Lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you felt and they meant nothing. If a guy did that to me, I would be upset also. Sit down and talk to her and explain everything and that if she wants you wouldnt talk to any other woman/women again if she didn't want you to.
2007-03-09 14:19:58 · answer #8 · answered by cootiesr4guys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can make your mouth say anything but your actions show more. Show her that she is your only one. Words are words. Make her feel she is your only love and there is no other women that you want.
2007-03-09 14:20:18 · answer #9 · answered by Clara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Decide what you really want from her, and tell her what you are willing and able to do to get it. Are we talking about marriage here?-- like be honest with her. She was upset because you lied to her. Don't do that any more.
2007-03-09 14:23:23 · answer #10 · answered by Alicia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋