do you think the age diff is irrelevant,or does it seem just oh so slightly sleazy
2007-03-09 13:53:23 · 44 answers · asked by coopsradar 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd call you lucky
2007-03-09 14:00:48 · answer #1 · answered by Gorilla 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pay no attention to a lot of the previous answers. Are you two in love with each other? Do you make each other happy? Do you talk about the future? If the answers to these ?'s are yes then you should stay together. I would advise, however, that you don't rush into anything permanent just yet. Wait and see how you feel a year maybe two from now. I personally believe that there can be something very special in your relationship that is a result of your age difference. Look at it this way, the divorce rate in this country is over 50%. True love is quite obviously not being found very often. If you have found it don't let a 14 year age difference ( or for that matter any age difference within reason) stand in your way. The best of luck to you.
2007-03-09 14:17:53 · answer #2 · answered by Albatross 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello im 19 and my fiance is 31. We have a baby together and plan on getting married when the time is right finacially. We have a house and everything. Were a family. People say it is wrong but i could care less what people think. I am very happy and would not change it for the world. I chose this because this is the life i wanted. I love him and he loves me and we have a great relationship its not perfect but whos is? We don't figh allot and we know what makes each other happy. Its not about sex or anything. We took everything step by step. I say age is just a number. I know people are judgmental but they dont know me and my hubby. All my friends and family love him and he treats me like i want to be treated. He looks like he is 25 though. I say if you two like or love each other to go with it and say screw everyone else its not there life its yours don't try and make everyone happy cuz you will just end up miserable. I know cuz at first i was worried what people thought but now im glad i listened to my heart.
2007-03-09 14:10:33 · answer #3 · answered by everlasting_matchstick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you even suggest it might be sleazy leads me to believe you are a good guy. It is not like she is 16, she is 21. She is old enough to drink, vote and pick who she wants to be with. I think the difference in age in this case is okay. Many women want a mature man so they skip the men their own age because they don't want to waste time playing. You are fine and if someone has a problem with it, then it's just that- THEIR problem.
2007-03-09 14:05:23 · answer #4 · answered by Family matters 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the long run it might end in trouble. You only have to look at sites where people are seeking friends or looking for a date or a longterm relationship to see how many divorcees and separated people there are in their forties and fifties. If you are going to marry then it should be for life. You've said so little about what you have in common other than a difference in your ages. If you'd given more information and mentioned what attracts you to her and her to you then it would be a lot easier to say whether it is the right thing to do. It's not as cut and dried as a "matter of right or wrong" as there are so many matters in your relationship to be considered.
2007-03-09 14:30:46 · answer #5 · answered by Christopher P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is of the mind; especially when it comes to love. It shouldn't matter. However, going into a relationship with her you should be ready, and aware that you are a lot more mature than her, and try to act like the mature one and avoid petty arguments ... it may be tough because you're more experienced, and mature and she isn't, but if you guys can handle that and let love conquer all, then age shouldn't be an issue.
2007-03-09 14:24:57 · answer #6 · answered by Bubbles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only 14 years in it, nothing wrong with that but if there was the same age gap and you were 21 there'd be a major problem!
2007-03-09 13:58:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age difference is great. A lot would depend on how mature the young lady is. Most people are not mature at that age, some are still in school. She is still trying to find out who she is, and you already know who you are.
2007-03-09 13:57:25 · answer #8 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As we grow older, our mental age gap narrows. She is 21 and legally an adult. 14 years age gap is not so big. Ignore the cynical, if it feels right for the two of you, then to hell with what others think! 'The people that matter don't mind, and the people that mind don't matter. I wish you both all the best! :o)
2007-03-09 16:24:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age difference is irrelevant as long as the relationship is reasonable to pursue.Sometimes,age does not dictate maturity.There are sometimes older guys acting like somewhat irresponsible scumbugs.
2007-03-09 15:29:22 · answer #10 · answered by starjammer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its OK - the age difference between me and my wife is about ten years (she is younger). We love each other a lot - really very good fiends to each other. She keeps me young all the times. Remember, a woman gets old when she looks like an old and a man becomes old when he starts thinking like an old man - so cheer up man, enjoy the like and remain young
2007-03-09 19:02:49 · answer #11 · answered by Shahid M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋