I have a good friend who I went to college with. I called her the other day and we talked for a little while, and I told her I heard she was engaged. She told me yes, and that I "missed the boat." I told her I didn't know I "ever had a ticket to get on" and she said "well, you never know." I saw her today for the first time in several years and we had lunch together. She gave me several great hugs and kept going on about how nice it was to see me again. My question is... should I tell her that what I really wanted to say earlier was that I always did wish I had a "ticket" and would have loved to been with her... but she was dating someone at the time when we were both in college. Remember, she's now engaged... Please help, thanks.
2007-03-09 13:43:21 · 8 answers · asked by anat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By the way, I am fully aware that telling her wouldn't change anything, and I don't expect it to. I just ask if I should tell her anyway. Also, the lunch was definitely planned. I drove five hours each way to meet her because we both wanted to see each other before I moved even further away.
2007-03-09 14:45:04 · update #1
I wouldnt, just be her friend....
2007-03-09 18:50:35 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let it go man. Trust me I've been in a similar situation as well and when I saw her after college she was telling me the same thing. But the main reason why I say to leave it alone is because telling her what's on your mind is not gonna change the fact that she is engaged, and although she's not married yet it's still too late. Up until you saw her recently she was really not on your mind right? Well keep it like that it';s good that you saw her and both of you had lunch the boat has already left the dock.
2007-03-09 21:49:47 · answer #2 · answered by ltwatkins77 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through something very similar. I dated a guy for a few years then went off to college and got married. I saw the guy I dated a couple of times in passing and we talked a bit and he told me how much he missed me. I tried to get in touch with him after that to see what he really meant by that since we had both been drinking a bit. I never heard from him, and I am greatful for that now. I think by talking to him I would have ruined my marriage.
I don't know if it's worth it to talk to her. If there are still feelings between the two of you, they may be acted on and there could be resentment on both sides.
2007-03-09 21:50:11 · answer #3 · answered by Addison's Mom 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Was the lunch planned by the two of you? If so, you should let her know how you feel because with her comment to you and her willingness to meet, she must have some interest. If it was an accidental meeting, I would let it go.
2007-03-09 21:47:38 · answer #4 · answered by Lois M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she's only engaged. let her know how you feel. she may have the same feelings but the timing was never right. i have been down that road before. now i'm stuck with woulda, coulda, shoulda.
2007-03-09 21:48:23 · answer #5 · answered by anna s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
like she said ... you missed the boat... let her go... she has moved on, and YOU cant live in the past...
sorry
2007-03-09 21:47:16 · answer #6 · answered by kim t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say you like her she obviusly likes you to
OR she is playin you
hope its the first
good luck
2007-03-09 21:46:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her
2007-03-09 21:46:20 · answer #8 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋