okay i'm ur average everyday girl i don't want to get married any time soon, but i've been in a serious relationship but he doesn't believe in marridge he said he loves me enough to marry me but he doesn't believe in it too many divorces these days so i guess i'm asking is there ne one else who would care if they are in a serious relationship for about 2 yrs n u see him in ur life as long as ur alive but he doesn't want marridge is something wrong with me to want the propasal story and the wedding of my dreams where both our families unite and meet
? Please HElP
2007-03-09 13:29:36 · 11 answers · asked by Happily Taken 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
he did say that if we stayed together for 6 yrs straight he'd compromise but him as a person doesn't want marridge he pulled the I love u isn't that enough card is something wrong w/ me
2007-03-09 13:42:37 · update #1
This is only a problem if you actually want to get married. ;)
People *can* change, but take his word. Most guys say what they mean and expect you to take it at face value (and yet women try to change their men all the time!). He may change his mind or follow through, but do you really want to stick around and possibly waste 6 years to find out? For a "maybe"????
Yes, there are a lot of divorces. But why does that mean YOUR marriage won't last? There are lots of car accidents...but how many people have stopped driving because of that???
This guy either has issues that require a professional to solve, or he does not ever want to marry (or marry you). If you want to marry him, leave. If he follows you and proposes, you have your guy. If not, you just saved yourself 6 years and heartache.
2007-03-09 16:29:48 · answer #1 · answered by reginachick22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on your age, he is most likely never going to want to get married. If you are together for 6 years and you are not married, and he is going to "compromise" and marry you, then there are serious problems. Since it's been 2 years and your families haven;t met yet, then that is another red flag.
Most likely he will never want to get married, if he does at one point, that's great, but if not, you've wasted several years of your life if that is your goal.
He may be a great guy and perfect for you in every way, but if he doesn't want to commit to you and get married, then you need to cut your losses now before you get in too deep into the relationship.
2007-03-09 22:09:17 · answer #2 · answered by froalskiner 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he told you that WILL NEVER HAPPEN you need to decide if you can live without being married forever if not then you need to move on. there is nothing wrong with you wanting this but there is nothing wrong with him either. Some people just don't want to get married. you can still have both families unite and meet just have a party. It is up to you whether this is good enough for you.
2007-03-09 21:36:21 · answer #3 · answered by bubbles 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If marriage is important to you, then yes, it is a problem. But, let me tell you something...marriage is not something that everyone HAS to do. My grandmother and her husband (whom just recently passed away) were together for 43 years without ever being married. Being married is a commitment of the heart, a piece of paper to justify your commitment is meaningless.
2007-03-09 21:35:26 · answer #4 · answered by Lani 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People get married because they want their loved ones protected. People living together have no legal rights. If one person dies, they're estate does not go to their partner, it goes to their family. Also, the body doesn't go to their partner and the partner has no say what goes on with the funeral. Wanting to protect the one you love is what marriage is about.
2007-03-09 23:59:41 · answer #5 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For me it seems to be a problem. When both of you are together, both of you need to learn to sacrifice something for your spouses and not follow blindly. In your case where one party wants to settle down whereas the other don't believe in such things, it will be a problem for both of you to communicate in future.I think you should be firm and made a decision of your own and not dependant on him. I don't believe in forcing people to do things against their will coz it end up more agony for both of you. Think carefully what you want to do
2007-03-10 01:03:17 · answer #6 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is definitely a problem if you want to get married and he doesn't.
it'll only cause problems later on, and the split will hurt more then too.
i really don't understand his reasoning, though...he doesn't believe in marriage because too many marriages end in divorce? I am pretty sure that couples who don't get married split up, too.
2007-03-09 22:40:18 · answer #7 · answered by jennyvee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with you wanting marriage. it's perfectly normal, but it's also normal for a lot of men to not look forward to that commitment. You need to decide if you want to wait another 4 years to decide if he can make that commitment to you.
2007-03-09 21:55:18 · answer #8 · answered by Dawnita 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have been with him for over two years and you families have not yet met, you should really evaluate your status in his life.
2007-03-09 22:03:44 · answer #9 · answered by Lois M 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
From your story, it certainly looks like it is a problem.
2007-03-09 21:35:29 · answer #10 · answered by Mos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋