My fiance and I decided a long time ago that we wanted to go to Hawaii for our honeymoon. My fiance's father has offered many times to help with expenses (his parents are much more well-off than mine). Well, my parents have announced they will pay for the entire wedding, which is wonderfully generous. We decided to ask his parents to help pay for the honeymoon, since traditionally that is the groom's parents' domain and they did offer. When we showed them Hawaii brochures, they said they weren't going to send us there. We were floored; this was basically a sure thing. Now what do we do?
2007-03-09 13:18:40 · 14 answers · asked by Finally his wife! 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I dont expect anyone to pay for my wedding or my honeymoon... My wedding is all of 6 people,besides me and him. We are going through the adoption process so money is tight on our end. Which is why my parents offered to pay for the wedding. And his parents offered to pay for the honeymoon. And then they changed there mind... I guess i didnt state that to well.
2007-03-09 15:00:39 · update #1
and we didnt ask them to pay for the whole thing,, we only asked for the to help us out
2007-03-09 15:06:16 · update #2
again...they offered to help..... I am not trying to be selfish or spoiled by saying "oh they wont help with the honeymoon" and mommy and daddy dont pay for everything.
2007-03-10 03:41:10 · update #3
well, when I went to Hawaii, I payed for it all...go to priceline compare prices(my ticket cost only 400.00) , shop around...I am sorry they backed out what they said....but if u really want to go make it happen, forget them...u don't need anyone who can stick to thier OWN word.
2007-03-09 16:13:00 · answer #1 · answered by redsoxxgal04 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps your idea of what they would offer and their idea differ? You did say they would "help", not pay for the honeymoon. Just because you think they are more financially sound than your parents, doesn't mean it is true. Even if it is, they are not obligated to spend more than they would like. Step back and wait to see if they offer a gift but go ahead and plan the honeymoon you and your groom can afford.
2007-03-09 22:12:58 · answer #2 · answered by weddingqueen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Scale back your honeymoon. Maybe your in-laws feel like you are trying to take advantage of their generosity. Hawaii is one of the most expensive US honeymoons. Why don't you try Mexico or the Bahamas. Also, nothing is a sure thing until you have the money in hand. I can't tell you how many questions like this I've answered. Also the same thing happened to me.
2007-03-10 00:06:09 · answer #3 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say, but they have no obligation to send you on your honeymoon. its not very nice of them to offer in the fisrt place then back out, but still, its not their job. since your parents are paying for your entire wedding I dont think it sould be any problem at all for you and your fiance to pay for your own honeymoon. if you cant afford it then just dont take one. my husband and I never did because we couldnt afford it. honeymoons are necessary to take.
2007-03-09 21:47:05 · answer #4 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to be as gracious as possible. Something, of which you are unaware, has changed. Whether or not your future in-laws will share this with you has yet to be determined. But what ever it is, it is important enough to them to back out of a sanding arrangement. If you can show them some respect and make plans for yourself that you can be responsible for, you will be showing them your best side and they might decide to show you their best side too. It is too early in the game to go head to head with in-laws. Set the pace and enjoy your new life.
2007-03-09 21:32:16 · answer #5 · answered by Connie C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask them what they had in mind perhaps. Is it a matter of the amount of the money? Do they have someplace else they think would be better? It's really hard to even comment on this without more background but to sum it up it seems you guys have to communicate more/better between you and, if you want help here, communicate more/better here as well.
2007-03-09 21:28:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pay for it yourself. They offered to help pay for the wedding...not pay for an extravagant honeymoon. Grow up and accept your own responsibilities.
2007-03-09 21:29:41 · answer #7 · answered by DeborahDel 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sheesh, you two should be paying for your own wedding, whatever the budget or circumstances. And now you are facing trouble -- just change your plans, and pay for what type of wedding you can afford yourselves. It's nicer to be independent.
2007-03-10 06:58:53 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! I wish someone would have offered me and my husband anything. We paid for it all... with the exception of a meal... for 9. We even paid for the lodging of our guests. If you want to go, figure out a way to pay for it. Maybe they are not willing to pay that much... try finding out how much they are willing to pay... and find a package that fits the budget. If all else fails, dish out the dough yourselves.
2007-03-10 02:40:45 · answer #9 · answered by mrslang1976 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to Hawaii if you want to. If they give you a monetary gift, use it any way you like. Don't ask them to pay for tickets, just say whatever they would like to do would be fine. If they buy tickets for somewhere else, you could use them for a trip later on.
2007-03-09 21:26:34 · answer #10 · answered by DisIllusioned 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋