is it okey to spank the kids sometimes?

Question

if they are misbehaving just making my blood pressure high and sometimes i cant control myself .

Answer 1

its ok to spank sometimes, but ONLY when your in control of your emotions not in a fit of rage, and remember, some day you will be old and they will be taking care of you, know what i mean>?

Answer 2

Do not spank in anger, but yes spank your children. Never slap in the face, but smack on the butt. My parents would send us to our rooms and let their anger die down before coming up to talk to us about what we did and then we would get a quick spanking. They only had to spank me and my brother and sister a couple times when we were young and they said after that we were fine. Just make sure the kids know what they are being spanked for and that you are not doing it in anger. Respect is the big thing a child needs to learn to be well behaved and that is what spanking incorporates.

Answer 3

I spank my kids, but before I do I count to 10 then I make sure the kids know why they are getting a spanking. I am a firm believer of "spare the rod, spoil the child."

Answer 4

If you can't controll yourself then you are takeing your anger out on these children. Find out what is bothering you and allowing you to do this. Once you find this out, try to focus all of your anger into something else that allows physical activities like punching a punching bag, lifting weights, playing ball, anything but the kids. For now please let your wife or significant other handle the diciplin. If you don't have one then Ground your kids by taking away privillages that they have. When they sraighten up then give them back. This seems to work verry well for a lot of people. Good luck.

Answer 5

Absolutely not!! By spanking them you are teaching them that you cannot control your own emotions and that hitting is Okay. It will become a never ending cycle. I know that kids can drive anybody crazy, but if you can't control your anger, you may want to seek some help. Good luck.

Answer 6

Not for the reason you describe because you are likelier to cross the line between discipline and a beating when you are angry. Also spanking does not teach anything to a child other than it is ok to smack the crap out of anyone doing something you don't want them to do. Eventually they will grow,perhaps bigger than you, and they will hit you. I see it day in and day out working with juvenile delinquents.It's the saddest thing to see a parent being beat up or a younger kid the parent can no longer protect being smacked by an older sister/brother until the kid winds up in secure detention or foster care and the parent is telling me"Something's got to change he/she is now bigger than me" I feel bad but also want to say "You idiot! what did you think you were teaching him/her when you were smacking him/her around when they were smaller than you?" Take away their toys, computer, TV, ground them until they are 35 or 40 but don't teach them that hitting anyone is ok -for your sake and theirs. Trust me on that!

Answer 7

Sometimes the shock of a quick swat is just what you need to get their attention so you can tell them what the problem is. Spanking doesn't work, but it's better than nothing. Don't worry about the spankings they have already received, and work on finding more effective methods of discipline. I love to watch Nanny 911 and Supernanny for discipline ideas. Those women are geniuses! Work on your techniques for dealing with stress, too. We could all use help in this area.

Answer 8

I was hit when I was little, but what I hurt with was what my mom hurt.
For ex; If I were to bite my sister (I was like 2 yrs.), then my mother hit my mouth. If I hit or scratched, the back of my hand was hit.

My mother always did it b/c she hit hard enough that it would hurt, but not hard enough for a bruise or for me to , even at that age, be afraid of her. Just enough to know what was right and what was wrong. Just enough to respect authority.

My father never hit me. NEVER.


If control is an issue, then no, don't hit. That's an issue on your end, not theirs. Walk away, explaining that you are upset and will discipline in 15 minutes once you've had time to cool it.

Answer 9

well it depends on who u ask. its a taboo subject. i would but if some1 could tell me a non physical way that WORKS!!! id soooo take it!! also, i hear that in some states theyre trying to make it illegal so ive ben tryin 2 pay attention to that bcuz if they make it a law that u cant spank ur kids then u could end up in jail or with quite a hefty fine!! there this will do tha job!! but yea. i watch nanny 911 for ideas on alternatives not to hit the kkids. i mean cmon, y would u hit some1 if u could find a way that ur not hurting them physically? every1 benefits!!!

Answer 10

Spanking is not necessarily bad...but you need to make sure it's only a swat or two on the butt....don't ever hit in anger......remember it's a spanking...don't go overboard...that's when the line is crossed.

I know my opinion isn't always agreen with, but that's my opinion.

Answer 11

to a degree, yes!!

if fact the goverment in england said it was wrong to spank your kids, ect

now look at the place,

kids are rude and worse than ever.

maybe look at punishing them first, take away the enjoyment time,take away the privileges, sweets or something. show them who's boss, be stricted, but fair.

dont go over the top, just make them aware.

the worse thing to do is to say nothing, if they've done something really bad, let them grill themselves. the famous words, im dissapointed in you, really gets to them. they'll think about it more themselves. be distant for a while. they'll come running back to you, upset and apologetic.

-trust me. i know. (speaking from a 22 yr old)