i have been with this girl for over 5 months now,
but the over day we had a arguement,
and i told her to leave,
i want go into detail but i say it was my fault we argued,
now it has been over 3 weeks since we have split,
i have tryed ringing her but she not answering her phone,
i really like to have her back cause she the most beautiful and nice person in the world,
i fought she was having an affair thats why we split, long story
i treat her like a princess, i have never hit or done anything bad to her,
i really miss her, how can i get her back, what shell i do
2007-03-09 12:56:34 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Leave her a message and explain to her your mistake and then give her space. If she come back love her and respect her if she doesn't learned from this and be a better communicator in future relationships. DO NOT STALK HER SHE MIGHT BE AFRAID AND HURT
2007-03-09 13:04:03 · answer #1 · answered by Unlucky 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really have done it big time.
1. You argued
2. You told her to leave
3. You showed that you did not trust her as you thought that she was having an affair.
4. You are consistently annoying her by ringing her.
5. You have the nerve to say that you treat her like a princess and have not done anything bad to her. How much worse can you get at being bad than numbers one to four? That's no way to treat a princess.
2007-03-09 22:47:04 · answer #2 · answered by Christopher P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you keep calling her over and over you will seem too desperate and she won't answer your calls because she'll still be mad at you.
Leave her a message PLAY IT COOL. Just say something like "Hi, just wondering if you would like to maybe do something this weekend. I'd like to talk things over. If you don't call me then I'll understand."
Okay now DON'T DO ANYTHING. She won't call right away. Guaranteed. But it will be on her mind especially if you don't call her. She'll wonder if you are with someone else.
If she wants you back then she'll call after a few days or maybe a week (or two depending on how mad she is).
When she calls you play it cool but be honest, tell her you are sorry, you love her and that you made a mistake and would like her to come back. But only say it once. Tell her that it is up to her what she wants to do and you respect her decision but DON'T BEG. Begging will make her run a mile.
Don't forget that you can't make her come back if she really doesn't want to, all you can do is apologise, state your case anf give her some space to make up her own mind.
More importantly ask yourself if it is really worth it. If she walks all over you then it will only be worse when she comes back.
Hope this helps, I've been through this myself, good luck.
2007-03-09 21:11:01 · answer #3 · answered by paulbilsborough 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her a voicemail on her phone about how wrong of you to have told her to leave, and that you miss her.
Pretty much stick to this, what's in your heart.
i really like to have her back cause she the most beautiful and nice person in the world, i really miss her (you)
If she won't take your phone call, then she's definitely not going to like you showing up at her place, so avoid running after her in person thinking it will change things. It will only intensify her feelings of hurt against you, and she might feel your forcing your way back into her life. After you said your final peace, if she still won't respond back, then let her go.
2007-03-09 21:16:43 · answer #4 · answered by Blue Bombay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Forgive yourself.
2. Believe in yourself.
3. Make one attempt to get clear with her. (Any way at all.)
4. Be kind.
5. If it gets foolish, step back.
6. If she comes to you, be receptive.
7. Do not pursue a second time, as it will be misunderstood.
8. Know that you are a good person.
9. One phone message is okay.
10. If she is put off that easily, you need better company.
2007-03-09 21:10:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've never hit her? What an odd thing to say. Were you maybe thinking about it at one time? Maybe that's why she isn't coming back. Five months is not a long time - you'll be over this soon and next time, treat her like a woman, not a princess.
2007-03-09 21:18:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, are you sure that she had an affair before? or it just because of jealousy...have you had and evidence or just base on hear say and you accuse her have an affair on your back?
If that`s was true she had an affair, and shown no sorry at all, even both of you have to split-ed, then I do believe no matter what she doesn`t deserved you.....it`s hurt but must moving on, looking for another girl.
But if it was no proof at all that she had it on your back.......no matter what fight to the end or you`ll regret for losing her.
Dont call her, just visit her, face to face, tell her the truth that you are sorry, blinded by emotions, and it`s all because of scared of loosing her.
Tell her that she really means to you, and it will not happened again, promised you'll be wiser in days to come.
Tell her that you dont wanna regret for the rest of your life because of stupidity you made.
And tell her that you really love her......
Good luck
2007-03-09 21:18:29 · answer #7 · answered by didi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've hurt her a lot thats why doesn't want to see you...or even hear your voice...
do you have evidence that she's cheating on you? maybe you've hurt her because she may be thinking that you don't trust her.
it takes time for a pain to go away...
Well you could try pleasing her again...court her again...
thats what you should do...show that you love her...
if its obvious that she's not interested at all, then let her go.. thats what she wants...you cnt forced someone to love you...you have done your part..and thats enough!...OK?
there are someone really for you...and God will give her to you in time...
time heals... maybe one day, she would call you back...and when that day comes, you should love her more, if you dont want to lose her again.. ok...
2007-03-09 21:08:19 · answer #8 · answered by yumemiya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she's doing the right thing to make you learn your lesson. I guess you have to face her personally and ask for forgiveness, at least straighten things out with her. If she doesn't wanna meet you, then you can ask a friend to help you talk to her into meeting you... If that also doesn't work, then live with it, move on.
2007-03-09 21:16:56 · answer #9 · answered by Shazz Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she had every right to leave when you told her to. who are you to accuse someone of doing something without knowing the truth. you messed up big time. so move on. she has. next time behave and never accuse unless you have the facts.
2007-03-09 21:01:33 · answer #10 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋