I understand that this is his dream, and he wants to live up to his full potential, and I support him completely. I am extremely understanding, and supportive of his choice, I just would like to know what to expect, maybe from a Navy wife or someone with previous experience.
He is afraid of receiving the "dear John," letter... (a break up letter) How can I prove to him that I will not do that, and I support him completely?
2007-03-09 12:48:17 · 17 answers · asked by Julie R 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
expect him to fail, but that doesn't mean he isn't high speed and an asset to the military...
2007-03-09 12:51:07 · answer #1 · answered by Ken M 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I admire your comittment. You have to know that you will endure hardship - long separations with anxiety of not knowing where he is, not hearing from him, and knowing he may be in harm's way. That alone is hard.
You need to let him know that you are aware of the potential dangers, and that you will support him. You will be there when he comes home, you will be there when he leaves, and you will be resolutely faithful through all the deployments, training, and exercises.
For many men, they have a hard time believing they have a good woman to begin with (they may feel they don't deserve you); the concept of a good woman with chastity, faith, strength, and devotion seems almost fictional; too good to be true. Their own insecurity can make them imagine the worst, which is that you will not remain faithful; that you will shift your love and attention to another in his absence. Other Sailors will only fuel their fear, as they will relate the stories of their own negative experiences.
He will endure stress, and you will have to deal with that. Most of his stress will not be of a physical nature, but mental and emotional. The source of some of his stress he will not be able to control, and some he won't even be able to identify. He will be frustrated, irritated by what he may perceive to be BS rules or regulations. He may be irritated that some Sailors will be senior in rank or grade than he, although he is smarter or better in performance of the job. You will have to help him through it.
The military (any branch) has its pitfalls, especially for a young couple that are relatively new not only to the military lifestyle, but to their own relationship. Don't get wrapped up about who squeezes the toothpaste where, or if the toilet paper comes off the front or the back of the roll. Be there for him, support each other, and together you have a good shot at success.
By the way, thanks to him for joining, and thank you for standing beside him.
2007-03-09 13:11:28 · answer #2 · answered by Mangy Coyote 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well for one dear, nobody joins the seals, you volunteer, and if your one of the lucky 30% that actualy make it through the training (Thats an awful low number) Then you bevcome a seal. Its not like ya walk in an office and ask for an application for the seals and a smiling person says sure. So, hope he makes it, but few do.
2007-03-09 12:53:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, hun, but one does not ENTER the U.S. Navy SEALS. One TRIES OUT for the SEALS. Less than 10% make the grade.
It takes a special lady to be a Navy wife (and I've been married to one for over 38 years), but it takes a STRONG, SELF CONFIDENT WOMAN/LADY to be a U.S. Navy SEAL's wife.
If your bf is so lacking self confidence when it comes to your relationship, he'll be 'ringing the bell' the first week after reporting to SEAL training, assuming he is an accepted candidate.
(USN, retired)
2007-03-10 17:06:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say goodbye and find someone else as soon as possible.. Just kidding. I think they are no different than any other man that slithers in and out when he pleases. I could be gone for weeks and he would never notice. They are like ships, they sail from port to port. The lights are on and noone is ever home... Seal or not, most traveling men are like the wind>.. I hope u have lots of hobbies and a good pool boy or a gardner. Best of luck with that one.
2007-03-09 12:58:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
there is not any assure that he will have the potential to get militia kin housing on base as quickly as he's married. soo many aspects pass into it, it is in simple terms impossible to assert one way or the different. yet whilst there is not any MFH available he gets BAH which will help offset the fee of residing on the financial equipment. in case you get married after he's already at his duty station, the army won't pay to pass you there. you are going to be his based ahead of his getting orders to be sure that them to pay for it..and not all orders are accompanied, in spite of the certainty that to be honest, very few military duty stations are limited.. Diego Garcia, Bahrain, Gitmo could be, to boot as Japan/Korea. 95% danger he gets sea duty first. in basic terms an exceedingly small type of scores( CTI, the Seabees) are strictly shore duty. On sea duty he could be underway plenty, a splash, never, continuously or someplace in between. in one 3 365 days era( Japan)..mine replaced into never long previous the 1st 365 days, never residing house the 2d 365 days( out very almost ten months all complete of that 365 days) and chop up the distinction..approximately 5 months complete underway the final 365 days.
2016-11-23 18:20:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should expect that he'll wash out of the program. A large majority do. After 4 years of a relationship you'll need to help him deal with it. Guys who wash out get sent out to the fleet to finish their enlistments.
There's a small chance he'll make it through. If so that's great. The only problem is that you won't see much of him.
2007-03-09 13:11:22 · answer #7 · answered by Yak Rider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Support him completely and don't be surprised if he can balance a ball on his nose after becoming a seal.
2007-03-09 12:54:15 · answer #8 · answered by Sgt 524 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off if he makes it,then you should be very very proud of him.They can call him to duty at the drop of a hat.He will have almost no warning.He won't be able to tell you most of the stuff so get used to him saying I cant tell you.As with any military relationship it will be very hard but its def. possible to make it.
2007-03-09 15:02:58 · answer #9 · answered by support our troops 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FYI: SEALS have a high divorce rate due to the demands of being a SEAL.
2007-03-09 12:56:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They will be called to duty on a whim and put into deadly situation almost every time he is called...you will have no warnings and will not be filled in with details if anything bad does happen to happen to him....Good Luck
2007-03-09 12:51:06 · answer #11 · answered by Spades Of Columbia 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋