Need help with a potty training problem?

Question

My son is 2. I am trying to get him interested in the potty. I very successfully trained my daughter, shes' 4 with a bed wetting record of only 3. My son wants nothing to do with the potty and I have a reason: MY MOTHER IN LAW DROPPED HIM IN THE TOILET! Yes...she did. With out my permission, she took it upon herself to start potty training him. So, his very first attempt at the potty...he falls in and surprise surprise now has a fear of the potty. I bought a potty seat that fits into our toilet as well as a potty chair that I used for my daughter...I'm hoping one of them will work. How do I get rid of his fear of falling in!?!?!

he does remember because he said to me just today...mimi dropped me....(thats what he calls the grandmother)

and daddy is away in the military so he can't watch him go. Hes' seen me and watches my 4yr old go...he flushes it and thinks thats fun...he is just afraid to sit on it. And I would never force! Thats not how I teach my kids.

Answer 1

Potty training sometimes takes longer for boys. I used to worry, that with his father not here in the home to teach him, he will never learn.

Fortunately, he will begin to learn just as you taught your daughter, by sitting on the potty chair first. So let him sit on the potty chair, even when he does not have to go, with pull ups for a while,so he can get used to the underwear thing( he will poop and pee in these because, it is too soon for them to sometimes understand that they are not diapers.) My son did get most of his potty training a daycare and by the time he was 3.5, he had stop peeing in the bed.

So, as he progressives, let him wear the pull up during the day,or you can buy him some Gerber underpants. They are cotton and thicker than normal wear, in case of accidents. and the nylon underpants are great.
too. At night put a diaper on him, or keep the pull-up on, they are just as absorbent as diapers.

And the standing up to pee-pee thing he started about 3.5 yrs too. So let him take his time.

Answer 2

He probably forgot that he fell into the toilet. He just has no interest in it. If you think he's afraid of the toilet show him how you sit on it and your okay, and how him when you flush it everything is okay too. Then maybe he won't be so afraid of the toilet and he can start potty training when he feels ready. You can't force a child to potty train if he doesn't want to. I know it sounds stupid but you can't force something on someone if they don't want it. Just encourage him telling him you were big people underwear and so does his sister. Tell him that if he goes potty he gets to wear cool underwear (whatever he's into) like everyone else.

Answer 3

Boys take longer than girls to potty train. My son fell in the toilet because the potty seat was not on very good. But, we manage to get him trained. He may be too young to start training. The average age for boys to train is 3-4 1/2 yrs old. I know you are excited to get him out of diapers but if you rush it...it could backfire on you...and the training will take longer. Just keep reminding him that Mimi did not mean to drop him and that you will not allow that to happen again. But be patient and give him time!!

Answer 4

All children are ready to start at their own time. I am shocked at the fact that your mother-in-law took it upon herself to over rule your authority like that. Your son is TWO, and that is very, very early to start with boys. My 1st son was potty trained at 2 and my second son is still working on it at 3 years two months. He wasn't ready at the same time as my first and that was just fine. He did it in his own time. In terms of the fear of falling in he will forget that in time. I would honestly let off on the training for a while--it doesn't sound like he is ready yet. Remember that it okay, and one day he will be.

Answer 5

First off...boys tend to be potty-trained later than girls.

I would try the potty chair first, at least he can't fall into that!

My son wasn't even interested until he was 3, and believe it or not he was staying dry all night first! He was potty trained before he was 3 1/2.

Answer 6

Will he wear underwear? My son is two and I just put underwear on him, after a couple accidents he didnt like the feeling and was ready to try the toilet, of course he had daddy to watch so when he went on the toilet he would say "just like daddy does!" However you could also try getting him a toddler stool to stand on infront of the toilet and say when you pee in the toilet it will make bubbles, wanna try it? Thats one of the first things my son noticed when he stood and went potty. Then I would say okay now try to pop the bubbles, as he was still peeing. Now the only time he wears a diaper is at bedtime of if we go out somewhere, but he's been doing good.

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Answer 8

I'm sorry your son had that experience. In time, he will hopefully forget it. I am the mom of two boys - 3 1/2 and 5 (both potty trained). Girls bladders develop sooner and are usually (not always) ready earlier to potty train. Your son may not be ready to potty train yet, especially because of this experience. My suggestion would be to wait another couple months, or really until you see signs for potty training - like being dry when he wakes from his nap, asking to go potty, stripping off his clothes, being "aware" of when he needs to go, and for your son maybe forgetting the Mimi experience.

Neither one of my boys began the cues for potty training until they were 2 1/2 and my oldest was not potty trained until he was 3. Keep in mind that there really is no cookie cutter method for potty training kids - they all respond to different things. I struggled with my oldest boy for months with potty training - I tried sticker charts, candy bribery, money bribery - everything!. Then one day, when there were no more clothes left for him to soil (everything was in the washer), he was naked, got the urge and ran to the potty. No turning back.

My youngest was much easier. I said the word "ice cream" and he was potty trained in two days! I've had other friends who have been successful with a sticker reward chart and some have been successful with little candies like M&M's or Skittles.

Good luck to you and your son! :)

Answer 9

He is only 2. Wait it out. The more he knows you want him to go to the potty, the more he isn't going to want to. Boys think differently than girls and often take longer. Don't stress. Also, if he does at some point show interest, reward him. If dad or another trustworthy male figure is in the picture... let him see how they go to the bathroom and it will click at some point. This too shall pass. I can remember how stressed I was about those things. Now my daughter is 13 and tells me she prefers Tampax Pearl tampons to the other ones!! LOL!

Answer 10

As much as I hate the television, I don't believe that I am going to suggest this to you. But, here goes. Position the potty in front of the television and turn to the funny cartoon channel. Then you pull up a low-chair right beside him. Do this as often as you can and in no time he will be trained.

Oh, and by the way, freshen the potty and leave it there even when not in use. But, remove and re-seat your chair every time that you watch television with your child.