Some parents think that if the child has consequences at school (detention, suspension, etc.) that they don't need to enforce any consequences at home for bad behavior at school. I personally do not agree with this (I think losing the car keys for a week has a lot more meaning for a teenager than a detention) but what do you think?
2007-03-09 12:23:59 · 17 answers · asked by redhairedgirl 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Yes, they would have consequences at home too. Luckily my kids don't get into trouble at school (yet anyway). If they ever do, a detention would seem like a vacation compared to what they would have to do at home.
2007-03-09 12:29:16 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
it totally depends on the situation. If I feel that they were punished unjustly, or that the punishment was fair enough, then no. (Like when I was in school, once I got detention for tardies, and that was punishment enough.) Other situations definitely call for more consequences. Like suspension--you better believe they are going to wish they were in school if they ever get suspended!! :) Talking back to a teacher, starting a fight, bullying, probably 50 other situations I can't think of off the top of my head would definitely be further punished at home.
I like it when schools work with the parents on discipline to come up with one or two suitable punishments that are harsher than detention for half an hour, but are more fitting to the "crime." Like if you talk back to a teacher (first offense), then you have to write a letter of apology kind of thing.
2007-03-09 12:32:58 · answer #2 · answered by mountain_laurel1183 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depending on what my children have done, yes they will get punished at home aswell. The way i see it if your bashes someone as school and that kid started it for no reason, then thinks doesnt matter i will be able to go out with my friends toaday after school and buys whatever, And his mind he is thinking I can do it again so what if i miss lunch at school i still get to have fun at home. This is an example. I beleive they should. But that is up to the parent. I guess you would have to look at long term if that child is a rat bag because no descipline at home.
2007-03-09 12:51:23 · answer #3 · answered by karhs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The problem with the kids of today is they know they won't get into trouble. Detention used to be harsh, now it's just a joke. Everyone knows that schools can't do anything and neither will parents for fear of getting reported. Getting grounded to their rooms is a joke, especially if they have a t.v., stereo and other fine items to keep them happy. I remember the worst fear in my life was hearing the words "wait until your father got home". I got swatted once in my life and that was all it took to keep my *** in line. Now, that my kids are grown and I have grand kids, both my kids and grand kids are good people. Honest and respectful. And all because I cared enough to raise them proper. Losing the car keys for a week.............ha, teenagers shouldn't even drive, let alone own a car.
2007-03-09 12:34:31 · answer #4 · answered by FireBug 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It depends on the situation. Detention: usually, suspension: absolutely. Sorry, I don't even have kids...I wonder why I answered this question. I think that's how it would be if I did have kids, though.
2007-03-09 12:31:16 · answer #5 · answered by tooqerq 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think trying to mirror real life situations for this student would be best. When this kid goes into the "real world" and gets into trouble at work do they then also get into trouble at home? no but it can effect their life outside school/work.
Real life consequences will help them deal now and in the future.
I think it is good also to pose this question to them, see what they think, keep throwing it back at them and have them think about and talk to their parents about what they think. Listen to them actively...................
2007-03-09 12:41:02 · answer #6 · answered by telosrock 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that some sort of action must be taken at home. My son has ad/hd so most of the trouble he gets in really isn't his fault. I don't punish him when his symptoms are flaring up. But if he were to get in a fight or steal something from someone at school he would definitely be in big trouble at home.
2007-03-09 12:29:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lol, nahhhhhhhhh, I got a cool mom so she lets me do whatever I want..
I.e., I'm kicked out of school for 9 weeks and suppose to be going to behavior school.. and I'm already on my 7th week out of school and what have I been doing for 7 weeks? Sleeping and hanging out with my friends..
the good thing about this is, my punishment has begun the first day I was out of school which means exclude 7 weeks from the whole 9 weeks.. and if I start this Monday, how many weeks is that? 2 weeks...........
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I'm so smart!
2007-03-09 14:04:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Definitely. Kids should respect their school officals, but as a parent, they need to know that you are the one they really need to respect.
2007-03-09 12:38:36 · answer #9 · answered by Nikki 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time yes.
2007-03-09 12:28:00 · answer #10 · answered by Elia P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋