I'm feeling terrible.How can I deal with my parents' fight?

Question

My father usually "accuses" my mother if my brother does sth wrong. Same thing happened tonight. My brother had stayed too long in front of the pc and my father told my mother to handle the situation.
And then, she started yelling and expressed all those feelings saying she's tired of this situation and asking him to break up with her if he thinks she's insufficient. She started crying and my father didn't seem enough moved. He's a difficult character and doesn't express his feelings easily.
Also my brother now feels responsible and believes that he brings negative feelins to our family.
I really feel awful. I don't know how to deal with each of them. Any suggestion is welcome. Thanks a lot.

Answer 1

My parent in-laws are the same way but she doesn't speak up because she has learned to deal with it. He is the real problem of everything. He doesn't want to do anything so he yells at everybody else to make them feel like they are at fault for everything. Over the years its getting worse. My 10 year old boy said a couple days ago that Grandpa lies all the time. So even a child can see the problem. It gets worse with age. I think it would be worse if I didn't tell him off once a year. Yes I tell him off big time when it gets real bad. Just because his fat *ss doesn't want to deal with anything. Your mom doesn't need to bring up a break up, but she needs to put him in his place. I don't believe your brother is the problem but maybe you should talk to your brother about not doing some things for the benefit of your mother. My son sometimes argues with me in front of his grandpa. Grandpa throws a big fit and gets in the middle of it. My son is just saying his opinion which he is entitled to. I don't see it as arguing, its just a conversation. But grandpa throws everything out of proportion. I tell my son not to bring things up in front of grandpa. So it doesn't happen that often anymore. The point is, work together to ovoid conflicts for all of you, if you want to keep the whole family together...

If your father was man of the house like TBL says, then he should be handling the situation himself like a man instead of having someone else do the dirty work.

Answer 2

Welcome to the real world 99% of every home in the great USA is having the same problem as you are. It's just something you deal with and when you have your family it's a 99% chance you will deal with the same thing your mother is dealing with now. This is what our parents do to us and most parents no the damage their causing but don't care or can't help them self due to what was done to them.Please tell your brother the fighting has nothing to do with the two of you, your dad would find something else to fight about it is in him to do that remember his father gave it to him and so on and so on .Maybe you and your brother can brake the chain.

Answer 3

In the parent-child relationship, you would expect the parent to be the more responsible person. You and your brother should not feel responsible for your parents emotional conflicts and communication problems. The best thing you can do it learn from it. You can be a good parent one day because of the lessons that you learn from them. The lesson learned here is that a child's self esteem can be seriously affected by their parents having heated arguments. It seems obvious, but this is something that you can comprehend and your dad cannot. You should feel good about that.
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Answer 4

Sounds like your mom needs to get over herself.
You father is the man of that house and it'd do your mother right if she knew her place and responsibilities.

Answer 5

Sit back and eat popcorn as the drama and next scene unfolds. Refuse to participate in the shows.

Answer 6

U all need to sit down as a family and set boundries for yourself that u all can agree on.

Answer 7

Give your mom a hug. That's about all you can do.

Answer 8

i dont know about u but i ignore it..eventually it would be save and sound back to normal....