Is it just me, or is this stalker-ish behavior?

Question

ok,
This guy emails me on a dating site. I'm interested in him, so I don't reply. He emails me again two weeks later, so I reply just to be polite.

He begs me to meet him, and I basically meet him out of pity, cause I'm not at ALL interested. First date, just walk around and talk. At the end of the date, short kiss goodnight. He asks me to meet him again, and I claim to be busy so that I don't have to.

he called me very 30 minutes to a few hours...
tracked me down on facebook...
tracked me down on myspace...
started downloading my radio shows (I'm a radio dj)
emailed my sister constantly (who is also on facebook)

Then... I reluctantly went on a second date....
We watched "The Lake House" in a theater his apartment building has. Then all of the sudden, he turns and (no, not kisses me, but) sticks his tounge down my throat!

Needless to say I left. I told him I'm not interested. My best friend told him I'm not interested.
Now, he IMs me on different AIM names, and every time I block him he IMs me on a new one. Now he IMs my best friend to harrass him, too.

I told him to quit stalking me. Is it just me, or does anyone else see the stalker-ish behavior?

Answer 1

Yes this definitely sounds like he is a stalker. If he doesn't know where you live you are lucky. You should change your sn on all your accounts ( myspace/facebook/aim/etc) also try changing your phone number and advise your friends to do the same so they wont be harassed by him anymore either. If he does know where you live you should do all of the above and also take out a restraining order against him. he sounds like he is mentally unstable so don't do anything to anger him , use caution whenever you have contact with him . Think about changing your locks or putting additional locks on your doors/windows and take a self defense class or carry pepper spray/mace when in the street. I'm not trying to scare you but this guy sounds like he has the potential to be dangerous and its up to you to take Every precaution necessary to protect yourself. Best of luck.

Answer 2

Are you SERIOUS? You should NOT have went out with him in the first place. AND if a guy ever acts that creeeeeepy again PLEASE do not go on a second date with him! Especially alone in his apartment! VERY dangerous. You have to be careful, the world is full of crazies!!! Now you are finding out first hand. Personally I would call the cops, change your Myspace, Email, etc. and you and your sister change your phone numbers. Make all these things PRIVATE so not just everyone can find you. And use a fake name on myspace that only your friends will know. Good Luck with this. And get some mase and sleep with it under your mattress.

Answer 3

"I'm interested in him, so I don't reply."


If you're interested in him, why didn't you reply the first time?


Anyway, this is definitely "stalkerish" behaviour. You really need to learn how to just say no. Just don't reply if you're not interested, because when you do, things like THIS happen. He's obviously very interested in you though, and you should have told him you arent in the very beginning. The longer you wait to fix the problem, the harder it becomes to fix.

For now, all you can do is tell him to stop (if you haven't already), and at the first sign that he has no intentions of doing so, report him to the police. Don't make this mistake again.


Hope it all works out for you! :)

Answer 4

Yeah this is a classic case of the guy who just doesnt get it. To be honest, you sort of led him on when you went out with him the first two times. You knew his intentions and you shouldn't have even wasted your time with this creep. With that said, if this situation is too much for you, have the courts handle it. Get a restraining order, and if he tries to contact you (or your siblings) in any way, he'll have some explaining to do to the judge. But if you're not really scared of him, you can have your brother and yourself approach him and tell him to back off.

Answer 5

Stalker..big time. I hope you dont end up as a lifetime movie. But u really need to call the cops or someone. Or see if talking to him-on the phone and telling him how u really feel helps. This guy isn't gonna catch a hint unless u deliever a big one and that's what you need to do.

Answer 6

That is spooky. Very stalker!! Why did you go out with him again? I would change email and make myspace private. Don't answer phone calls. This guy is scary. Be careful. Good luck :)

Answer 7

You shouldnt have gone out on a date with him the 2nd time !!!!

Get rid of him and dont see him ever again . You should have slapped him for kissing you forcibly.

Tell him you are gonna call the cops. No pity anymore.

Answer 8

Okay, yeah. That's past creepy and onto just plain insane. And it has nowhere to go but down and no way to get but worse.

You need to straight up tell him that you aren't interested in him and if he doesn't back off, you're going to "take the proper steps" so he HAS to back off. Especially if you're giving him NO signals to work off of, which I assume you're not.

Or, go ahead and call your friendly neighborhood police department if you'd rather avoid the confrontation. You've definitely got some harassment issues there.

Good luck, and I hope it works out for you. :/

Answer 9

Yes. Stalking. Go to the police.

Radio personalities have to be very, very careful. There's a lot of crazies out there, and it sounds like you've found one.

(My future son in law is a DJ too, and he has also been stalked.)

Answer 10

Yes he is a stalker. A stalker isn't always someone who follows you, calls and hangs up, peeking in your house. This behavior is also someone who is a stalker. I doubt there is anything you can do about it though as he really hasn't threatened you, unless you left that part out.