2007-03-09 11:53:52 · 23 answers · asked by whiteangel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My husband and I are opposites. He is a worrier about things that you can't do anything about, and the rest and a pessimist, glass half empty and I only worry about things if they need to be fixed and can be. Then I make a plan and put it into operation. I am also an optimist, glass half full. I also am an organiser, he is slapdash, creating more work by not planning etc. We have no hobbies in common, have different friends and different interests. We have been together since we were 15, married 39 years, and love one another. That is the key. We would both fall over ourselves to stop the other getting hurt. We do things for one another that we know will please the other and make them happy. We care about each others feelings and listen to one another. Make compromises, you have to in any marriage, opposites or not, especially if you want it to last.
2007-03-09 12:54:44 · answer #1 · answered by ELIZABETH M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a life partner who is a retired attorney. He is quiet and mature. A Leo the Lion (astrology). He is also 85 years old. I am talkative and can talk a blue streak. I am 63 and Cancerian (July first, 1943). I also write volumes. I am extraverted. Outgoing; love people, lots of energy, &c. Well, our friendship works. Because we love and respect one another. We have been together for over forty-seven years. It is because we never "come in for the close-up" (meaning: we give each other a lot of personal space; we do not pick at each other) and we allow for our differences. Lots of respect for each other's right to privacy.
2007-03-09 12:12:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Whiteangel,
Of course it will work, all you gotta do is work at it, as any relationship always takes loving work, and just see the loving response you get, it's ok to talk with him, but not at him, you just may well become a nagging wife/G.F.
and you wouldn't want that would you Huh? and you never know, because if you say all the right things, he too may become just the same as you, and then you are in for some fun and loving times, enjoy all you do together......Bye, Tony M
2007-03-09 12:33:58 · answer #3 · answered by tony m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may find his quiet mature side also has an insecure and romantic element too, in that he may be tearful at times. This is not uncommon, but to admit to it is....that takes a hell of a special guy.
My guess is you are strong personality wise and maybe seen as flirtatious too. If he has a jealous streak your more likely to hurt him, than he will you. Yes dear, the relationship will work, as long as you ALLOW it. Dont be so strong as to be unapproachable.
2007-03-09 12:16:08 · answer #4 · answered by allseeingdi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to him? You need to get to know each other as people. Mabey he just acts quiet and mature around most people but you would get to know him as a really loveable person. It sounds like you need to spend some more time talking to him and getting to know him.
2007-03-09 11:59:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I am 1000% + million. zillion % it will if you love each other. I have a daughter who could be you and posting this question. Although I love her to bits she drives me crazy but her and her partner sound exactly like you and they are sooooooooooooo compatible it is unbelievable.! Enjoy the rest of your life together.
2007-03-09 12:18:02 · answer #6 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it always depends
but i dated a really quite not
real outgoing guy
we dated for 11 months
but i was finally bored of him
and really liked this other guy
soo i broke up with him.
im glad i did it too.
but i would try it out
and if it doesnt work
then at least you know it
wont and you gave it a chance.
2007-03-09 11:58:27 · answer #7 · answered by jaayy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this will turn out to be a very interesting relationship... Ü enjoy the ride... but, one thing i tell you, quiet people may seem to be quite mysterious as shallow water runs deep..
how long have you been dating?? this needs a room for getting to know stage.. Ü
hhmm... goodluck then to both of you... Ü
2007-03-09 12:52:15 · answer #8 · answered by yen yen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u wont know till u giv a try. so giv it a go and see. somtimes things of very oppsite nature can com 2gether, like a puzzle, its peices dont look the same at all but they go together perfectly.
2007-03-09 12:03:13 · answer #9 · answered by herimos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say opposites attract. Good luck.
2007-03-09 11:58:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋