My boyfriend has received texts and e-mails from a "good friend" of his that involved things as "I love you" and "you're my special someone". I asked him if he told her to stop, and he said he already dealt with it, but he still continued to get messages from her. I then found out he sent e-mails and texts to her saying things such as "I think about you everyday" and "I luv/love you" blah blah blah. He said he didn't mean those phrases in "that way" and he just says those to her 'cause she has told him she feels lonely/forgotten a lot (she used to live here and had a lot of friends here) and he just wanted to make her feel better.
So yeah...those messages kinda annoyed me. I told a friend about them and she said that's cheating. I mean, they really hurt me, but they're just texts.......What do you think?
2007-03-09 11:53:00 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh, and if it is considered cheating....should I feel justified in asking him to delete her off of messenger? Or not talking to her at all? I'm not interested in being a b*tch here... but still...?
2007-03-09 15:29:22 · update #1
If you believe that , I got some ocean front property to sell you in Arizona. Its obvious he is cheating, it might be hurtful to believe but you have to face the facts. If you stay in the relationship your only gonna get hurt worse. Time to lose him.
2007-03-09 11:59:31 · answer #1 · answered by Jim K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I have some first had experince with this one. My hubby does that too, but it is part of his personality. The big question is does he visit her. If he is then more than likely he is cheating, if not, chances are he is just trying to make her feel better and he should stop, because when you are with some one you don't talk to someone else like that.
2007-03-09 12:01:42 · answer #2 · answered by prettygirl14_2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is defiantly cheating that boy is bad he is going down the wrong road he is not going to have good relationships if he can't stop cheating on people I suggest breaking up and seeing other people he needs to get his priority's straight and fix his problems he means it when he says I love you to the "good friend" you need to tell him how you feel this relationship you have with him isn't going to go anywhere if you don't share your feelings you could call the girl and tell her how you feel and ask her basic questions...your boyfriend needs to understand how you feel and how much it is really bothering you before you even go further with this relationship.
2007-03-09 12:00:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
weird situation, I think you need to impress upon your BF that you totally dislike this whole situation and it makes you feel like he's cheating on you. If he is half the man that you think he is, he will respect your feelings and terminate the e-relationship. Just incase he isn't to brite, as guys aren't quite ofter in cases that involve feelings, tell him you want it to stop ASAP. Don't make any threats, but I would have in the back of your mind, that if he persists, that you just tell him to pack his bags and Go to her......you don't need that, you can do better and you certainly deserve better. Good Luck
2007-03-09 12:02:09 · answer #4 · answered by al b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it's not hardcore cheating but it definitely fits under the cheating category. Talk to him about it, and if he makes up somethin else or skirts around the truth, kick him to the curb. there are plenty of other available fine lookin fish out in the deep blue sea
2007-03-09 12:32:24 · answer #5 · answered by YinxSphinxmen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could understand messages like "I love you", but when it comes to the point when they are saying "I think about you everyday", that's when it gets kind of suspicious. But they could be just really good friends.
Honestly, if she lives far away, I don't think you have much to worry about. If your boyfriend starts losing interest in you, then it is time to worry...
2007-03-09 12:06:52 · answer #6 · answered by Tina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds a little like cheating to me, too.
Ask him if he's willing to stop texting and emailing her. If he says no, I'd really consider whether or not I'd put up with that.
2007-03-09 11:57:36 · answer #7 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thik those texts are PROOF that your boyfriend is being deceitful. Usually those indicators are a symbol of something beyond friendship.
Walk away, your boyfriend is obviously not mature enough to be honest and loyal to you. He has already PROVEN that.
2007-03-09 12:12:08 · answer #8 · answered by tito_swave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know that is very disrespectful to you. Regardless he should understand who is the more important person in his life and if he is not cheating he should really cut all communications off with her or be honest with you.
2007-03-09 12:00:59 · answer #9 · answered by Sinful_Nature 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes your boyfriend is cheating on you i think that you should talk to him first and then you schould talk to this gril.
2007-03-09 12:00:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋