I really want to have my niece as my flowergirl but she will only be two and half years old. I'm afraid that she won't be old enough by then to be in the wedding. She is unpredictable, you never know what she's going to do. Whether she'll go off and just blab nonsense (all cheerful and cute) or if she'll get scared and burst into tears from all of the guests. I honestly don't even know if she will do it. If by some chance she can't do it, my cousin's three year old can. The problem with that is, that my sister's already upset that my cousin is my maid of honor and not her... but then to go and change the flowergirls, she will be so angry! My sister keeps saying yeah that she'll be able to do it, but I believe that she is only saying that to see her daughter in the wedding. I really don't want any distractions and I want the wedding to go smoothly, but I don't know what to do. I really don't want my niece to start crying during the "any objections" part but really want her to be in it.
2007-03-09 11:52:25 · 18 answers · asked by July 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My daughter was 1.5 years old when she was my flower girl. She did a great job to. She held her little basket and walked right down the aisle. Have your sister wait for her at the end of the aisle to encourage her to keep walking. If you practice with her and make a really big deal of it *praise, clapping, treats* she should be o.k. with it on your wedding day. However she is a child and they can be unpredictable. Also just because the other choice is three doesn't mean she won't get upset or cry as well. I have seen eight year olds burst into tears. I say stay with your original choice.
2007-03-09 12:52:37 · answer #1 · answered by Riss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, it's your wedding!! So first, don't worry about other people. If you don't want distractions, tell your cousin, she should understand if she cares about you. Maybe you could have both girls as flowergirls? They each hold one side of a basket of slower petals. Or, perhaps your could practice with the 2 year old to see if she can handle it? I would suggest doing whatever makes you feel most confident that your big day will go off without a hitch, and simply and kindly apologize to anyone this upsets. Good luck and Congratulations!
2007-03-09 11:58:22 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet Pea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, if you're planning for perfection, make other plans. :-)
Seriously though, children are definitely unpredictable - but that's why they are so cute. Have you considered getting a decorated wagon and having someone pull her down the aisle? Maybe that someone could be your sister? Or, perhaps there is someone who will at least hold her hand.
In any event, once she gets to the altar (or in case she doesn't make it all the way), have your sister (or the child's father, grandmother, etc) scoop her up and be ready to keep control of her.
Try not to sweat the small stuff and keep an open mind and the wedding, and the wedding planning, wil be much more fun.
2007-03-09 12:56:33 · answer #3 · answered by weddingqueen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you work with her a little before the wedding she will be okay. I am getting married in July and my flower girl will only be 1 and a half. I know its risky but shes a big part of my life and even if she does back out of it at least she can still be in the pictures. It's your day so just follow your heart. If you really do not think she will do it then just talk to your sister about it, I am sure she will understand seeing how it is your big day! Goodluck and I hope all goes well!
2007-03-09 15:12:22 · answer #4 · answered by Pamela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put her in it. Even if she cries or messes up, it's better to have someone you love be a part of your wedding than to worry about what may or may not happen.
I have been to several weddings where the flower girl cried. No one cares. It's not like your guests are going to shame you if your flower girl cries. Shoot, I fell asleep in the front of the church during a wedding when I was a flower girl at age 2, and it's a great family story now.
Go with your heart on this one.
2007-03-09 11:57:23 · answer #5 · answered by kristikclark 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, I haven't seen a wedding go off without a hitch. You take it as it comes and don't stress over the little things. You probably won't remember half of it anyways. It goes by so quickly.
Having her as your flower girl will only liven up your wedding. She is someone special to you and those are the memories you will have of your special day. Friends & family surrounding you with their support & love. Good luck & just enjoy your day. Besides, the reception is the best part!
2007-03-09 12:13:46 · answer #6 · answered by Corky 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i suggest using both girls as your flowergirls. at a wedding i attended there were two adorable flowergirls, maybe one 3 yrs old and one 5 yrs old, and it worked out beautifully. so i think that if you give the girls enough practice, the 2 and a half yr old can do it!
2007-03-09 11:58:54 · answer #7 · answered by emma g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard of little ones being pushed in a stroller down the isle as a flower girl. I think you should let her be the flower girl and take it as it comes. Let her walk down the isle and if she makes it good, if not then people will think its cute either way. Don't have her stand the length of the ceremony let her sit with someone in the front row. It might be a good idea to have to walk to that person as she is walking down the isle so she doesn't get scarred.
2007-03-09 12:01:41 · answer #8 · answered by lazerangel99 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
do what I did had an older niece walk down with her, have the older one as the actual flower girl..throwing the flowers and all then the little one go and get one of those large Styrofoam balls and cover it with flowers and have a ribbon for a handle...
2007-03-09 13:18:44 · answer #9 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your cousins three years old as well so youll allways have one if not the two of them
and just say to your sister that her daughter of course will be going first ..........so then if any problems you still have a flower girl.
2007-03-10 00:16:22 · answer #10 · answered by bandan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋