Ok..So here goes. My fiance left me at 7 months pregnant to take a job 2000 miles away with his father..We was still together and then he called last month and broke it off with me. We was together for 7 years, I am 23 and he is 22. He treated me SO good. I know we both have our flaws. Now..He called me last week because he heard from a friend I had been seeing someone..Which I'm not and told him so but he still flipped out. He tells me 3 days ago that he just started "talking" to another girl...I am so hurt. I told him not to contact me again and I will see him when he comes down to see our son being born. He text msged me last night that he isn't happy without me. I didn't send him anything back because I feel like he is playing games with my head. I don't know why I still want him back but I won't let him know that. I just wonder how is it that easy for him to get over the love of his life and his unborn child?
2007-03-09 11:34:37 · 9 answers · asked by angelsdeath420 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We have had our share of ups and downs..Just like everyone I'm sure. Is he using this other girl to help him get over me? I just don't understand. I want to make us work..not just because of the baby but because I really love this BOY and he says that he loves me. I am hoping he will come to his senses...I want to let go but its really hard because I am so in love with him still. I have been busying myself with my babys room and concentrating on my son. Maybe he has more growing up to do? Any advice would be great, thanks.
2007-03-09 11:37:02 · update #1
It's hard to give up on love but he did so I guess I should.
Oh and he said I was the love of his life not I.
2007-03-09 11:43:31 · update #2
It seems like he is playing games!! I would wait and give this time to see how he really feels, I mean words without actions are empty and meaningless. I would look to my unborn child making sure that he has everything and is healthy, do not stress yourself over him, especially at this time you really do not need it. Guys understand a strong woman so be firm and show him that you are not into playing games. I think that he seems a bit immature, which is not good being that he is soon to be someones father, at that a baby Boy. Congratulations and stick to your values men can come and go, but your values, respect and Unborn son are way MORE IMPORTANT!!
2007-03-09 11:41:07 · answer #1 · answered by Breann 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope you all can kiss and make up because it sounds like you want to be with each other (especially having a kid together). A good thing not to do to each other is play the "I met someone new" game. That only make things worse. I think he's scared of being a father. If you were my sister, that would have set it off. He's not really a man if he can leave you like that. **** em. Be strong by yourself. Pray to God for help.
2007-03-09 19:42:52 · answer #2 · answered by South Beach 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First you need to not get yourself involved in all this drama for the health of you and your child. And that is exactly what you need to tell him. Stress can cause higher heart rates, premature labor etc....etc...
Second the major problem is exactly what you wrote: you love this BOY, he is young and immature, and probably scared of being a daddy.
You need to look forward to having that baby in your arms safely, not seeing him.
2007-03-09 19:40:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys are both young, it sounds like he's not ready for this type of commitment. Just concentrate on the baby and yourself... that is what is important now. Hang in there.
2007-03-09 19:46:28 · answer #4 · answered by kimmie315 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds like a real jerk. What kind of man would leave the mother of his child like that? I advise you to not have much contact with him. Keep in mind that if he is capable of leaving you once, it's very likely he will do it again.
2007-03-09 19:38:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is a boy not a man .
sometimes haveing a baby makes a man responsible and sometimes it doesn't.
in your case this guy still hasn't grown up yet.
just focus on u and ur baby ,at least u know that this baby will have unconditional love for u.
2007-03-09 19:44:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a guy for you . raise him/her yourself , your better off . He cant seem to make up his mind . And he wouldn't be treating you the way he is , if he cared about you .
Who's to say he comes back and then he leaves again .
2007-03-09 19:38:59 · answer #7 · answered by dolores h 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The "love of his life" oh please get over yourself. Men don't think like women. Why women keep thinking they do is beyond me.
Men get over women all the time, it's easy we are just wired that way. Fact is women count on it and you know it.
2007-03-09 19:41:13 · answer #8 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you both should go your separate ways, but he should mind his child when it is born.
2007-03-09 19:38:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anthony F 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋