my older sister inlaw is a serious psycho?

Question

actually all 3 of my sister inlaws a serious psychos how do i deal with them? my husband has told me in the begining that he wants all us to be best friends but that wasnt possible due to his sisters strange rude way of acting towards me for exp: older sis always mentioned his name when calling us. she spoke to others about me indirectly to my face(like disses)..and when i greeted her with a hello she was like yeah yeah hello when i said bye she was like why u telling me bye go i dont care..i stayed quiet cuz i was new,then she took us out to dinner(her brother but ofcourse he took me)when he went to get the car she attacked me by saying who do u think u r and i was shocked shes a b**, she seemed to have gassed her sis(who wasnt married living at home)about me so that sis outa nowhere started being so rude like slamming doors when i pass by the hall.says insults about me when passing

they used to say out loud "yeah just slap her and set her straight shes scared of us" days later they came to beat me up i was alone at home..my husband did defend me and stopped speaking to them but ofcourse family is family now hes so tight with his sisters as usual. but he doesnt defend me anymore why? now he keeps saying my mom and sis come first why?? he loves me but when it comes to his mom sis he will sell me to the streets over them why and how? he defended me b4 why not now?

what bothers me is he doesnt defend me does anyone know why he stopped sticking up for me?

Answer 1

Sounds like he is the only son and they don't want their Lil bro to be taken away from them!
The fact that he mentioned this to you says that he is aware of the fact so as long as you two guys are OK then ignore the Strange sister's!
They probably not Psychos Just over zealous that you are going to take their brother away from them!
They may well accept you guys being together after a while !
Just remember you can choose a partner but never choose their family.x. Good luck
P.s As long as he continues to choose you then you know you done the right thing!
P.P.s he will always stay close to his family so don't take it out on him! It's their fault or insecurities not his!

Answer 2

You can't put your family above your wife - in such a dramatic situation as this, it is really impossible to misinterpret what is going on . Your sisters in law are bullying you and your husband is cooperating. One thing you can do is think up replies to every single diss they give you and diss them back. If they even try to 'beat you up', that's a 911 call right there and put their asses in jail. Give them plenty of fair warning that you are not their punching bag but tell your husband that first, and mean it.
Your husband may have been bullied all his life by these bee-yatches. So what is he going to do now?
When she says, 'Why are you telling me bye, go, I don't care' try to have an answer ready, like, 'Because I have manners' and leave it at that.
Taking the high road or matching them diss for diss with class will drive them wild. With luck, they will leave you alone. Then the next step would be that they would start inviting your husband to family things and making sure that you are left out. At that point, you have to stand strong. Enjoy being left out. Let it be his choice. If he starts reacting to the poison they spread about you and dissing you in your private life, realize that he is weak and no amount of your strength is going to make him stronger. You could suggest couples counseling but if he says no to that, just take that as your signal that the marriage is over. Never be bullied by his family and never be bullied by him - that is something that won't stop when it is in your private life.

Answer 3

A very strange situation and only your husband can tell you why he is not now sticking by you. Does other people get on with your sister-in-laws? Could it be that you have unintentionaly intimidated them in some way and they are actually thinking this about you? There's a lot of sorting out to be done between you and your husband first of all. Not saying you will but you could hear some things you don't like about yourself and if so you must seriously ask yourself if there is the tiniest bit of truth in what he says (if he says). If you are convinced there is absolutely no way you have acted anything but decent towards them then the time has come to cut yourself off from them completely, what you don't see or hear can't touch you. More concerning to me is your husbands part in this. You can't stop him visiting family but you should ensure the majority of his free time is spent with you, not the other way round.

Answer 4

What a massive problem.

Can you ask your hubby why your in laws have a downer on you? Do they think you stole him from the family?

Is there a family background as in cultural requirement for him to act in a certain manner? Is he 'head ' of the family?

Can you ask him how you can improve your relationship with his sisters and mother, rather than ask why he doesn't defend you?

Are there expectations of you you are unaware of?

Just a few ideas to think about, do go carefully and find a good really close trust worthy friend to chat to who absolutely wont gossip. You need a sounding board somewhere close.

Answer 5

Okay, when you are married your mother is no longer the main woman in your life, your wife is. He took vows that he would leave all others and "cleave to his wife". Mom and Dad are the family we have when we are children and Husband, Wife, and Children are the family we have when we are adults. It is his duty as a husband to allow no harm to come to you as a result of in law issues. Even Dr. Phil told his son, "Don't you ever speak that way to MY WIFE!"

If the in laws are making you uncomfortable, you are supposed to tell him and he isn't supposed to side with them and leave you living life all alone. This man isn't a child anymore. What his sisters are doing isn't cute and he should not be accepting it in any way, shape, or form. How much of this you take is up to you but, I would be making my feelings on the subject known and he would be choosing who he wants to spend the rest of his life with - his sisters or you.

Answer 6

i think you should wait until your husband and his sisters are in the room. then, in a calm and non threatening fashion ask them straight, what it is you have done to have them treat you this way. site dates and times of particular upsetting incidents.if your husband is not beside you on this, then i am so sorry but he is not worth being with. you need to take a deep breath and ask yourself if you really want to spend the rest of your life being with a man that would sit idly by and allow you to be abused. good luck

Answer 7

Why would you want to stay in a marriage where you are treated this way? If your husband doesn't stick up for you when they treat you like this he is not any better than they are. You deserve to be treated with respect and if they can't do that then I would be moving on and finding me someone who does treat me that way. Life is to short to have to live that way , you deserve to be happy and to be treated with common decency.

Answer 8

I have four sisters and one brother. Sorry to say but we just find that no ones good enough for our brother. I can't say why but I'm never that rude. Just not approving. two of our sisters are that rude though. Can't say what you can do to change this. But your husband should be sticking up for you. Our bro does for his chicks

Answer 9

I have a sis in law justt like yours lol. I just told her to stay away from me and I would do the same to her. We dont speak and when we see each other it hi and thats it. I have learned to just ignore stupid ppl and their remarks. I just stay away from my sis in law. My husband understands and is very supportive of my decisions. She is also not welcome in our home or our lives till she can show me respect. Just stay away from her

Answer 10

I don't think your sis in law is a phycho but I think she has serious issues. Maybe she needs counselling. You should stay away from her. If you want to be safe from her harassment. TEll your hubby about it.